AIBU to refuse OH's name choices?

[ATotallyOriginalUserName]

OH likes the names Dahlia pronounced 'Dah-lee-ah' and Scarlett... He also wants the middle names to be Rose for either name choice. For me, these are far too unusual whereas I'm more of a heard of name person.
Myself liking Charlotte and Katie.

AIBU to completely disagree with those two name choices? (He is getting surname same as his) or should I maybe "try" to like them? What are your opinions on them anyway?

[squoosh]

Caitlin always sounds a bit Irish American to me. A bit cheesy.

[JohnCusacksWife]

Of course there are fashions in names but I'm not sure that's a good reason to choose one. Sharon and Tracey were common in the 70s....not many would pick them now. I just think some parents pick names for "unusual" factor without thinking about whether the name will suit the child for the rest of its life.

There is a story in Glasgow, although I can't say for definite whether it's true, of a little girl named Pocahontas after the Disney film. I mean did her mother really think that one through. The story goes her second name was McGowan......

[squoosh]

But 99% of people are led by fashion when choosing names whether they realise it or not. That's why so many girls are called Sophie/Ruby and so many boys are called Harry/Oliver. They're in fashion.

Who knows how names will be viewed in 30 years time. Tracy was originally considered quite a stylish name, the name of Grace Kelly's character in High Society. All those parents who picked it in the 70's chose it because they liked it. They didn't know it would become the naffest of naff names.

[Caitlin17]

squoosh your are right about it being Irish . I'd always
assumed it was Welsh because of Caitlin Thomas. I don't think it is cheesy.

[Caitlin17]

My real name, when given to me although very pretty , was very unusual, not after any one famous ( whether real or fictional) and not in the least bit fashionable. By the time I was in my 6th year (last secondary year in Scottish schools) There was a mini me in year 1 at secondary and 2 more mini mes in the primary classes.

[MusicalEndorphins]

When I hear the names Dahlia and Scarlett together, the film Black Dahlia starring Scarlett Johansson pops into my mind.
That said, I do love the all of the names your husband choose.

[Caitlin17]

I'm honestly not being big headed there was literally no one else in our largeish village who had my name when my mother named me.

[squoosh]

Well you're lucky, I always had a few with my name in my class!

[MusicalEndorphins]

Di-Di, Dee, dolly, dilly and Lili or Lele (pronounced lee lee), are all short for Dahlia.
For Scarlett, what comes to my mind is Red, or Letty but I wouldn't shorten such a nice name. I guess some kids may call her scar face, if they are mean.

[EllenJanesthickerknickers]

Funny the post about Caitlin being easy to pronounce. Many pronounce it the US way, Katelynne but I always though it was the Irish Kathleen, pronounced Catleen.

[kerala]

Not picking over used dull names doesn't mean you advocate ridiculous names. There are thousands of decent proper names that weirdly are under used in our generation. Forget lily grace Charlotte overdone. But tess Zoe Mary fab names rarely used.

[Dillydollydaydream]

Go on
named together

It will give you a list of names you both like. I used it when I was expecting dc4.
Very handy website.

[FleecyFeet]

I find Charlotte dull, the others are ok. I think you just have to keep working on the list until you find names you both like.

[JohnCusacksWife]

Squoosh, that's the point I'm making....choosing an "in" name does run the risk that it will seem very dated later on. Tracey's a good example.

I freely admit I'm a bit of a name snob but I just think names are so important. They are loaded with meaning and a parent should think about whether a name will be a help or a hindrance to their child during their life. Not just about whether its trendy or different.

[Fairy1303]

How about delila? Would appeal to OH's Dahlia tendencies but it could be Lila for short which is a bit more common?

I think Mallory is underused in the UK...

Lily? Penny, rosie

I do like Caitlyn.

I have a friend who's daughter is Caitlyn and they call her cait (kate) for short.

[MeepMeepVrooooom]

Make sure that it goes with the surname and that you don't end up with a comedy acronym. DD2 was nearly HRT.

My daughter is LSD

[Megrim]

We stuck with sensible biblical names for the boys (no, not Ichabod or Dodo or Zebedee), as they don't really date.

You could choose a more unusual first name and a more traditional middle name (or vice versa) so that the child can choose which one they prefer?

I remember a news story where people in the US had chosen "Unique" as a baby name, there were lots of them so rather defeated the purpose.

[thenamestheyareachanging]

Scarlett Rose is ridiculous. Dahlia nice enough. I wouldn't go with Katie or Charlotte, there will be a million of them. I have a very common name anxd always thought my parents xcouldn't be bothered to think up anything better, or original.

[thenamestheyareachanging]

Delia is even nicer and less unusual. Delia Rose is beautiful.

[thenamestheyareachanging]

But YANBU to refuse a name choice you don't like!!

[RufusTheReindeer]

Separate lists and compare

I had 30 on my list, DH had 6. Two on each list were the America so we picked one

That was for child number 3, child number 1 had been picked since we were 18

[Caitlin17]

Scarlett on its own is fine, Rose on its own is lovely but Scarlett Rose is ridiculous.

Caitlyn with a "y" is awful as are all names with creative spelling.

[Caitlin17]

My son's acronym is PGT. It could be worse. In fairness to us we are very much a loose tea household and thought nothing if when we tried it out.

One of our juniors is OMG. Obviously 25 years ago it meant nothing.

[LittleBearPad]

There are loads of Scarlett's about at the moment.

No one will pronounce Dahlia like he wants. Poor child will spend her life correcting people.

Charlotte/Katie are nice