I'm not going to say it isn't a major change. It is. But it is a change that is doable, and after a bit it just becomes routine. Grocery shopping will be a challenge at first, reading labels and finding substitutes or 'new favourites'. But you'll get used to it. One thing I will suggest is that you cook gluten free for the whole family. Don't try to cook separate versions of dishes, it will be a nightmare. You'll probably find that you can do it easily with a few substitutions and 'tweaks' and they won't notice the difference. I do have gluten bread/rolls/buns and biscuits for the family, but pasta, noodles, gravies etc are strictly GF.
Yes, it's hereditary. IIRC it's a 1 in 10 chance that a child will have it if a parent or sibling does. I have two sons and my DS2 has had genetic testing done that shows that he is a carrier but is unlikely to develop Coeliac himself. DS1 refused testing. Both of them feel it's no big deal if they do develop CD.
I'm in the US, so brands will be different, but there are very good GF breads. I have toast dripping with butter every morning for breakfast. It will be a matter of researching reviews and trying them out to see which you like best.
Eating out can be done, but it is tricky I won't lie. You'll soon find the 'safe' places in your area. Where I live luckily there are a lot of restaurants offering GF dishes and a little questioning will quickly tell me if they practice good and safe prep for allergies. Again, with time and experience you'll do it easily.
I assume you're in the UK. Check out www.coeliac.org.uk/home/
There may be a local chapter in your area that has meetings. And there are websites and forums around, too.
As far as the endoscopy, I've had three and theywere a breeze. Two were done under sedated sleep which is pretty routine here. An IV, count backwards from 10 and 'nighty-night' before you get to 6. Wake up and they're all done. Decades ago I was just heavily sedated but even so it wasn't traumatic, I was too 'zoned out' to care what they were doing. You'll be fine either way. As far as the test itself, it's not just the extent of the damage, but Coeliac damages your intestines in a certain way, it has a certain appearance, and that's what gives the definitive diagnosis.
I'm not going to say there aren't times where it's frustrating or I feel sad or angry about the changes and challenges, but then I realize I'm here and healthy. It's not cancer, it's not diabetes, it's not fatal or debilitating. We won't die from it. But for now, just eat what you want. When I was being diagnosed they told me to load up on pasta, etc to get the best endoscopy results, although I don't know if that's still what they advise.
Feel free to PM me if you get a positive endoscopy and you need some sympathy or advice.