To be pissed off with parents who believe all rules should be bent for their little darlings?

[IAmLouisWalsh]

I am a teacher. In the last few weeks I have been told that some children in my school are allergic to their school uniform, suffer with extreme cold and so need to wear coats in class, have to keep jewellery on because it is sentimental, should be allowed to use staffroom facilities to microwave their own lunch....don't even start me on phones.

DH works with much older DCs - adults, essentially - and has put up with a whole range of shite from parents recently too, making excuses for why their (fully grown) offspring should take precedence over the needs of every one else.

Of the last 20 tales we have been told between us, I reckon 1 is true, 1 is half true and the rest are absolute bollocks.

Either front up and be honest about trying to bend the rules, or just fucking accept it.

[CloudsAndTrees]

Midnite - I can relate!

Last week I was told I should be able to cut up Little Isabelle's apples or pears before she has her packed lunch because those are her favourite fruits and she doesn't like them if they are not freshly cut up. This child is 8 FFS!

I've also been told that Little Tom doesn't like his peg being close to the window, so it should be moved.

[treas]

And are you still going to be dealing with this for your DCs when they are 21?

Well it would be nice if teachers (not all I know) actually listened to the children and didn't override their genuine concerns or brow beat them into doing something that is for the teacher's convenience and not the child's.

[dyzzidi]

It's the actual outrage of some of the parents at our school who shout at you when you will not interrupt an assembly or a class to pass on a message to they're child. I always explain that I will personally seek their child out at break time and pass the message on but that is just not good enough. This is a primary where the kids aren't allowed phones so whatever he message it's not going to make a difference what time I pass on such abody go home to grandmas tonight.

My other favourite is when they ask at the office what did little one have for lunch and did they eat it all. Erm hello collect your child on time from the correct exit and ask the teacher, not me who has 450 kids in the school none of which I watch eat lunch. Aarggghhh.

[BimbaBirba]

The GP found no evidence of bone disease in my son. Does that mean it's a lie? I don't see why he would make it up with me.
I'm sorry OP I still think YABU to demand written medical evidence in order to believe. A teacher shouldn't be like the DWP rejecting a DLA application unless medical evidence is submitted.

[herladyship]

teachers at dd's (very strict) secondary school are actually very tolerant & kind, and seem to work (within the rules) to ensure all children are happy & comfortable

No complaints about therm!

[sherbetpips]

herladyship may I be brave enough to ask if the new shirts are working? Are they the same style and material, are they softer on the collar and less irritating or do they look different from the mass market ones. You didn't read the rest of my post properly I too 'pander'. Be honest do you ever think when paying out that possibly the expensive shirt people are making a buck out of us?
My DS is also suffering from chronic exczema on his hands. His fingers literally crack open but I often wonder when looking at the various Expensive products that I pay out for that promise to make it better - can they solve dermatitis? Nope. Why do I buy them then? Why did you decide the the chemicals were to blame? Why did you decide that product was the solution?
Please don't tell me to f off again I am genuinely interested in why we are all doing this? Which is I suppose the root of the OP's complaint?

[TeWiSavesTheDay]

How do you know your child has a bone disease if he doesn't have a diagnosis?

[Sparklingbrook]

My brother got suspended from High School. My Dad went in to find out what happened. Agreed entirely with the decision and shook the Deputy Head's hand.

[herladyship]

Shirts are ugly, shapeless, a nightmare to iron & overpriced... dd HATES them

However, they are 100% cotton with no chemicals in collar & have cured the problem

[BimbaBirba]

I don't know that he has a bone disease because there's no evidence of anything abnormal. However lack
lack of disease or diagnosis doesn't necessarily equate to lack of pain.

[sausagesandwich34]

dd(9) was complaining about where her peg was in the cloakroom as it was in the corner near where there was a missing ceiling tile and she didn't like standing under it -could I talk to the teacher

I told her to go whistle, there were worse things in life than having a peg in the corner and she could get on with it

the following week, she came home and her pe kit was soaked through. it had been raining and I said I was surprised they had done pe in the rain rather than in the hall....

turns out the ceiling tile was missing due to a roof leak and everytime it rained her coat etc was getting wet

but I still don't pander to my dcs -oops!

[poppypebble]

Actually, schools can enforce detentions without parental permission - they only need to provide 24 hours notice. Some SLT are too frightened of parents to do this, however.

My school offers parents the alternative of a day in isolation. Most students then complete the detention.

[Shenanagins]

Then their precious little darlings go into the world of work and suddenly find that work will not listen to mummy/daddy's excuses for them.

it really is not pretty having to tell mummy that no you are not going to discuss their precious darling with you as they are not the employee.

to the parents who are doing this to their children whilst in school for non-reasons, e.g not medical related, you really are not doing your child any favours.

[poppypebble]

Bimba have you had your child seen by a specialist? I'd insist on a referral. I also suffered with joint problems as a child which could not be easily diagnosed. The GP provided me with a letter stating what I could and couldn't be expected to do in school. I was provided with a chair for assemblies and didn't do some types of PE. The GP didn't need a diagnosis to provide the letter.

I'm just waiting to be old enough to have a knee replacement now.

[amillionyears]

In the interests of this thread,and my watching, I think a poster should say whether they are a teacher or parent!

I will sit on the school fence, as my youngest has now left school.

[MidniteScribbler]

Well it would be nice if teachers (not all I know) actually listened to the children and didn't override their genuine concerns or brow beat them into doing something that is for the teacher's convenience and not the child's.

I am not employed to toast sandwiches or cut up fruit. I'm there to actually, you know, TEACH. We have an extensive curriculum that I must cover within the school year, and I really don't have time to play waitress. Parents need to understand that schools are there to educate their children, not to be their parents or butlers.

We don't just make arbitary rules for the sake of it. I ask that parents send fruit to school cut up or ready to eat. It's not just to make their lives difficult.

1. It reduces waste in the classroom, and since the cleaners only come in twice a week, I don't want food waste sitting in the bins which can attract vermin.
   
2. I assign ten minutes for fruit time and it takes extra time out of an already packed school day while the students cut and prepare their fruit.
   
3. Students aren't allowed to bring knives to school for obvious reasons and to prevent them hurting themselves.
   
4. We have students with allergies and intolerances in our class, but the school doesn't have any food bans. Children having a small container of their own food that they eat means less chance of accidental cross contamination.
   
   So when mummy comes in and tries to demand that little Johnny needs his fruit cut up just before he eats it, then I say no. I have very good reasons for doing so.

[VictorAndBarry]

My DD has Raynaud's disease. i could quite legtimately insist she wears glves and a scarf to keep warm.

She would kill me if I did though

[sherbetpips]

dayshiftdoris ah a far more difficult issue to tackle then. My nephews condition got worse in high school. Eating and having anyone touching him became particular issues for him but my SIL found the teachers were far more understanding in seniors.

[ItsintheBag]

I worked for a letting agent.
The mother of one of the tenants rang me to complain about his gas bill and asked me what I was going to do about it,it was too high dontya know. bitch slap her son sadly wasn't an option

I would love to tell you this was the only phone call I had of that nature but it wasn't.
We were also asked to mediate when two tenants fell out with each other by another mother

[ItsintheBag]

Sorry my point is there are some parents that pander from 0- to old age.
Nothing to be done about them

My son gets to wear his coat,but its because the heating is often on the blink in the prefab

[Sparklingbrook]

I'm not a teacher. I couldn't do it. mainly because of the parents.

[Sparklingbrook]

On residential trips you get that form to fill in about bedtime routines. I would love to see what parents write on those.