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To find constant humming and singing really annoying (trivial)

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Tailtwister · 04/06/2013 09:37

My DM is currently staying with us and she's either talking (at me), singing or humming. The only time she's actually silent is when she's asleep. The first thing I wake up to in the morning is her bloody singing. It's driving me insane! I actually counted the seconds she was silent yesterday and the longest I got to was 5 before she was making some kind of noise again.

I do wonder if there's something wrong with me that makes me so irritated by it. I remember it driving me mad when I was a child, so much so that I used to sit with my fingers in my ears when I was in the car with her.

So, am I weird? Is it just me or would other people find this madness inducing too? I'm at the point where I have to go out into the garden to get away from her before I rip her bloody head off snap at her. Then she follows me out there too! What can I do? I've tried being really obvious by turning up the TV or radio to drown her out, but she doesn't seem to take the hint.

(She also eats with her mount open, but we'll not go into that...)

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yellowsnownoteatwillyou · 04/06/2013 11:01

This would drive me insane! I would go for the option above, I need quiet time in the garden and see what happens.

I get sensory overload and have asked people to stop whistling. As in people I don't know standing behind me in the queue. As long as you are polite they generally just stop it.

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Tailtwister · 04/06/2013 12:42

Well, I've tried retiring to the garden saying that I'm just going out for some peace and quiet and within 2 minutes she was out there talking at me. I tried saying I just wanted to gather my thoughts and she went off in a strop. It just takes me back to when I was a child, only that then there was no escape.

The upside is that she's currently sulking in another room, so in a way that's a result. Can still hear her bloody singing though. I don't think I'll last another day, let alone another week.

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lottiegarbanzo · 04/06/2013 12:47

Oh dear, sounds predictable!

Can you really emphasise that your need for peace and quiet is about you and how you function, however eccentric that seems, and is not a comment on her? Or is the problem that everything in her world is about her? (Or I could send round my friend who sings techno-tunes constantly, including at work in a shared office, to entertain her?)

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 04/06/2013 13:08

Ds2 does this all the time. Except that sometimes he whistles instead. It makes me homicidal. And he lives with me all the time - it is no wonder there are no shreds of my sanity left. Thankfully he is off to University in the autumn, to whistle, hum and sing at other people.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 04/06/2013 13:08

Wondered if I'd see you on here, Dancingwithmyself... how're you today?

I feel c-a-l-m on this thread full of 'normal' people. I like it here... :)

Bakingtins · 04/06/2013 13:12

My DS1(6) hums all the time. It drives me nuts. DS2(3) sings a lot but that's not so bad.

bigkidsdidit · 04/06/2013 13:15

God someone in my office does this. Narrates to herself, bangs her keybaord if the computer is slow, sings, eats apples crunchily. It drives me SPARE

today is the first day of my maternity leave, I am revelling in the silence :)

5Foot5 · 04/06/2013 13:23

Two different things here I think.

The constant talking would drive me mad. I have female relative who do this. It is as if they think it would be anti-social or something to leave a silence so they talk non-stop. The trouble with that is if you try to ignore then you seem rude so they ar eputting an obligation on you to join in.

The humming, singing, whistling thing I would have no issue with though. Possibly just as well because I am sure I do this a lot myself. It might sometimes sound tuneless to other people but that could be when I have my part from band going through my head and it is rare that I have the part with the actual tune.

livinginwonderland · 04/06/2013 13:30

DP quotes TV shows if there's an awkward silence. Fuck knows why because it's never anything relevant or funny and it's always the same thing!

charitygirl · 04/06/2013 18:02

Seeing as how coke use is ubiquitous in the media and music industry, who has Tulisa pissed off, and how, to be singled out for a sting?

I wonder if it was standing up for herself over the sex tape.

charitygirl · 04/06/2013 18:03

Piss, wrong thread.

jessjessjess · 04/06/2013 19:06

My NSDM does the humming thing. It makes her sound kind of mad. And the talking. She drives me insane whenever she comes round.

Janniroy60 · 31/08/2014 16:22

Just seen this thread and wondering if anyone thinks it is related to dementia. I have just spent two weeks away with my mum - sharing same room - and she is not able to allow a period of silence. She has to hum. If she gets up from a chair to walk to the loo she will him, if she walks from the sun bed to the beach she will hum. I felt so bad because I found it so so irritating. What is wrong with me? I did mention it but she got upset and said I should be glad that she is happy. She said other people have remarked on how nice it is that she is happy and singing. Anyways I was wondering, cos she never used to do it, whether it may be first sign of dementia. She also talks to herself a lot when she is doing things, a running commentary. I feel so bad cos I love her and I don't wAnt to be irritated by her. Help!!

Shockers · 31/08/2014 18:56

There's a man in our local supermarket that whistles. If I get through the door and hear him, I have to abandon the exercise. I cannot concentrate through my unjustified rage. The supermarket is just round the corner. When I arrive back empty handed, DH sighs and asks if whistler was in.

SueDoku · 31/08/2014 20:22

Gosh, you'd all hate me... I've always hummed/sung to myself when I'm alone (unless I'm reading ). I know that it irritates my DD and so try not to do it when I'm with her I don't always succeed

Unfortunately, earlier this year I had an extremely allergic reaction which caused me to cough violently and then to lose my voice for five weeks (!!!) and the speech therapist who I'm now seeing has told me that I must hum gently as much as possible 'To exercise your vocal chords gently and get them used to working again' ...

My DD went pale when I told her - so I've bought her some ear-plugs

CouldntGiveAMonkeysToss · 31/08/2014 20:28

Yes my tone deaf DH is constantly "amma namma nammering" he only knows roughly the first four words of any song and just "sings" amma namma namma after that. Really annoys me! He's so loud too! I keep telling him that neither me or the neighbours wants to hear his constant noise. He often sings in this awful chalk down a blackboard falsetto too and has been known to whistle!
There's just no need!

Sunny67 · 31/08/2014 22:08

I work with someone who whistles the theme tune to the Banana Splits, constantly!!! The times I've wanted to stab him with my biro are countless. Not that that's any help but I feel better for getting it off my chest :-)

Fulana99 · 07/01/2021 15:20

I am new to this. I saw a post about how constant humming can be very annoying. Apparently the post is old and I don't know what the initials DM or DP stand for. Is it something British? I am American but planning a move to Ireland so need to learn these things. Technically I am not a MUM. But I have a 72 year old partner who often acts like a child! Is anybody still interested in this topic? constant humming and how to be less irritable about it.

Fulana99 · 07/01/2021 15:23

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