That's right, diving. On a pretty much restarted island. 5 hours drive away from your baby...
My darljng, crazy sister is 39 and expecting her first baby in July. She lives in south east Asia with her dh, both British but been out there for 7 years now. Charmed life, big income, large house, live in maid etc etc.
I've just got back from my mums who had her weekly Skype with ds is this morning. Mum has booked to go out to my sister's about 3 weeks after the baby is due to meet the baby, see my sister and help out. Today my sister asked mum if she would look after the baby for 3 nights whilst they go on a diving trip.
Sis and her dh are seasoned, experienced divers and pre pregnancy would be away on dive trips once a month. She's obviously itching to do it again as she hasn't been able to whilst pregnant.
She's planning to bf but will express.
The island they dive on is a 4 hour drive and 30 minutes on a boat. It is pretty much deserted apart from the dive club, only has power a few hours a day when the generator is put on to refill the tanks. I've been, it's stunning, but bloody cut off!
Mum is going out on her own, isn't that confident in the country, sticks to their pool and whatever restaurant the y drive her to of an evening. She'd be happier in an exclusive beach resort but hasn't had a holiday like that for years because she goes out to see dsis every year.
Mum said no. She's happy to look after the baby so they can go out for a meal or whatever but not 3 nights with a new born n a country isn't familiar with or confident in.
Sis took the higher and said something along the line of but you look after paradise kids. Yes, she's had ours overnight on a regular basis from about 12 weeks but we're 30minutes down the road on the end of a phone if need be.
All that aside - wtf? Diving? 3 weeks post birth I still felt like my insides were falling out if I walked any longer than 10 minutes and a bra hurt never mind a fucking wet suit!
AIBU?
to think you won't want to go diving 3 weeks after giving birth
ParadiseChick · 31/03/2013 20:30
I'm a keen and experienced diver myself and totally love it BUT I don't think your sis has a clue!
I've got 3 DCs and there was no way in hell that I would have been diving 3 weeks postnatally.
I also do remember when I was pregnant with DC1, that I would say that I would be doing this and doing that after the birth, but on birth day, everything changed. Your sis is still thinking like a person with no kids.
On a more practical note, she won't be allowed to do anything until her 6 week check- certainly not diving with possible risk of embolism or thrombosis.
Also I don't think she acknowledges the maternal instinct. I was very protective of DC1 after birth and you couldn't have prised me away.
I think she is BU to even consider it TBH. She'll just have to wait.....and learn that sacrifice is part of becoming a parent. Her needs will have to take the back seat for a while.
Good luck in trying to get her to see the error of her ways. 
Show your DSis this thread.
Then be prepared for her to ignore all advice and do whatever she feels is right after she's had her baby.
Even if she can get enough milk expressed in three weeks/or gives formula, she will need to pump about every two hours whilst away to protect her supply/prevent mastitis. Engorgement can be agonisingly painful, with the pressure from diving too 
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It's a ridiculous idea but she won't thank you for telling her.
Maybe suggest to your sister that it might be a bit tricky changing maternity pads in a wetsuit??
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