Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

To think this party invitation is rude

100 replies

SlumberingDormouse · 27/07/2013 11:25

Friends are having a housewarming party. They both work full time and are comfortably off. The Fb invitation states that they will only be providing Sainsbury's basics pizzas, which they got in the reduced aisle for about 50p each a month ago and have been freezing ever since Hmm. They've asked everyone to bring their own booze as well as they won't be providing any. AIBU to think that making a point of being this frugal on a party invitation is rude?

OP posts:
NameThatTuna · 27/07/2013 11:49

Have you ever thrown a house warming party OP?

I did when me and DP moved in together. All I did was home made curry and poppadoms etc.

Nightmare! While everyone was getting pissed and having a laugh, I was cooking!

Never again. I'm doing frozen pizza's for the next house party Grin

Witt · 27/07/2013 11:53

You have to tell us the wording now. Too bizarre.

Maybe it's to throw you off the scent and they've secretly got hitched and they are going to have a big party at their house and they want to stun you all

MargeSimpsonzzz · 27/07/2013 11:55

I'd never ask anybody to take a bottle! but I'd always take one! so, imo, it is rude to ask somebody to do it!

Tweasels · 27/07/2013 11:55

They specifically said how much the pizza's cost?

Really?

MargeSimpsonzzz · 27/07/2013 11:56

Also, how old are these people? i'm in my 40s now and things my friends and I would have shrugged over in our early 20s, they might seem a bit meaner now.

Secretswitch · 27/07/2013 11:57

Indeed! Op might show up to cold lobster and champagne...it will all be like.."wheeeeeeee we pranked you! " and op will be like " don't be silly! We were looking forward to reduced frozen pizza!"

SirChenjin · 27/07/2013 11:57

Need to know exact wording OP!

MargeSimpsonzzz · 27/07/2013 11:57

yeh that'd be funny. and tbh I do undersell my efforts to manage people's expectations.

BaronessTeapot · 27/07/2013 11:58

Sounds like a joke to me.

OHforDUCKScake · 27/07/2013 12:01

What exactly was the wording on this apparent invitation?

Im struggling to believe this.

Juniperdewdropofbrandy · 27/07/2013 12:06

Must be a joke.

Anyway glad you're going. Take some fancy nibbles along if that's what you like to eat?

I've had parties before and over catered. If my mam comes she's usually had her tea so doesn't eat much Hmm Now I don't go so mad with the food and just have stand by if it all goes.

forehead · 27/07/2013 12:08

Must be a joke. I hope it is

ihearsounds · 27/07/2013 12:13

Really don't understand what is wrong about asking people to bring a bottle. But then this is what I do.

Just because the man has a massive trust fund, doesn't mean he still has it. Could have been used on the new house.

MrsWolowitz · 27/07/2013 12:13

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

scratchandsniff · 27/07/2013 12:17

I'd say that they are joking and you've completely got wrong end of the stick. Also I don't think there's anything unusual about asking people to bring a bottle to a party. It's a housewarming after all not a wedding.

melika · 27/07/2013 12:18

I agree with you OP, it is a half hearted invite, unless it is bad humour.

My Sil held a 50th for her husband in her house, but she moaned that it costs a lot of money to hold a party. (ahem yeah sure you come to mine empty handed!) She put on the invite, for everyone to bring all their own booze. I felt like I couldn't be bothered to go, but had to because it's FAMILY!!!!!

Gobbolinothewitchscat · 27/07/2013 12:23

Need. To. Know. The. Wording!

YouStayClassySanDiego · 27/07/2013 12:34

Come back OP , we need the exact wording, letter by letter Grin

YouStayClassySanDiego · 27/07/2013 12:49

I don't think OP is coming back! Sad

RakeABedOfTyneFilth · 27/07/2013 12:56

Why don't you prepare a tupperware box containing chopped peppers, olives, cubes of goats cheese, mozzarella, some capers, sundried tomatoes, chorizo, and whatever else you like on a pizza. When the sainsbob basic pizzas come out (or even if they don't, go in the freezer and get one), say oh good I brought toppings for mine, tip your tupperware out on it, and guard the oven while "yours" cooks. Take the exact amount of beer/wine that you'll drink, put huge labels over it/them showing your name, and preferably carry them around with you all the time at the party in a little cool bag or insulated-water-bottle-holster-on-a-strap. Afterwards, write a gushing message on the facebook page of the hosts saying how much you enjoyed their austerity party.

Or just don't go.

maddy68 · 27/07/2013 12:59

Maybe it's a joke and they are providing top notch tucker. Or. They are aware that people think they have money and its an attempt to make them seem normal

Nothing wrong with bring your own booze

ZillionChocolate · 27/07/2013 13:02

Turn up in black tie. That'll learn 'em.

flowery · 27/07/2013 13:04

I can't see how it is rude to say what food they've got and how much it cost on the invitation. Bizarre, yes, but not rude.

GuffSmuggler · 27/07/2013 13:04

I've been to many parties where there is no food or some half-hearted bowls of peanuts dotted about. I'd be delighted with some cheap warm pizza to fill me up.

WaitMonkey · 27/07/2013 13:05

Please tell us the wording op.