Went to sleep and then woke up, as per usual.
Look, so sorry, but you need to leave because he is being honest with you.
Ex h and I had a house together, cars, a so-called good life. He decided he never wanted children and now, 12 years later, he doesn't have them. He had a vasectomy and later remarried a woman who had been sterilised before she met him, in her mid-30s, happily childfree.
I left our house, our cars, our life, for even the promise of DD1, for in my conscience I felt okay with trying and possibly never succeeding, but not okay with never trying at all.
There is nothing at all wrong with wanting to marry and have children, or not. But it is totally beyond the bounds of compromise, and my conclusion was that the least I could do was provide whatever child I with a father who so wanted him or her.
And so that's what needed to be done.
I didn't want a father who wasn't 100% on board, and considered co-parenting with a gay male couple or going it alone because I grew to accept myself as someone who wanted children and that that was not an unrealistic or wrong desire.
Now I have a daughter and son left to me, and I try to teach them, all the time, that normal human desires have all kinds of bounds, and they are all okay as long as they do not harm others and you are honest and upfront about them. And if you need to walk away, one way or another, that's okay, too, but don't string people along, or lie, and he has not.
He has not. He has told you the truth. Listen, take it on board and do what you must for you. Because life is very short, and we have only one shot at it.
Cut your losses and do what you feel is best for you.
I did, Kew did, we both became the mothers we wanted to be, and you can, too.