to expect the sweets and cakes at a kids party to be put out AFTER the savoury?

[greencatseyes]

Pukey pukey pukey.

Yesterday DS2 (5) came home from party and vommed up all the many cakes and sweets he'd eaten over two hours at a party. His brother narrowly kept them all in. Not sure which is worse.

AIBU to think that you don't just put our ALL the food at the very beginning of the party, together....

There was no way on earth that my children weren't going to eat all the cakes first: I would have had to physically hold them back for two hours. They did not let a morsel of savoury fare pass their lips (not counting Hula Hoops).

I'm not a party food Nazi - but I have food out after the games, and then bring out the cakes after the teeny tiny sandwiches and crisps (and token carrot sticks)

?

[Lweji]

LOL

At most parties I find that children eat a reasonable amount of sweet, savoury foods and even fruit (finger type).

I have never seen any children throw up from eating too much, regardless of how much food is around.
Quite the reverse, as most children spend their time playing and eat very little.
I do remember one child spending most of her time eating, but she was clearly overweight compared with all the other children.

So, you do have to wonder why yours ate too much.

[oldgrandmama]

My son, aged about seven, came home from a school friend's party and was violently sick. Good job I held my tongue and didn't say 'serves you right for being greedy', as it turned out he'd run headfirst into a (Closed) french window and had concussion!

Yes, I think he's OK ... he's now nearly 46 ...

[NoComet]

Savory, then sweet, so the DCs eat a very vague approximation to a meal.

Doesn't have to be healthy, but enough bread and puff pastry for DD2 not to declare she's hungry until the families next meal is an enormous help.

[nickelbabe]

have to say, I wouldn't care.


bring on the cakes.

(and if the child is sick by eating too many cakes this time, the theory is that next time, they'll be more wary and eat maybe a couple of sandwiches first. Or spread the cakes out a bit)

[NoComet]

Also spear biscuits etc keep, spare sausage rolls and ham that have been in a warm hall are scrap.

[Tee2072]

Gee, some how all the children at my son's 4th birthday party in June managed to not gorge themselves on the sweets/crisps/etc without any of the parents telling them to not eat too much and ate the ham sandwiches.

Perhaps it's your children that are the issue rather than the food?

[Lweji]

BeCool,

mice cake actually sounds fine.

[usualsuspect]

The problem is your children,not the party food.

[SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius]

I think it is a bit unkind to say her children are the problem - from what she has said, I am guessing that her children don't make a habit of stuffing themselves until they are sick, so this may well be an unusual occurrance.

As I said earlier, maybe next time they will remember how unpleasant it felt after they over-ate, and will moderate their intake.

To answer the OP - I generally did put out the sweet stuff and the savoury stuff at the same time, but the table was pushed against the wall and in the corner of the room, and the sweet stuff was put towards the back, in the hopes of encouraging the children to have some of the savouries first.

I also used to make sure that the savoury stuff was the sort of things children like - mini cocktail sausages, chicken nuggets, slices of pizza etc - so I could be reasonably sure they'd have some savoury items alongside the sweet things.

[usualsuspect]

Well tbh,it is the children's problem if they gorge on sweets and cake.

I've had loads of parties and never seen children eat until they are sick

Going to a children's party is not unusual,neither is having all the food out together.

In fact I also find children eat very little at parties.

[Tee2072]

Well, exactly usual. The children did it to themselves. Where was the mum? Or was it a drop and run party?

::dreams of being able to drop and run::

[wonderingsoul]

always done and been to party's where its all laid out together, they are told to wait till its time to eat then watch what they put on their plates, so its not all crap and every one gets the same amount of goodies.

i thought it was th enorm?

[TalcAndTurnips]

Children have not yet learnt the rule that once you have launched in to the pudding course.

It's just one of those sad facts of life that growing up brings, like not being able to sit naked in a paddling pool in mixed society anymore, or having to remember on which day the bins should go out.

[LadyClariceCannockMonty]

I'll rephrase then:

The fact that the OP said she couldn't stop her children gorging themselves without physically restraining them was the problem.

[Mumsyblouse]

My children eat lots of cakes and sweets at parties but are never sick. Are you sure they don't have a virus?

[Growlithe]

OTOH, it must have been a pretty dull party if the DCs just wanted to trough at the food table. Most children will sit there for 20 mins tops then want away. You usually have to time the cake around this.

[usualsuspect]

It's normal at kids parties to have crisps,sandwiches party rings and cake on the same plate.

I would make sure mine didn't fill their plates with just cake.

[usualsuspect]

I on the other hand am allowed to just eat cake

[Growlithe]

When I say 'time the cake' - I mean the birthday cake.

[Schmoozer]

Im another one that thinks this is more an op and her kids issue
Ive had the pleasure (!) of many kids parties now and never seen a kid gorge to puking point !!

[hippo123]

My 3 year old knows she has to eat her sandwich / wrap / pizza before stuffing herself with the sweet stuff, as does my 6 year old. I think the fault lays in your child having poor self control, and you feeling unable to stop it to be honest. Yabu.

[exoticfruits]

Maybe OP just over controls it at home and so they don't learn to do it for themselves. I have never had children over eat but I have had them put too much on their plate and then take one bite so it is wasted.
I don't think that the party giver was wrong- you should just get your child used to making their own choices.

[exoticfruits]

i.e. sensible choices- for themselves. If they have 'forbidden' foods at home say are bound to scoff as much as possible when they get the chance.

[greencatseyes]

wasn't you notcitrus

I would out myself if I explained circs further as to why difficult to stop them getting the food - was not in someone's house though.

thanks all

[stealthsquiggle]

" I tired to stop them, but there are two of them, and I really would have had to actually hold them - or leave..."

you need to get better control over your kids then if they just ignore you'

^^
This. If either of my DC had been pigging out at a party, by age 5, then a simple muttered threat to stop now or go home in disgrace would be sufficient - do you seriously have no other options than physical restraint, OP?