Dd left at nursery part 2

[lookingfortheanswer]

Hi,

I am still here and reading, thanks for the advice and opinions. I will update properly in the morning, just thought I should start a new thread.

We haven't gone to the press yet, and nobody has shared on Facebook so not sure where that came from.

The nursery have been in touch and said they will be telling parents (because ofsted require them to) so that is good. Although I imagine the papers will get hold of it now once all the parents know. sigh

[JohnFarleysRuskin]

There was an incident at dc preschool. First thing manager did was call Ofsted, then sent a letter outlining incident (no names) then held a meeting. The transparency was great and no one left and it did not get in the papers.

In your case, the fact that earlier they wouldn't tell the parents suggests they really don't know correct procedures. hope you are ok, op. what a shock.

[Sigyn]

I really don't see that sounding off on here means that the OP should expect media involvement. She hasn't given any details at all, its possible to work out that she's in England (because of OFSTED) but that's it. She really has not invited media attention.

She must also have been on an absolute rollercoaster of emotion this last 24 hours and I think is entitled to chop and change, eg with whether she wants media involvement.

[wheresthelight]

dontlaugh what is your problem with the word hun exactly?

[puntasticusername]

I agree, Sigyn, it just sounded a note of incongruity with me that the OP should share the most salient points of the story with mn and then act surprised that anyone "else" might find out about it.

I guess what I'm saying is - OP, be careful. It's often easy to feel, on Internet forums, that you are sharing stories with a particular, intimate community of your own choosing. That isn't always the case, necessarily. to you, the situation you have described is just awful.

[Aeroflotgirl]

That's good looking. All you can do is just let Ofstead and LEA do their bit. Hope you find dd snitch suitable setting soon, glad she is ok

[Cerisier]

I hope you have had an apology from the nursery. It sounds a very sloppy place and if it is to survive I suspect it should make a lot of changes to procedures in order to keep the children safe and the parents reassured.

[KeatsiePie]

Just saw the other thread. So glad your DD was okay. I'm sorry some posters were nasty, I hope you weren't upset by it. MN seems a little off right now.

[Dontlaugh]

Wheresthelight, it is generally referred to on this particular site in reference to another parenting site (netm*ms) which is not held in high regard here. Use, or over use, of the term "Hun" is generally given an an example of how not to address fellow posters. It's shallow, text speak and in general diminishes both the poster and postee. It's a bit like a grown man referring to a work colleague as a "girl".

[TheDoctrineOfSnatch]

Again, nursery probably followed Ofsted advice with respect to communications.

OP, glad you got through today, each day will be a little easier.

[wheresthelight]

Oh for heavens sake how ridiculous! It's a colloquialism and a term used in everyday life. People need to get over themselves

[brdgrl]

wheresthelight, don't worry about it. It's true that there is a general lack of 'hugs' and 'huns' on here, but also true that you are free to speak to people with kindness and to be your genuine self on this site. And also true that some situations call for hugs and huns, even on MN.

Being fascistic about people's language seems just as contrary to the ethos of the place, really. Hasn't this thread (part 1 anyway) seen enough nastiness and "I'm more mumsnetty than you" absurdity?

[ChasedByBees]

Another one sending you virtual support OP.

[NeedsAsockamnesty]

Well I'm quite comfortable to offer the op hair stroking,hugs and if calling her Hun makes her feel better then I'm happy to do so.

And I don't really give a shit what anybody else thinks sometimes in life certain situations warrant it wheresthe feel free to join me

[TakemedowntoPotatoCity]

Hear hear brdgrl

Mocking the use of Hun is incredibly cliquey.

Hope you are ok OP.

[wheresthelight]

Thanks ladies!!

I hope the op is ok and that hj

[wheresthelight]

Sorry bloody ohone posted all by itself!

I hope the op and her daughter are ok! Such a terrifying experience for them both.

[KatieKaye]

Glad the nursery is finally going to tell parents. Sad that they had to be compelled to do this.
Hope you are all ok

[minibmw2010]

I think 'finally' tell the parents is a little harsh. This only happened on Monday evening? Today is now Wednesday morning. I assume they have protocols they have to follow.

It is quite likely the press will pick it up somehow so you should make a decision whether you want to be a part of that or not I guess.

[PurpleAlert]

Can someone link me to the original thread please ?

[Sigyn]

I actually do not think that in all of this, a poster using the word "hun" is the biggest issue.

[Feenie]

Not sure about that - it's a slippery slope, you know.

[Feenie]

[FunLovinBunster]

Hello OP
I read the original thread. I am sorry and appalled to hear that this has happened to your daughter, and that this incident is fully investigated. Like other posters here, just wanted to offer support and to wish you and your daughter well.

[FruitbatAuntie]

Going back to the original thread, just before the end someone posted:

'When DD2 started a new (otherwise lovely) nursery, I was horrified to find that little round brightly coloured magnets about half an inch in diameter were included in the toys for the toddlers. They could easily have been swallowed by a child and looked like sweets. '

When DS1 was three, he told me that 'I swallowed a toy, Mummy' on the way home from nursery. He then burst into tears as he was scared he would get in trouble. I rang the nursery who told me they had all been playing with the magnets you mention - cue total panic dash to A&E and an x-ray to see how many of them he had swallowed. Fortunately, it was just the one, and it was small, so no harm done.

The nursery were mortified, kept ringing me all night to check on DS, apologised in writing to me and also removed all the magnets from the nursery.

OP, I hope your DD is doing okay. Glad you got some positive action from everyone so far.

[Sigyn]

at feeny

You mean its a gateway word?