Reject or ignore half arsed AA apology?

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Nc because this is v identifying

I'm NC with my older brother. He physically bullied me as a child, my parents ignored it, I resented them for that, none of us have a good relationship.

My brother has always been an entitled arse. Not sure if he's always drunk. Lots of drugs.

He's never really worked, sponges off my parents, golden child, world owes him a living blah blah blah.

I ended contact in our early 20s when after years of "borrowing" money off me he claimed I was lying about it and refused to repay. I thought, fuck this!

Things escalated last year when he became verbally abusive to my aged DPs. They covered it up but he ended up having an "episode" and pushed my DM over. Fortunately she was physically ok but v shaken. Didn't press charges.

DPs have subsequently excused his behaviour. He's never apologised to her or acknowledged what he did.

DB has been in AA for some time, before the episode.
He has uncharacteristically left me an Xmas card in which he apologises for being part of name calling when I was younger. No mention of the physical bullying, mostoy instigated by him.

Feels like he's totally minimised everything.

I think, fuck off. I don't want a relationship with him, I don't accept his half arsed apology which doesn't actually take responsibility and doesn't cover the stuff I'm actually NC for.

What do I do? Just ignore?

I would ignore. There doesn’t sound like much to be gained from reaching out and he clearly doesn’t really accept responsibility or he would apologise properly. He’s probably doing it so he can say to your parents he has, therefore making you the bad guy if you don’t welcome him back with open arms.

Hey,

I’m in recovery. This isn’t a proper amends. A person should first be approached and asked if they are willing to talk (this approach doesn’t always happen). An amends should be made once a fearless and through moral inventory has been taken of ourselves. Your brother hasn’t done that. He’s working the programme a bit but not properly because he’s still being dishonest. In time this may change. For now, I would ignore this half arsed attempt.

A proper amends invites the other party to talk about how these incidents have affected them and hear their side of the story. To be fair, as an addict he really might believe his own bullshit, genuinely, maybe he might benefit from hearing things from your POV?