Hello all. New to this so please excuse if it starts going off the rails a bit I'm already a bottle of wine in and it's not even 7'o clock
I'm in my 50s, married and have always struggled with drinking too much. When I was in my 20s 3 bottles of Diamond White every 2 nights was my poison (sounds ridiculously small amount of alcohol) and I had 3 small kids, managed to function perfectly well but even then I knew I had a problem. Tried going to AA but felt a bit of a fraud as I wasn't drinking round the clock and on the surface seemed to be ok.
As the years passed our circumstances changed and I swapped cider for wine and eventually 3 bottles of diamond white became 2 bottles of wine every 2 nights instead. Still aware I had a problem but wine seemed more socially acceptable although in the most part I was drinking alone at home.
In all this time I have held down a job, raised 3 absolutely amazing boys and my husband and I now run a successful business together.
Here's the problem. Or he is the problem, I know. He's been a devoted husband and father, we met when we were at school and honestly he would do anything for me and our boys.
But he doesn't seem to see that my drinking is a problem in fact he's the one who'll come home with a few (6) bottles of a nice Sauvignon Blanc as it's on special or go online and buy fancy gin(£50) that someone mentioned they'd tried. I've spoken to him about this, he knows how much I drink, I don't hide empty bottles from him, I don't have to and tbh I don't even know the last time I have actually bought any alcohol but there's always wine in the fridge. He doesn't drink anymore btw
I was talking to a friend who is close to both of us and asked if they thought it was a weird thing and they basically said that all my husband was trying to do was make me happy
We have a great life, nice holidays etc, husband bought me a horse.
Not really sure why I'm on here. I know I drink too much so does husband but it doesn't really affect our lives in general although sometimes I just spend a day in bed because I can't be bothered getting up and maybe he does think that alcohol makes me happy. I don't really think it does but I look forward to that first drink at 6 pm