to expect the sweets and cakes at a kids party to be put out AFTER the savoury?

[greencatseyes]

Pukey pukey pukey.

Yesterday DS2 (5) came home from party and vommed up all the many cakes and sweets he'd eaten over two hours at a party. His brother narrowly kept them all in. Not sure which is worse.

AIBU to think that you don't just put our ALL the food at the very beginning of the party, together....

There was no way on earth that my children weren't going to eat all the cakes first: I would have had to physically hold them back for two hours. They did not let a morsel of savoury fare pass their lips (not counting Hula Hoops).

I'm not a party food Nazi - but I have food out after the games, and then bring out the cakes after the teeny tiny sandwiches and crisps (and token carrot sticks)

?

[exoticfruits]

I think that the thread shows that you need to get your children used to eating a healthy diet and making their own choices. If you rigidly do it for them and ban certain foods as 'bad' then you are bound to have the situation where they go mad as soon as they get the chance.
I never found food an issue, I always had to be organised with something for those who didn't have an interest in eating much and were finished early. In fact I specifically used to try and have activities that used energy so that they would be hungry.

[Kiwiinkits]

Can I just say pukey pukey pukey at children being made to show off naice manners to all of the mummies and daddies and a naice sit down party.

[HairyGrotter]

YABU

I like to make unhealthy suggestions to DD so she can bring her plate to me and I can relieve her of the burden of the cake...she's a salad girl weirdo

[cory]

I have to say I always put all the food out as a buffet and I never came across a child that gorged themselves until they puked. Ime children eat until they've had enough and then get bored.

[mewmeow]

Yabu.
Bung it all out together, less hassle that way .

[EhricLovesTeamQhuay]

Yanbu
I don't like the attitude that it's fine for kids to stuff themselves til they puke just because it's a party. I just did a party for DS with a picnic lunch so I brought out each thing at a time, sandwiches, cucumber and carrot, fruit, then crisps, cake and biscuits. It was kind of deliberate and made sure they all had something decent and there wasn't mountains of food waste. The other parents seemed to appreciate it too.

[Bunbaker]

There could be the possibility that they are beginning a bug.

[SugarHut]

"Gannet til they puked." Arf!!!

I (and others) literally serve the children at my boy's parties. They are made to sit at a long table, they choose their savouries, then as they are munching, the savouries are taken away and the desserts laid out. Having said that, most parents stay at my parties, and are all from his naice school, and are desperately showing their child has the best table manners, so they never scoff cake until they heave.

I think YANBU to expect the desserts to be brought out at least slightly after the savouries, but yes, if you were there, you could have quite easily controlled the volume of cake they munched through!

[lborolass]

OK, so there's obviously more to this than meets the eye but I have to agree that it's not normal behaviour ime for children to eat until they make themselves sick but I don't think you're going to get any helpful posts without being able to give the full details.

I was at a party at the weekend and even though all the food was out on the table together I didn't see any of the children gorging themselves.

[Floggingmolly]

How would it out you to explain why it was difficult to stop your kids getting the food? Were you the entertainer?
Did all the other children gannet till they puked? If not, then it's an issue with your kids, not the party itself.

[uselessinformation]

It's not a proper party unless someone is sick and someone cries! Being able to put sweet and savoury on the same plate is part of the fun for kids. Sometimes when my son was little we'd have party tea just for fun!

[judgejudithjudy]

yabu - suggest your dc are kept away from parties until the party food police investigate :-) btw have you ever thought that the parents have better things to do (like entertain their birthday child) to worry about your dc unable to control themselves?! i always lay all the food out & forget about it.

[SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius]

Exoticfruits - my mum controlled what we ate, portion size etc, quite rigidly, and whilst I never ate until I made myself sick, I did, and still do, have a rather dysfunctional relationship with food, and as a teenager, at buffet-style parties, I used to eat too much.

I well remember ddad and dsis ladling several teaspoonfuls of sugar into their coffee during the interval at a concert that mum didn't come to - we were only allowed one teaspoonful at home. Sadly, someone had filled the sugar bowls with salt. I was a bit smug, as I had not long given up sugar, and my coffee was still drinkable.

[Bunbaker]

I have never put the sweet stuff out first so I think YANBU. The table isn't big enough for a start so I just put the savoury out first. I have only ever done Fox's Party Rings (which have always been a favourite regardless of age), and home made fairy cakes. The only sweets I ever did was in between the wrappers in pass the parcel, and maybe a few in a party bag. The birthday cake is always home made and offered at the table or to take home. It has always been eaten at the table because that is what the children wanted to do.

[stealthsquiggle]

" I tired to stop them, but there are two of them, and I really would have had to actually hold them - or leave..."

you need to get better control over your kids then if they just ignore you'

^^
This. If either of my DC had been pigging out at a party, by age 5, then a simple muttered threat to stop now or go home in disgrace would be sufficient - do you seriously have no other options than physical restraint, OP?

[greencatseyes]

wasn't you notcitrus

I would out myself if I explained circs further as to why difficult to stop them getting the food - was not in someone's house though.

thanks all

[exoticfruits]

i.e. sensible choices- for themselves. If they have 'forbidden' foods at home say are bound to scoff as much as possible when they get the chance.

[exoticfruits]

Maybe OP just over controls it at home and so they don't learn to do it for themselves. I have never had children over eat but I have had them put too much on their plate and then take one bite so it is wasted.
I don't think that the party giver was wrong- you should just get your child used to making their own choices.

[hippo123]

My 3 year old knows she has to eat her sandwich / wrap / pizza before stuffing herself with the sweet stuff, as does my 6 year old. I think the fault lays in your child having poor self control, and you feeling unable to stop it to be honest. Yabu.

[Schmoozer]

Im another one that thinks this is more an op and her kids issue
Ive had the pleasure (!) of many kids parties now and never seen a kid gorge to puking point !!

[Growlithe]

When I say 'time the cake' - I mean the birthday cake.

[usualsuspect]

I on the other hand am allowed to just eat cake

[usualsuspect]

It's normal at kids parties to have crisps,sandwiches party rings and cake on the same plate.

I would make sure mine didn't fill their plates with just cake.

[Growlithe]

OTOH, it must have been a pretty dull party if the DCs just wanted to trough at the food table. Most children will sit there for 20 mins tops then want away. You usually have to time the cake around this.

[Mumsyblouse]

My children eat lots of cakes and sweets at parties but are never sick. Are you sure they don't have a virus?