Ah, she is lovely, really lovely, but has the illness that the heel prick test tests for (not putting the name of it so that this doesn't appear when the word is googled, obviously!) So she's a little more delicate physically than a healthy person.
No, she didn't need two daddies to collect her but I thought it was nice my DH wanted to go with her Dad to get her - there was no public transport option from where she was, and she hasn't passed her driving test yet.
Why am I worried about getting it wrong? Well,I have a fantastic set of parents-in-law who have treated me brilliantly or the last 22 years. My mother, however, isn't overly welcoming and friendly, and has not even reciprocated once when my mil sent my mother a Christmas card for ten years on the trot - my mothers only response being "why do I want to get into doing THAT" when I asked her why she doesn't respond. My parents don't make "outsiders" (their term not mine!) welcome, and it is very difficult to be there with the stilted, stiff, formal atmosphere that pervades the whole occasion. My lovely FIL finally told me how unwelcome they felt at one of my children's christening because my family didn't even speak to them, and I was absolutely determined that there was no way we were ever going to be like that. My DH has not felt comfortable in the presence of my parents/family at all, and despite trying to initiate conversation with them all, says they just don't seem to care. Which is true, they don't.
So, when DS and FDIL became serious we talked (DH and I) and both said we wanted to meet and get to know HER parents, and that she was no different to one of our children, I have three sons and all of them are house trained, can cook, clean, wash, iron, there's no way I am going to have a DIL turning to me and saying that they are useless in the house, lol. There's also no way that they will feel any less welcome here than they do in their own homes, or at her parents.
In 22 years we have never been invited for a meal at my parents home unless it has been an occasion - and if you are there for a visit, you can't put the kettle on or feel in any way "at home". It's awful, and needless to say means we don't particularly like going. My family simply cannot understand why we are treating FDIL as one of the family, and my mother keeps saying "Why on earth are you seeing THEM" (About her parents) when she knows we're going out with them again, or I'm meeting her mum for coffee, or whatever.
The girl my son chooses to marry is absorbed into the family in every way, and her parents too should they wish to be. I don't want another generation feeling the way me and DH do. Yes, I've talked to my mother about her attitude, and she can't see why it bothers me. She treats my sister and BIL the same too, it's just the way she is. Nothing to do with her not having money, my parents are more than comfortable financially and always will be. It is simply the way they are, and it isn't something I ever wanted for my kids. DH and I are very different, thank goodness, to the way my parents are.
Golly that's turned out long and probably not very clear at all!!!