Friend - Rent - She wants me out!

[PuffandStuff]

My friend was given an HA flat a few years ago - she has since moved in with her husband to a beautiful (mortgaged) home and I have been renting her flat. I recently lost my job but because its a HA flat I can't claim HB - She begged me to move in against my better judgement as she wanted someone she could trust in it (told her she needs to give it back but she says it her flat!)

I have been working self employed and have some money coming in soon but at the moment I'm in arrears with my rent - which when it comes through I can settle up with her and find another flat - she is fuming and wants me out - I am penniless at the moment and have nowhere to go - if she could wait 2 more weeks I can pay her all that I owe her - she won't wait - I'm one month in arrears at the moment.

I'm refusing to budge - she has threatened to come and throw all my stuff out! We have been friends for 20 years and I can't understand why she is being like this - AIBU?

[Jolleigh]

Not read ALL of the thread but from what I've read, I don't feel there are enough people pointing this out:

OP and the 'friend' went into this agreement with them both being in full possession of the facts...if OP hit money worries, there would be very little that could be done without highlighting the illegal sublet. The friend trusted that the OP wouldn't allow that to happen and as technically she's the one doing something illegal, she shouldered that responsibility so that her and the OP could enter into a mutually beneficial agreement. The OP has not kept to her end of the agreement and now the friend is panicking.

Neither of you smells of roses and personally I think those knowingly entering illegal sublets should be subject to the same penalties as those subletting.

Have the decency to get out of the house ASAP so that the HA can give it to someone truly deserving. Tell the 'friend' that if she doesn't inform the HA that the property is now vacant, you will.

I suppose whether or not you pay what you owe will depend on whether you have any intention of salvaging the friendship.

[JaquelineHyde]

The OPs current situation is heart breaking and I hope that there is news of her husband soon and that the sale of her house goes through asap.

However, there are families on the housing list in situations similar to and worse than the OP's. Families who are living in nasty dangerous conditions, who have been waiting years for a housing association property.

The OP is doing the right thing in moving out and returning to her Mum's where both her and her daughters can stay knowing that, although they are a little cramped, they are safe and not under the constant threat of eviction.

The OP was wrong to take up her friends offer of the flat and has learnt her lesson the hard way. Now the OP must report her friend to the HA so that the property can be reclaimed and a family in a situation similar or worse than hers can be allocated a safe home.

If the OP fails to do this then I can not have any sympathy for her situation and would not expect anyone else to sympathise with her either as she would be showing such disregard for others when she knows exactly how hard life can be.

Move out and report your 'friend' OP!

[Cravey]

I don't think the whys and reasons matter, both these are breaking the law. Op needs to seek advice ASAP. She will without a doubt be implicated in this subletting saga.