I totally get it. I had to go to Salisbury with cluster migraines. I was in a ward with 15 or so elderly women. Very few had visitors. I was admitted in the evening after the dinner trolley. In the morning i went straight for a spinal so missed the breakfast trolley and they forgot to get me to fill out a menu for the rest of the day (had to be done the night before and i was in the admissions ward, then when moved to the womens ward no one asked. I didn't think to mention as i don't have much experience of NHS hospitals tbh.
I had a scan that afternoon so missed lunch and dinner, although as i hadn't filled out the form i wasn't sure i was getting any anyway!
Filled out a form for the next day. They ran out of toast and i didn't order porridge. Woman said she'd be back with more toast and never returned. I ws taking pain killers on an empty stomach. When i complained nurse just rolled her eyes, lunch trolley will be around soon. Lunch was totally inedible. And believe me i am not fussy. Ate half of it max even though i was starving.
They moved me to a corner of the l shaped ward that afternoon as the strip lighting was killing me . That evening the dinner trolley missed me as as i was round the corner and asleep! Seriously! So the form for the next day which was on this trolley wasn't filled out again.
My husband couldn't visit every night he was in the army and had our 2 yo to care for in the evenings plus the hospital was 50 minutes away from home.
By the time he got there i was in pieces, lost my dignity, a bit of my sanity, felt like a trouble maker and was bloody starving. He had to go to the shop and smuggle me a kit kat.
And i am a 36 yo woman, what if you are 70 and too weak to kick off?
When i felt a bit better and ask to be discharged i spent the entire afternoon helping these ladies with pillows, slippers, blankets, water from their jug as the auxillary nurses seemed to just ignore the buzzers after a while. Every request was like to much trouble. But i could look down the hall and see them all sat in the office.
You should have seen the face on one of them when i asked if it was my job to remove the faeces caked adult nappy on the floor of the bathroom before i could shower in there. It was as if i'd asked her to wipe my own backside!