by being sick?

[Maggy78]

Bit of background: I live at home (moved back in to save for house, moving out in 7 weeks). We live in the country and neither of my parents drive.

Last night my Mum asked would I take her and Dad to the graveyard mass for my Nan, which is tonight. I said no problem. Today I had soup for lunch and have been feeling really nauseous ever since. The graveyard is in the middle of no where with no toilets and I really don't feel up to driving for 40 minutes, standing for an hour and then driving 40 minutes back home.

So I called home to let parents know (there was a chance they could organise a lift with either my mums sister or Dads brother). Anyway my Dad answered the phone and I told him. He didn't say much. My Mum called me back bout half an hour later asking was I ok, and then telling me my Dad was in very bad form. I asked why and it's because I can't take them!! I said it to Mum that it's not like I planned on being sick and I usually take them and she said I didn't take them last year either (which I honestly don't remember but she obviously does)

Now I know there's going to be an atmosphere when I go home. My parents are VERY old fashioned and as I'm an only child basically I should do everything for them. But sometimes it's just physically not possible.

AM I being unreasonable?

[GwendolineMaryLacey]

Now I know where all the martyrs were hanging out last night...

[lisianthus]

Nausea is horrible. YANBU.

[twinklingfairy]

If the curch is in the middle of nowhere then you can be sick behind a wall, into some bushes, somewhere.
I would rather that than toilets. Other than my own, they all smell ich, make the being sick worse ( not saying mine is spotless or perfect, just that I know my own toilet. Sounds weird, but I had really bad Morning Sickness, like Aubergine and it is much better to be sick in your own toilet than anyone elses.)
What I am saying is, if you are ok to drive, just feel queasy, and have somewhere to be sick (side of a field, don't forget tissues) should you need and it is important to your parents...yada yada

[twinklingfairy]

Are you still at work?
How bad is it?
DO you feel you have to run to the loo for fear of throwing up or just an upset tummy.
I guess it depends on how bad the nausea is.
Maybe it is just the nerves at the thought of doing something that you don;'t really want to, not the soup at all.
Just a thought.

[twinklingfairy]

oh, hang on this was yesterday. The church thing was last night.
Did OP go?

[2rebecca]

Did you go? It all sounds a bit bizarrely last minute. I would think a mass in the middle of nowhere takes some arranging so your parents only asking you to take them on Monday night seems a bit odd. What was their back up plan if you said no? Is this your gran's funeral service or an anniversary of her death thing?
I think there are some jobs you could still do if feeling sick but that driving when feeling sick is unpleasant so don't agree with those who say if you can do one you can do the other.
What would your parents have done if you weren't living with them?

[JosieRosie]

I just cannot believe some of the responses on here. Be sick behind the car? Neck some Gaviscon? TAKE A BUCKET????

OP, you have my full and total sympathy. I was ill on Monday - toilet troubles plus fever, as well as nausea that I was sure would lead to vomiting (but didn't, phew!). I got zero sympathy from my sister who seemed to think I was milking the situation and being a martyr. It really makes you feel so much worse. Only you know your family situation, but my advice would be do not be guilt-tripped into doing things you do not feel up to. Sometimes you do need to put yourself first
Hope you feel better