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To raise it with the school as my dd 5 is dancing to 'blurred lines' by robin thicke in her after school dance club?

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leolion · 12/10/2013 15:17

Hi there, I would welcome your views on the above. Just found out that they have been practicing a dance to the above song at my dd's after school dance club (5 to 7 year olds). I am very very uncomfortable with this. I know the children will not understand the underlying message of the song, but I still find it wrong on so many levels.

I will likely upset a few people as the dance teacher is a mum at the school, and she is otherwise, a great and popular teacher. I know I could withdraw my dd from the dance class but it just seems wrong that this song is even playing in a primary school at all.

So am I being unreasonable to raise it with the head?

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AnaisHellWitch · 13/10/2013 13:14

is going to take her from. Like a possession.

Canthisonebeused · 13/10/2013 13:43

Vivacia

That is an interesting and thought provoking article, but not everyone would agree that for them it has the same interpretation or representation. Links could be drawn on anything and everything. I've not denied that it could or does insult some people or that it could represent rape or anything else. ISO agree it's not appropriate for her dd to be dancing to for those reasons.

Vivacia · 13/10/2013 13:45

The T.I line is just a boast about his massive dick (and if anyone has seen the pic that went viral a few years ago, they'll know it's true!)

Well that's ok then. I mean, gee, stop getting so upset about the violent imagery girls and just admire his long penis.

Vivacia · 13/10/2013 13:47

Good points Canthisone, although I'm not convinced that the lyrics could be manipulated to support, say, mugging or credit card fraud.

How do you interpret the lyrics if not about sexual assault against women?

Vivacia · 13/10/2013 13:54

Part of me thinks it's a waste of time rehashing this topic again. Part of me thinks it isn't, because each time you get a few more people to rethink their opinion about the song (as I did, when somebody first asked me, "have you heard this new song??").

Dragging myself back to the thread topic, the song is not appropriate for primary school kids because the lyrics and video are misogynistic.

imofftolisdoonvarna · 13/10/2013 14:05

Fenton ok I take it back, he obviously does know its demeaning.

The way he says they were the perfect guys to degrade women because they are married with kids - as if someone has to do it so they are the best ones to do it.

thegoosemama · 13/10/2013 16:54

seriously? it's a dirty song with dirty lyrics. not suitable for children but not about rape. It's just dirty talk. Have I missed something with the violent imagery? I hate the song and avoid the video at all cost (not because of the naked women, they're just naked and not against their will either) but I don't remember violent imagery. what did I miss?

candycoatedwaterdrops · 13/10/2013 17:30

Cannot believe anyone would try to justify the lyrics! I'm the least pearl clutchy person you could find and accept that a lot of songs do push boundaries but this is just too far. If you've seen the video and read all the lyrics and still think it's ok, well then I worry for your sanity.

hettienne · 13/10/2013 17:39

Whether it's about rape, or is just a song about infidelity with misogynistic sexual imagery - it's still not suitable for children.

Willshome · 13/10/2013 17:48

Why would you go to the Head before speaking to the dance teacher?

quoteunquote · 13/10/2013 18:54

You the hottest bitch in this place

Yeah, I had a bitch, but she ain't bad as you

Nothing like your last guy, he too square for you
He don't smack that ass and pull your hair like that

Not many women can refuse this pimpin'
I'm a nice guy, but don't get it if you get with me

just for these alone, the song is total inappropriate,

If you walked into any primary school and said those to a five year old, you would be removed toot sweet,

As Fenton said he happily told anyone who will listen it is about degrading women.

He encouraging abuse with a catchy tune, one day(because it happens a lot) he will have to look someone close to him in the eye and explain why he thought that was OK, it's vile, he is vile, sorry excuse for a person.

The OP, needs to make sure the head teacher at her daughter school starts to take responsibility for what goes on in the school, shameful that a parent has to point out their failings.

dancingwithmyselfandthecat · 13/10/2013 18:59

Re it being played in a school it doesn't matter whether it refers to rape or whether it is "merely" rather vulgar. Rather vulgar is a step too far for children of that age. You wouldn't let them read a book or watch a film with the plot those lyrics imply so why let them dance to it?

SirChenjin · 13/10/2013 19:13

Good point Dancing, well said.

AnaisHellWitch · 13/10/2013 19:19

the goosemama, the violent imagery you may be missing is in the rap part of the lyrics posted upthread:

"I'll give you something big enough to tear your ass in two"

Boaty · 13/10/2013 20:39

The Headmistress at DDs school ordered one track to be switched off at a school disco because she considered it inappropriate, can't remember what it was..
My DD herself protested when the prep school girls used 'House of Fun' by Madness in an assembly. She told the teachers it was inappropriate for small children.The teachers didn't realise that some of the girls might know what the lyrics meant..I think they were more at that and quietly amused, the teacher told me about my DDs indignation

thegoosemama · 13/10/2013 21:30

anaishellwitch I see. Well no I don't really. I have a friend who describes her man as big enough to split her in half. Ok she's not writing a song about it but that's basically what the rap is saying in a crude fashion. Would I rap about it? no, but rap music is a lot to do with showing off and guys do like to show off what they have between their legs. Its a very sexual song and absolutely not appropriate for a child to listen to let alone dance to but I just can't take it seriously as 'rapey' or violent. It's just pure filth. In a porno style. There's a time and a place for dirty talk (and I would consider the lyrics dirty talk) and a pop song isn't it.

thegoosemama · 13/10/2013 21:30

anaishellwitch I see. Well no I don't really. I have a friend who describes her man as big enough to split her in half. Ok she's not writing a song about it but that's basically what the rap is saying in a crude fashion. Would I rap about it? no, but rap music is a lot to do with showing off and guys do like to show off what they have between their legs. Its a very sexual song and absolutely not appropriate for a child to listen to let alone dance to but I just can't take it seriously as 'rapey' or violent. It's just pure filth. In a porno style. There's a time and a place for dirty talk (and I would consider the lyrics dirty talk) and a pop song isn't it.

AnaisHellWitch · 13/10/2013 21:35

"It's not rapey or violent, just pure filth in a porno style and dirty talk"

Do you have a daughter?

SirChenjin · 13/10/2013 21:36

Really? You don't see it as violent? You just see it as dirty talk?

AnaisHellWitch · 13/10/2013 21:45

"Do it like it hurt.

So you don't like work?"

Yes, painful sex is to be endured.

SirChenjin · 13/10/2013 21:52

And if that painful sex just happens to rip your anal passage in 2, then hey, it's only a bit of dirty talk

AnaisHellWitch · 13/10/2013 22:00

It's not grievous bodily harm (and brutal anal sex can kill) just a bit of a joke.

I fear for my teen aged daughter. We are going backwards.

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candycoatedwaterdrops · 13/10/2013 22:02

I hate the term 'rapey'. Ugh!!

paintinglady · 13/10/2013 22:03

Sorry i havent read the entire thread . But i recently went to an open evening for a secondary school . They had an entire dance routine to blurred lines . I couldnt believe they were trying to advertise their school using this song !
I found it completely inappropriate .

itsn0tmeitsyou · 13/10/2013 22:05

I fear for my teen aged daughter. We are going backwards.
Totally agree, Anais, though my DD is only 6 so I have to hope that because it's being noticed and commented on more and more maybe something will be done to address what is happening wrt attitudes to women/girls in this country over the next 10 years....

Last few years I have read/listened to more and more of this terrifying stuff. I just don't believe young men thought like they seem to these days 15- 20 years ago when I was 20ish.

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