Im usually really pleased with the service I get from Barclays and my children have always been welcomed there but today I found myself wanting the punch the woman on the other side of the counter.
I only went in to deposit a cheque and withdraw cash and don't usually do chit chat but she stood up to look at my baby over the counter... this is where the fun starts...
First she said: 'Is that your little girl?' ... to which I replied 'No its my boy' smiling... her reply back 'I can only see blue and cream which can be either' and sat back down.. When i worked in retail when I was just out of school I would always say (if I wanted chit chat about babies) I always said something along the lines of 'Your baby's gorgeous' or 'How old's your baby?' so I didn't get the gender wrong. He's 4 months old too btw, its not as though he's newborn.
She then want on to say 'your first?', my reply 'no he's my second, my eldest will be 3 in October'... her reply 'you don't look old enough to have two kids'... I was livid! I just smiled and said 'Well i'm 24 this Saturday'...to which she repeated.. 'Yeh, you don't look old enough to have two children'. She didn't say it in a 'oh you look young for your age' kind of way, she said it in a 'you shouldn't have two kids at your age, you probably don't know who their fathers are' kind of way. And the way she looked at me... like I was dirt. She went on to tell me that she has ONE son who is 7 years old, he's current at his grandmothers because his dad is a teacher and has had to go into school during the holidays... again said in a snotty way. What I should've said was 'oh well my CHILDREN..yes both of my children have the same father... is an IT consultant for a global company'.
By all means, I think myself I do look younger than 24 but I do not expect professional staff to make such comments, especially when they're said in such a snobbish, rude manner.
AIBU?
AIBU thinking about complaining about a Barclays staff members comments?
manfalou · 22/08/2013 14:26
Someone told me I didn't look old enough to have a 3yo. Cue me beaming at them THANK YOU! I feel bloody haggered! 
If I had a pound for everytime someone said I don't look old enough to have children I'd be rich. Rich beyond my wildest dreams!
stealth boast
YABU BTW
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Jaysus. Poor woman was only making conversation.
You have some major paranoia going on 
how old is your first OP?
Asking as the only reason I can think of for you to react as you have is that maybe you had your first quite young (by society's standards) and you've felt you've been stigmitised in the past of being a 'young/teenage' mum?
From what you have said it really doesn't ound anything to be upset about though
Trust me OP, in a few years you'll be desperate for people to say you look too young to have 2 children . It's a compliment - if she'd said you are too young to have 2 children it would be meant as an insult.
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current that reminded me of an eighteen year old on Netmums once, saying that she and her BF really wanted to try for a baby and even though she was very young they were very well sorted, and could afford it because her BF who was 20 had 'a good job in Logistics for an International company.'
I thought hmm..logistics? He loads and unloads trucks then? At 20 that's going to pay shedloads obviously.
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