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to not belive a baby can dislocate its shoulder struggling in a buggy

56 replies

Thinkmummy · 19/08/2014 20:39

I try not to judge other parents each family has its own way of bringing up their child but this really got me angry.

my stepbrother who is a lot younger than me (20) had a one night stand girl got pregnant at 17. when she came to him saying it was his dna test was paid for and turned out was his. he has a lot of involvement with her although won't change her happy gets my mum or his mum to do that. which yes i do judge.

but what happened with baby's mum really miles me apparently 14 month old wouldn't get in her buggy so mum pushed her in held her down and baby dislocated shoulder from trying to get out. personally i don't think this could happen and think it was down to mum being a bit too forceful when strapping her in am i jumping to conclusions? or can this easily happen?

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musicalendorphins2 · 19/08/2014 22:50

The baby could be hyper-mobile. Is your step brother or his baby's mother flexible?
Something to be looked into if similar things happen again.

TondelayoSchwarzkopf · 19/08/2014 22:54

My mum dislocated my shoulder putting my coat on when I was a toddler.

PhaedraIsMyName · 19/08/2014 22:57

I really have no idea beyond the fact a friend of mine has some sort of weird thing which makes his shoulder randomly dislocate with very little effort or force so it's not unheard of.

TwoHeadedDolphin · 19/08/2014 22:59

My friend dislocated her baby's shoulder playing with her in bed in the morning. A&E said it is Avery common injury.

bopoityboo3 · 19/08/2014 23:02

My mum dislocated my shoulder putting a cardi on me when I was a toddler I wasn't even fighting her it just popped out of place. These things do happen but if you have other worries you should flag it up.

Babiecakes11 · 19/08/2014 23:03

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WorraLiberty · 19/08/2014 23:03

personally i don't think this could happen and think it was down to mum being a bit too forceful when strapping her in am i jumping to conclusions? or can this easily happen?

See the thing is, you're asking if this can easily happen, but not everything that happens, happens easily if that makes sense?

What I'm trying to say is, no matter what anyone on this thread says, you still won't know who (if anyone) was to blame.

I went to school with a girl who regularly dislocated her shoulder, and when I met up with her as an adult she told me she'd even dislocated it in Next...trying on a top that was a bit too tight.

So who (here) really knows?

SchroSawMargeryDaw · 19/08/2014 23:05

My shoulders dislocate when I cough, sneeze, sleep on it, move the wrong way... I have Ehlers Danlos Syndrome and it's not as rare as some think.

So yes, it's possible and I wouldn't judge just yet.

TheFairyCaravan · 19/08/2014 23:08

It took a hefty rugby tackle to dislocate DS2's shoulder and he's hypermoblie.

PandasRock · 19/08/2014 23:11

I dislocated my shoulder holding my hand up in class to answer a question.

And one of my earliest memories is of dislocating my knee when I was about 2.5, and it wasn't the first time it had happened as I knew what to do to stop it hurting.

Extreme hyper mobility is common. I have honestly lost count of the number of dislocations I have had during my life.

AnnieLobeseder · 19/08/2014 23:11

I dislocated DD1's arm taking her school shirt off. The nurse at A&E reassured me that kids dislocate stuff all the time as their joints aren't fully formed.

So I wouldn't judge unless there were other reasons for concern.

meltedmonterayjack · 19/08/2014 23:20

I have Ehlers Danlos syndrome as does dd. I can dislocate my hip just by sitting on the floor and leaning too far forward. I can dislocate my thumb just holding a not particularly heavy carrier of shopping. DD's hips also dislocate with v little provocation. So I'd have to say it is possible to dislocated a shoulder in this way. Whether there's a possible medical concern or whether the Mum was too rough either deliberately or accidentally, there needs to be someone to keep an eye out here.

TondelayoSchwarzkopf · 19/08/2014 23:44

I don't get why the one night stand information is relevant.

HavanaSlife · 19/08/2014 23:46

Yes it's possible

HavanaSlife · 19/08/2014 23:48

Oh and what does the mothers age have to do with it

Thebodyloveschocolateandwine · 19/08/2014 23:49

Happens very frequently op.

My dds both did it easily as toddlers.

Suprised posters think it's so rare.

SistersOfPercy · 19/08/2014 23:53

Dd and I have eds, dd dislocated a shoulder by picking up a pile of books, I often wake up with dislocated fingers.
Sometimes a joint is so mobile it can click in and out with ease.

Eds isn't always picked up in young children, I was mid thirties before someone actually put a name to something I'd had all my life.

It's perfectly possible so yabu, sorry.

deakymom · 19/08/2014 23:54

can happen easily do you have any other concerns?

Naoko · 19/08/2014 23:57

Certainly possible, I'm hypermobile and have dislocated a shoulder doing something as wildly irresponsible as getting out of bed in the morning before.

However, if you think something's not right, you know what to do - report it to someone.

SistersOfPercy · 20/08/2014 00:05

You have my sympathy Naoko, my morning problem is my left ankle, cracks back into place as soon as I stand.

It sounds odd to say that hypermobile people can dislocate doing simple things, shoulders are especially susceptible to heavy shopping bags, you lift and it's out. Must of us can pop things back in ourselves and people with normal joints would be none the wiser (at this point though I apologise to the woman in the pound land queue who gave me the cats bum face when I popped my thumb back, sorry, it's normal for me so I forget you'll find it a bit unnerving)

Idontseeanyicegiants · 20/08/2014 00:55

Well I can dislocate one of my fingers on each hand whenever I feel like doing it weird party trick and my niece dislocated her elbow trying to catch her balloon as it floated away at the age of 2. Neither of us have ever been diagnosed as hyper mobile or as having any condition. The Doctor who treated her told her parents that small children are extremely prone to dislocations.
Are there any other concerns?

meltedmonterayjack · 20/08/2014 07:58

It's really surprising how many people have EDS. I thought dd and I had something fancy and rare but seems like that's not the case. Mine wasn't picked up till I was in my late 40's after a lifetime of sprains, dislocations, tendonitis, joint/muscle pain and skin that bruises like an over-ripe peach. Mine was picked up when dd's was diagnosed. And that wasn't till she was in her mid 20's. She is like something out of Cirque de Soleil she's so ridiculously bendy. The pair of us often lean over and hear a massive clunking sound of a joint moving out of it's awnings.

5madthings · 20/08/2014 08:03

Well I dislocated ds1's arm getting him dressed when he was s toddler, he just wiggled and pulled away from me ad I was putting his arm in his top. I felt awful but the hospital Saud it was very common so these things happen,

Tantrumming toddlers can be very strong.

I don't see her age as s mum is relevant nor the one night stand.

sashh · 20/08/2014 08:09

On a similar thread I'm sure a couple of people on here have done the thing where two people hold a child's arms and the child swings between them, all good fun but can dislocate shoulders.

BathshebaDarkstone · 20/08/2014 08:37

YANBU, but I think they'd be keeping an eye on things. Smile

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