Ds was invited to a party (reception year) ages ago. Party is at 4-6 tomorrow afternoon. We accepted the invite.
Dh has now come back from PiL and announced that brother in law is having a BBQ tomorrow afternoon for niece's birthday, she's 27 by the way so not a child.
Dh wants me to text party invite mother and say ds can no longer go. I don't think this is very fair. Besides which BBQ will be full of adults getting drunk and no other children and ds will get bored. It will be too late to go afterwards as wouldn't get there before 8ish and ds has school on Monday.
Aibu to think we have accepted the invite so should go? Dh's family is huge and there's always something or another of theirs to go to so it's not like we never see them, in fact I don't think we've missed anything else ever. I've suggested popping round beforehand with a present and to say happy birthday, but apparently this isn't good enough.
AIBU?
To think we've accepted the invite so ds should go to this party?
Sleepswithbutterflies · 12/07/2014 18:25
"I just want a second child. Very very badly."
Do you want it so badly that you are willing to shut your eyes to red flags and warning signs? 
You have a husband who would rather go drinking with his family than allow his son to go to a much-anticipated party.
You have in-laws who perhaps like to run your life? (^"Dh's family tend to think that what they want is what should happen. They will probably sulk if we don't all go.)
And you are expressing yourself in such clipped tones that suggest to me that you are barely keeping a lid on your fury at this situation.
So there we were thinking the DH's family were also twats because the DH said they would sulk if OP and her family didn't go to the BBQ, when actually they were fine with it. They probably understood that with such short notice it was inevitable some people wouldn't be able to come.
That still leaves the bell-end of a DH, though 
Not bad form at all, clam. I just wish I had searched myself .
Sleepswithbutterflies, given the financial abuse you are experiencing, I would really reconsider your position. You are only 31, do not abandon yourself to a life with this utter, utter tosser. He does not see you as an equal, he sees you as a domestic appliance; to care for his child and to chauffeur him about as a lord and master should be 
. And your son has a similar priority to him; less important than alcohol .
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