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Please please help me stop

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ijustneedtodoit · 18/11/2024 20:07

I just don't know how to do it. I've tried many times in the past and each time has failed. I want to be a better mom, a better person and I also want to stop feeling so poorly all the time. I drink about 3/4 of a bottle of wine a night. I'm in my 30s and I have drank since I was in my early teens as my abusive father thought it funny to give me drink at 13. I obviously didn't drink during pregnancy but since then I have no will power. My DC need me more than ever at the moment, for various reasons. They don't know I drink as they are too young but I know I can be better for them without it. Tomorrow is my day 1. Please help me through this as I don't know how to do it and I'm so terrified of failing again. I need to give it up for good.

OP posts:
Lamelie · 18/11/2024 20:19

AA
It’s life changing. I got sober 15 years ago and could leave the dc at home with dh. You can join via zoom nowadays. Just listen at first.
Flowers
www.alcoholics-anonymous.org.uk/find-a-meeting/?form=online&view=list&sort=&times%5B%5D=evening#results

Jesusmaryjosephandtheweedon · 18/11/2024 20:22

I couldn't read and run. I have experience with alcoholism, and I want to say to you that you should be very proud you are taking this step. It will improve your life and that of your children in so many ways. I've seem what alcoholism in a family can do, the longer you continue the worse it will get. I've personally known two alcoholics die from it and a much younger age than they should. Leaving my kids without a grandparent and devastated by it. My DH without a parent. No matter how many times he tried to address it with them they refused to acknowledge a problem and they struggle with that knowledge now that parent has passed. Could they have done more etc etc.

I understand that the root of your alcoholism may have come from your own parent. If its possible some counselling could help you with the cause.

From the perspective of actually giving up alcohol I'm not sure i have a lot of.practical advice. I know people who have been prescribed medication to help this. The problem is it is an addiction and you are fixated on it. It could help to have something to directly replace it. Whether it's sparkling water or a favoured soft drink. Or acknowledge your triggers and try to have a plan for when that happens. Maybe take up crocheting so your hands are always busy.

Each time the craving hits, repeat a mantra jn your head until it passes. Im doing this for my kids, I'm doing this for my kids. Etc etc.

You have the experience and you know what damage it can cause, just think is this what you want for your kids? Is this the life experience you want them to have? You know you can do it. You've already done it before, when pregnant and protecting your baby, now you are protecting your children, there is no difference.

Take it one minute at a time. And the very best of luck OP. Someone else will be along soon with better, more practical advice for you x

duckduckgooseduckagain · 18/11/2024 21:23

Honestly the first day of not having a drink is so hard, it's just making that decision. It gets easier every day. I've just read 99% sober by Patrick Duffy which I would recommend. Get lots of alcohol free drinks in to have instead. Not alcohol free wine though cos that's awful (zero prosecco's not bad). Do it for you, you deserve to not have that awful feeling of guilt every morning and to feel healthier. I wish you luck

CarrotSeeds · 19/11/2024 09:27

The Continuing Support Thread for Anyone Trying to Lead an Alcohol-Free Life Autumn 2024 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/alcohol_support/5152448-the-continuing-support-thread-for-anyone-trying-to-lead-an-alcohol-free-life-autumn-2024

Hope the link works. Have a read through this thread. It is full of lovely supportive women who have been where you are now. You can do this 😊

Touty · 19/11/2024 23:34

It took a rock bottom moment for me to finally give up that evil poison; I tried to walk home from the pub after too much, tripped and fell flat on my face, I couldn’t move. I passed out.

This really frightened me. I’ve been sober 10 months now. I now see that trying to drink away my depression was a losing game. Since I’ve given up the booze my mental health has improved and I’ve made life changes which I know I would not have had the motivation to do if I had carried on drinking.

Demurelemur · 23/11/2024 13:33

How are you doing op?

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