Theres a very popular play group in my small town, the waiting list is a year long. A few weeks ago I got the call to say a space had come up for my child.
I thanked her an asked if there was much food there, because if there is then we wouldnt be able to come but its not a problem. (Genuinely).
My son is anaphylactic to several foods.
The lady has been lovely, said they only give out milk free biscuits and dont serve milke to the children and she will talk to the other parents and see if they mind asking their children to stop bringing food in because and allergic child is starting.
My stomach is churning in memory of this conversation.
I very much appreciate her help and support in integrating my son, but was worried it would go down like a lead ballon with the other parents.
The lady told me that most were more than happy. But there were one or two. One had a 2 year old who walked round with a bottle in the side of her mouth and it got dropped and kicked around a lot.
Anyway, today was a taster to see how it went in preperation for it starting in september as it ends soon.
The lady had sent rounf a letter to the parents too. This also made me feel uncomfortable but the lady had gone out of her way to help me so I didnt feel as though I could look a gift horse in the mouth and not go. Plus, it would mean a lot to my son.
We got there and everyone was lovely, so welcoming.
Then I went into the garden and spotted someone I recognised. After a few minutes a woman next to me had a child (who I was later told was 3yo in case that makes a difference) from which she yanked a bag of crisps from. The child started screeching, the mothers reply was this
"NO! WE cant have food here any more, APPARENTLY. NO I told you, we are never allowed food here again! Oh for God sake, we are going to have to leave, come on! We have to go, we cant come back here again, this is never going to work. She hasnt had food since 6am. She's hungry and she isnt allowed to eat!"
This wonderful speach was shouted for effect.
I was already nervous about the reception so probably being over sensitive but I was so damn embarassed I burst in to tears. Not that I let her bloody see it.
The thing is, next week is the last week and her child doesnt come back in September. (The children go until the term after they are 3)
So what was her outburts for? What was the need? Even if she thought IWABU couldnt she just bite her tongue and hate me for 2 hours in her whole life?
The lady with the 2 year old also let her child continue to let her toddler walk around with the bottle, these two are friends.
Theres a baby section where babies are bottle fed, we simple avoid that area.
Please can I ask, if you feel like it would erk you or you think the shouty woman had a point, can you elaborate on it? Because I dont understand her rudeness.
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AIBU?
To have uprooted this playgroups usual, normal habits? Was this woman BU?
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OHforDUCKScake · 02/07/2013 16:09
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