AIBU to ask in what way have I harmed my baby by not bf?

[LostMarbles99]

Before my baby arrived I decided I was going to ff. Ds is 10 months now and I still get little pangs of regret that I didn't try to bf.

There have been lots of threads on here recently about bf/ff and one person said how they felt so sad the baby didn't even get the first feed from its mother.

I totally get that some people cant bf but I didn't even try. Was this really wrong of me? Be honest?

[WorraLiberty]

Ziggers your subsequent lemon curd posts have done nothing to help your case here

[Ilanthe]

Rather a cocktail of vaccinations than a cocktail of diseases.

[AgentZigzag]

I was EBF if that makes a difference worra?

[BaronessBomburst]

No! Lemon curd should always be in a sandwich with white bread and butter.

[elfycat]

I was formula fed and you know what, apart from the bastard cold virus, I'm pretty damned healthy. DM didn't try (40+ years ago) as she has inverted nipples and she didn't want to. She slammed the door in the HV's face when her first question was 'Are you feeding her properly yet?'.

High fives Mum!

I'm sure they've been tweaking the recipe for formula in the last 40+ years and it'll be good stuff. I did BF but I'm pro-choice. You made a choice and you had your own reasons. Believe in them and don't regret it. Having a mother who was happy (and possibly able to hand over a feed for a nap) would have had its own benefits for your DS.

[BlingBang]

Haven't had lemon curd for over 20 odd years - can you still buy it?

[SunriseSurprise]

Bizzarly as it may seem my formula fed & unvaccinated 7 & 5 yr old have never been 'diseased' enough to even require an anti biotic yet.

[elfycat]

And lemon curd? Goes nicely with peanut butter in a sandwich. Toasted or otherwise.

OP you now have to wean on lemon curd.

And marmite, never too soon for marmite!

[Goldmandra]

Lemon curd on fresh tiger bread.

That IMO is the ONLY way to eat it.

[AgentZigzag]

'And lemon curd? Goes nicely with peanut butter in a sandwich. Toasted or otherwise.'

Now that is weird, clag city

[SunriseSurprise]

Yes, as pp said I'm sure formula is so much better than it was years ago. My nan bf all 10 (!!) of her children, they were no healthier/more robust or less susceptible to illness than ff peers. And to be fair, my nan said it was a necessity for costs to bf as much as the convenience it brought!!

[elfycat]

Wow the first time I have ever been called weird - not!

[BlingBang]

Sunrise - woud you feel so confident if everyone else had chosen not to vaccinate and all these diseases still ran rampant?

[AgentZigzag]

But you're right elfy, they're always ready for buttery marmite toasty soldiers.

My mouth's watering now.

[elfycat]

Ohh. Agent now I feel the need to boil an egg.

...must.....wait......for.....morning.........

[Goldmandra]

According to my DD, lemon curd makes a passable substitute for ketchup when you've run out of the red stuff. Good with sausages apparently.

Should I try it on my bacon earnie in the morning.

[AgentZigzag]

Bloody hell Bling, don't be introducing vaccination argy bargy into the mix.

I'm going to start talking about how crap my MIL is if you persist.

[BaronessBomburst]

BF v FF
Vaccinations
Marmite

All on one thread and now with lemon curd.

[BlingBang]

You are right, being a naughty Bling so off to bed must I go!

[BlingBang]

But Marmite tis EVIL!

[BaronessBomburst]

The Robinson's golly probably

[TheBigJessie]

Whatever the benefits of breastfeeding are on a populational level, there are absolutely no benefits to second-guessing your decision ten months later.

You undoubtedly have a gorgeous ten month old (I say undoubtedly because it's a very cute age!) There's a whole host of different things you should be making yourself miserable about! There's actually an official schedule* that says what you should be worrying about and when. Do you not have a copy?


Let's see, I've got you down for a whole list of stuff here! Have you worried about your child's ability to smear artisan foodstuffs into the wall yet? Get with the program!

*this is a lie

[elfycat]

There are benefits to BF (to return to the original point in case the OP gets through the lemon curd) not least of which is a very portable comforter (mother).

Yes there is the immunisation effects of antibodies - but eventually we all end up with norovirus ridden school children and colds regardless of initial feeding methods.

The overweight thing has so many other factors, including the availability of junk food (and in my case real ale), and the altered eating habits since the rationing from WWII, that the link to BF is muddied.

so Agent want to PM bitch about MILs maybe we should just drown them in lemon curd*

*disclaimer: not an actual murder plot maybe

[SunriseSurprise]

blingblang I don't know to be totally honest. I do know that in the large family I grew up in & extended family we all went through measles, mumps, etc, even whooping cough one after another with no lasting effects/hospitalisation. If I was related to someone who'd suuffered long term effects I may well think differently. Likewise if my dc had showed signs of weak immune systems over the years I would be more anxious I suppose.