How often do you/nursery slip up?

[trixymalixy]

It seems like every week DS is given piriton at nursery.

Today he managed to drink some milk from another child's cup and last week they gave him something with egg in it.

I'm not that great myself, I managed to give him egg pasta by mistake before Xmas and he got hold of a milk chocolate the other week.

I just worry that this constant exposure will make him less likely to grow out of his allergies. Luckily he isn't anaphlactic to anything yet!!

Am I the only crap mother that constantly slips up?!?!?

Wow, the more I read this the more worried I feel. In my heart I don't feel that they take it seriously enough and I am worried about overracting because I am not really sure what our alternative is. We have a follow up with our allergy consultant in a fortnight - DS has become allergic to eggs and soya as well as milk since he was last seen - so I will chat it through with him and then go back and have a meeting with the nursery I think. It is a good nursery and they do have procedures in place, but nothing like placemats, separate tables etc and I haven't spoken to the cook but think most of the food is brought in.

I do have quite a good relationship with the cook as she is quite keen to include my DS as much as possible in eating the same as the other children.

I bring all his bread and teacakes etc for snacks as it is a nightmare finding stuff like that without soya in and I can't really expect them to order stuff from M&S specially for my DS.

The quorn thing was a bit of a misunderstanding as I was discussing with the cook what DS could and couldn't eat and she said the rest were having spag bol for lunch and could DS eat that. She said that she had said it was quorn spag bol, but I must have missed that. I was a bit p*ssed off as i would have expected them to check every ingredient in the spag bol as she didn't list them all, especially as I said to check the pasta didn't have egg in it.

I am getting worried about this now as his reaction to sesame got worse with every exposure, so I'm worried he might become anaphlactic to milk or egg.

Hi Trixymalixy,

my DS is very severely allergic to milk, and allergic to peanuts and egg.

he has been at nursery 4 days week since he was 6 months old now 3 and the nursery has been great. they call if they want to give him any medicine and have only had to give piriten once or twice, but they call if they have a question about any food they are not sure about or ask when i pick him up. they would never give him piriten without asking. also ALL the nursery staff got epipen training when he got one.

people are human and everyone makes mistakes - we have! however i never consider taking him out of nursery - i dont want him wrapped in cotton wool made isolated from other kids and normality, and how are we to know when he may grow out of things other than getting tests done. however they do seem rather lax and giving piriten willy nilly which i wouldnt be happy about.

Do M&S do soya free bread then trixymalixy? Oooh. Mind you, they are the only place that seem to put blardy milk in their bread!

You are right that the constant exposure will make him less likely to grow out of his allergies. DS1 has an epipen for milk and eggs and recently had an accidental exposure which was fairly uneventful! We were SO excited but recent allergy tests showed the allergies were as serious as ever. The allergy nurse said that the lack of exposure would have enabled the body to recover and therefore there wasn't a full-scale reaction.

I took my egg allergic ds out of nursery because his room manager had him cracking eggs into a bowl whilst baking fairy cakes!!! The nursery did very little other than apologise and go on about their precious "policies" and I couldn't risk them making a mistake like that again - sooner or later a child will have a severe reaction there and I don't want it to be one of mine.

speaking as someone who had a senior role in a day nursery, and a mother of a allergic child, ANY slip up at a day nursery is serious.

As parents with allergic children, we DONT know if our children are severely allergic to the point of anaphylaxis, and we cant base that on previous reactions. that is for a immunologist to determine.

A action plan should be in place and be used when an allergic reaction occurs. They should know WHAT to DO, right then and there, they shoundnt be ringing up mother and asking what next, while child is reacting.
This is a very serious fault.

like wise accidents, /slip ups.............each room should have protocals in place to stop such accidents.
One slip is bad enough, but to not think ahead and plan protocals to stop it happening in the future is not responsible.

it shows a lack of understanding of the severity of food allergies.

hey and not noticing that a child is having a reaction is really scary...............and being sleepy................that scares the hell out of me...............lowering blood pressure..........

I think they are total morons in that place, yes. Anyway, I reported them to the local authority and to Ofsted. Don't know what will come of it but I was absolutely furious. It wasn't even the first time they made a mistake either, previously my dp went to collect ds and he was sat there with one of the assistants with his eyes and face swollen and salivating a lot, but she hadn't even noticed! Apparently a similar thing happened at around the same time with one of my ds's friends who has multiple allergies. This nursery though has a good reputation and a good Ofsted report and so it really worries me that others out there could be even worse.