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AIBU?

To think adults who can't drive are a nuisance

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Atthewelles · 27/12/2012 14:07

Barring situations where an illness or financial circumstances proscribe it aibu to think adults who can't drive are a PITA. People have to constantly go out of their way to collect/drop them off places; arrange plans around the times that suit the non-driver who can't travel solo but has to tag along with you; always be the designated driver who can't have a drink while the non driver happily slurps a third glass of wine etc etc etc

Yes, I have been spending too much time with a non driving sibling over the family Christmas but AIBU to think that a perfectly functioning adult (who is extremely technically minded) in full time paid employment, should bloody well learn to drive.

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FestiveElement · 27/12/2012 14:58

They also use driving as an excuse for not having a drink when actually they're really uptight and could easily have gotten the train, left the car at home and had a bit of fun.

People can enjoy themselves without drinking!

If anything, it makes you uptight if you can't enjoy a night out without an alcoholic drink.

noddyholder · 27/12/2012 14:58

I am a nuisance ten but never expect anyone to drive me

Birdsgottafly · 27/12/2012 14:58

Again OP, that may be the case in your family, my mum lives within walking distance of those who are happy to have her for Christmas.

She also gets the higher rate attendance allowance, so can afford taxi's.

In my family, we are required to be on call, so often cannot drink, anyway.

Atthewelles · 27/12/2012 14:59

It's not about 'having balls'. It's about not wanting to appear rude or disobliging.

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usualsuspect3 · 27/12/2012 14:59

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whistlestopcafe · 27/12/2012 14:59

OP you sound very bitter over something which really is a non issue.

Salmotrutta · 27/12/2012 15:00

equidistantly even.

Stoopid iPad.

Lueji · 27/12/2012 15:00

yet again, they sip a 7Up on Christmas day because they have to drive elderly mother home afterwards because the non driver can't offer to do it for a change.
Surely elderly mother can be taken home in a cab, so that you can drink.
Your choice to leave the car at home or not.
What if you were an only child? Would you blame your mother for not having more children?

Personally, I took DS home by car on Christmas day. So I didn't drink more than a glass of wine at lunch.
PITA DS?

Atthewelles · 27/12/2012 15:00

Oh, behave Usual.

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cinnamonnut · 27/12/2012 15:00

Ah, I see then - we should all drive and have a car just so poor drivers don't feel obliged to offer lifts when it's raining.

ImperialSantaKnickers · 27/12/2012 15:01

I'm constantly amazed at the number of people who don't read OPs, and then respond to the wrong question. This thread's been a classic example - the very first sentence is 'Barring situations where an illness or financial circumstances proscribe it aibu to think adults who can't drive are a PITA.' And then a dozen posters write in all upset that the OP is calling them a PITA, because they are not able to drive for various medical reasons/can't afford to learn. Excuse me????

crashdoll · 27/12/2012 15:01

Of course my comparison was ridiculous, that was the bloody point! That post was ridiculous labelling drivers as 'kind'. It's stupid to label one group of people in a favourable light to suit your own agenda.

cinnamonnut · 27/12/2012 15:02

What about the posters who don't drive for reasons other than illness and financial circumstances?

FestiveElement · 27/12/2012 15:02

So you begrudge someone a lift in the rain?

If its well out of my way and going to make me get home even later than it would have been when it was already going to be a late night, yes, I do. As is my prerogative. I'd also begrudge it on behalf of my husband who doesn't drink so often gives people lifts, when he's been at work that day and already had to drive for two or more hours.

usualsuspect3 · 27/12/2012 15:02

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MerylStrop · 27/12/2012 15:02

Atthewelles, you are only talking about your own circumstances.

Most non-drivers take responsibility for themselves, as this thread attests. if your sibling treats you like a doormat that's your problem.

World would be a better place if owning a car became as socially inacceptable as smoking.

FestiveElement · 27/12/2012 15:03

Ah, I see then - we should all drive and have a car just so poor drivers don't feel obliged to offer lifts when it's raining

No, of course not. You just shouldn't believe that you never put anyone else out unless you are never offered lifts.

MerylStrop · 27/12/2012 15:03

LOL at usual suspect

insancerre · 27/12/2012 15:03

I have an umbrella- it's very useful when it's raining and unlike the wicked witch of the west, non-drivers do not melt when it rains.

cinnamonnut · 27/12/2012 15:04

Usual

WorraLorraTurkey · 27/12/2012 15:04

I don't think non drivers are knowingly or deliberately putting upon people; just that they don't realise how often people are gritting their teeth as they smilingly offer them a lift home in the lashing rain even though it's twenty minutes out of their way or sighing as, yet again, they sip a 7Up on Christmas day because they have to drive elderly mother home afterwards because the non driver can't offer to do it for a change.

And perhaps you don't realise the non driver is gritting their teeth wondering what sort of drama llama worries about rain? Is getting wet such a big deal?

And again, do you martyr on with your 7UP rather than phone a taxi? If so that's your problem.

You remind me of my DS's friend's Mum who insists on picking her son up from school when it rains. It's a 20 minute walk that's all and she seems to think he's going to dissolve.

That's her business but it pisses me off that she also insists on driving my DS home too...I mean to the point where he gets in the car just to keep her happy

LineRunner · 27/12/2012 15:04

I think the OP said she DID mind having the 7Up, though, FestiveElement.

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Salmotrutta · 27/12/2012 15:04

Do you not think your DH is capable of deciding for himself then Festive?

Surely that's his decision?

DontmindifIdo · 27/12/2012 15:04

worra -
'Group meetups' don't have to be on the bus route. Some of us use the legs and brains we were given and are quite capable of planning journeys without needing a lift.

Whistlestopcafe -
What does annoy me is when people arrange to meet at a lovely picturesque spot in the country that is not accessible by public transport and then they moan because they never see you anymore.

see, in order to avoid Whistlestop's problem, you do have to factor in one person's non-driving in arranging meet ups. Personally, if it's someone I like, I'll factor it in or offer to give them a lift. The person having allowances made for them might never realise it's happening.

Salmotrutta · 27/12/2012 15:07

OP YABU for drinking 7Up.

Could at least have splashed out on some Schloer.

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