AIBU or is this what I have to get used to?

[CeliaFate]

It's a mother's day moan. My dc are 13 and 11. They've bought me nothing, that's fine. Dh bought me my card and chocolates. Dd has made me a card - lovely.
Ds signed his name on the card - no message, just his name.
Both children ignored requests from dh to make me breakfast, to do some chores like dishwasher and wiping kitchen surfaces.
Dd eventually put porridge in the microwave for me then went back to bed.
Ds is on the xbox.
Dh has told them both off for being lazy.
Happy mother's day to me.

[Caitlin17]

Are you actually serious? You really care about this? I could understand if it were your birthday but Mothers' Day? What is the big deal?

[CeliaFate]

He's 11 and if at that age he can write a newspaper article, a story, a letter and a poem, then I don't think "Happy mother's day love from..." is too much to ask is it?
Yes Caitlin17 I do care about Mother's day, seeing as I'm you know, a mother.

[Caitlin17]

I'm a mother too. Still ridiculous.

[CailinDana]

Yes I think it is too much to ask only because he's young and can't be expected to get it right all the time. Of all people I would expect a parent to forgive things not being perfect when it comes to their DCs. You know he's a good lad and you love him. He tried. Ok it fell short of a certain standard one generally expects of cards but really does it matter? He's your baby! Give him a hug and thank the stars he's there and well and giving you rubbish cards.

If ever my DCs do something not quite right then I see it as my responsibility to teach them to do better. If you feel good card writing is important (and I would agree that it is) then take some time in the next few weeks to teach him it.

[CeliaFate]

Caitlin17 Oh well if YOU think it's ridiculous, that's ok then. Glad to know you'd understand if it was my birthday. Clearly you've never heard of empathy.

[Marylou62]

Celia...don't get involved in the negative posters...I think I have been accused of sulking? I never said I sulked...I said I went a bit quiet...If I haven't been accused of sulking then I apologise profusely!! Celia, you have every right to feel a bit miffed...I support you 100%.

[Marylou62]

And to actually answer your original post...No it wont always be like this. I rang my DM and asked her! She said that she had some very disappointing MD presents (a casserole dish!) but now we are all adults she is often bought to tears by our thoughtfulness.

[Nocomet]

For pretty much the first time ever, bar an absolutely crazy cake they bribed DH into helping with my two DDs have done a superb job.

They are 13&16 and I took them to town with orders not to spend a fortune and to pol their resources if that got better value.

The result a lovely 3D card and a gift bag with some siap and glory body wash (3,4,2 Boots) so they have something each too and a chocolate something off each of them from the posh shop. Oh and designer tags that I have a craft project for.

Absolutely perfect and 1000x less painful than asking DH.

As for chores, DD1 did lunch, DD2 still hasn't put her washing away and I'm not noticing today.

[fairyfuckwings]

Hope your day got better!

I had a lovely day. Didn't get my bollinger though . Tight twat bought me moet. Still drank it though just to be sure I like it less than bollinger!

Also did a full Sunday lunch for 10. And then sat back and got pissed with mum and sister whilst everyone else (non mothers) cleared up. Happy days!

[KellyElly]

I don't have teenagers, my DD is four. She's usually pretty well behaved but has been naughtier than she has in a long time all day. The best part if Mother's Day was putting her to bed I feel your pain OP.

[brainwashed]

My 13 year old DS bought me some jelly babies :-) 17 year old DS nothing...trying not to be disappointed but I am :-(

[Nanny0gg]

When you go to the supermarket, do you buy them little 'extras' that they really like?
Do you cook their favourite tea even if you don't fancy it?
Do you go out of your way to ferry them about?
Do you have open house for their friends?
Do you wash something that they need now?

Etc etc...

[Optimist1]

I know you want them to do something off their own bat, OP, but they obviously need a robust nudge. How about waiting till nearer to Fathers' Day and then having a word with them about what's expected. "Breakfast in bed for Dad. A card from each of you. Gift not necessary. We'll take him out to a nice lunch." or similar. Non-negotiable. When Mothers' Day 2015 is approaching you can remind them of what you planned for FD 2014 and with a bit of luck some of it will come to pass!

[MomOfTwoGirls2]

I would tell them that you were disappointed and that you hope they will a better effort next year.