Im usually really pleased with the service I get from Barclays and my children have always been welcomed there but today I found myself wanting the punch the woman on the other side of the counter.
I only went in to deposit a cheque and withdraw cash and don't usually do chit chat but she stood up to look at my baby over the counter... this is where the fun starts...
First she said: 'Is that your little girl?' ... to which I replied 'No its my boy' smiling... her reply back 'I can only see blue and cream which can be either' and sat back down.. When i worked in retail when I was just out of school I would always say (if I wanted chit chat about babies) I always said something along the lines of 'Your baby's gorgeous' or 'How old's your baby?' so I didn't get the gender wrong. He's 4 months old too btw, its not as though he's newborn.
She then want on to say 'your first?', my reply 'no he's my second, my eldest will be 3 in October'... her reply 'you don't look old enough to have two kids'... I was livid! I just smiled and said 'Well i'm 24 this Saturday'...to which she repeated.. 'Yeh, you don't look old enough to have two children'. She didn't say it in a 'oh you look young for your age' kind of way, she said it in a 'you shouldn't have two kids at your age, you probably don't know who their fathers are' kind of way. And the way she looked at me... like I was dirt. She went on to tell me that she has ONE son who is 7 years old, he's current at his grandmothers because his dad is a teacher and has had to go into school during the holidays... again said in a snotty way. What I should've said was 'oh well my CHILDREN..yes both of my children have the same father... is an IT consultant for a global company'.
By all means, I think myself I do look younger than 24 but I do not expect professional staff to make such comments, especially when they're said in such a snobbish, rude manner.
AIBU?
AIBU thinking about complaining about a Barclays staff members comments?
manfalou · 22/08/2013 14:26
and a grip.You're livid because she told you that yuou don't look old enough to have two kids?! 
See, I'd have took that as a compliment! never gets mistaken as someone too young, waaaaah-
As for speculating on whether or not they both have the same father, from what you've said she did nothing of the sort - that was all interpretation of a 'look' on your part!
Seriously far too much overthinking and paranoia on your part by the sounds of it, sorry. Sounds like the poor woman was only trying to be friendly and make small talk!
Apologies for typos and over eager use of !!!!!!! 
fat finger typing
So this all stems from the cashier saying that you didn't look old enough to have two children?
That's a compliment isn't it? I used to get that a lot, I had DS1 at 22 and DS2 at 25 and always looked younger than my actual age. I always thought the person was being nice!
I'd love someone to tell me now, at 38, that I don't look old enough to have three children .
Probably best to stick to your usual "no chit chat with minions" rule in future OP 
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I'm 24 tomorrow and wish someone would tell me I looked too young to have kids. Unfortunately the grey hairs, exhausted eye bags and premature wrinkles give it away.
However my DP doesn't have some fancy job that I feel the need to brag about like it somehow validates our choice to have children "young". We just have ineffective contraception.
A trainee at work spotted my engagement ring while I was helping her with something. We went from that, to my three DCs, and she was amazed that I had three, she thought I looked much too young. I was all chuffed! I didn't decide she was in some way insulting me
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