So it would appear I've hit my rock bottom.
Got paid on Wednesday and have drank my way through my wages since then.
Bills are paid but I have nothing left for anything else that occurs.
I've tried to give up for years to no avail.
I sadly just love drinking. I'm 55 and in a 'professional job' which is very stressful.
How do you change a lifetime of heavy binge drinking? I feel so ashamed that it's got to this.
How do I start and maintain an alcohol free life?
Thanks in advance for any help
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No money for the month. I have to stop now
Meezer2 · 03/10/2022 10:12
So it would appear I've hit my rock bottom.
TheFuckingDogs · 03/10/2022 10:55
There is also a lot of quit lit and self help out there.
AA is good for some people but there are also many other online options now too.
be kind to yourself, take it easy over the next few weeks and do things non booze related that make you happy.
you can do it
clowerina · 03/10/2022 17:36
I think if you're going to give something up you need to replace it with something else - a hobby of sorts - to distract and replace the time with something more positive. sport? running? yoga? these are good because after a short while you get endorphins. even gaming (easy to sit down and game of an eve and you get really into some games) or something to look forward to.
Northernsoullover · 03/10/2022 21:14
I quit drinking by using the audible version of Alcohol Lied to Me by Craig Beck. I was drinking harmful levels and had tried to quit for years. It was like someone had flicked a switch and cured me overnight. I'm nearly 4 years free of alcohol.
Northernsoullover · 03/10/2022 21:22
I know you didn't direct your question to me but just thought I'd add. I tried to quit for ten years. I tried AA but I didn't stick with it because I honestly believed my life would be joyless without alcohol and didn't want to stop. I just wanted to be 'sensible'. My life is far more joyful since stopping.
Onewildandpreciouslife · 03/10/2022 22:28
I'm 6 months sober, and about a year younger than you. I would recommend reading some “quit lit” - The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober is a good start. As are The Alcohol Experiment and The Sober Diaries.
It will help you to question some of your assumptions around alcohol- although you say you love drinking, how much do you really love it? For me, I eventually realised I really loved the moment just before my first glass of the evening, and possibly the first couple of sips - after that I was just thinking about how much I had left, and when I could get my next glass. And then there was the 3am anxiety, followed by a morning feeling “off”. I was enjoying 5 minutes, but spoiling the rest of my day.
Since stopping, my mental well-being has improved massively, as has my fitness levels, skin and hair.
And I haven’t gone to AA, although I have joined a couple of the Alcohol Change Facebook groups.
Stircrazyschoolmum · 04/10/2022 09:12
Wow! So many positive and inspirational stories on here.
I have been round and round the revolving door of quitting, moderating, drinking, binging, multiple times - with my longest alcohol-free period being around 9 months. (High functioning, two kids, stable relationship and own business, on paper all good but a complete mess inside.)
Having ended up in A&E last Thursday, I've resolved that I've got to quit and quit for good. I've learned the hard way that it's a progressive thing and reading the shared experiences on this thread and others has made me realise that if I don't stop soon I'll end up dead.
Obviously, I'm at the start of my journey (again) so there's only so much 'advice' I can give. But I wanted to share something I found on one of the quit lit sites (poss sober diaries but I can't remember!) It said that basically - finding a substitute for your time is very useful, if you take something away you create a vaccum and ultimately feel deprived. However, the mindset work is really, really important. Otherwise, you are doing the equivalent of choosing what paint colour to decorate your walls whilst your house burns down. Yes, definitely build a toolbox of distractions and self care techniques, but simultaneously look really hard at why you drink and what you need to change in your life to help sobriety stick (job, relationships, lifestyle, location, unprocessed traumas or history to name a few) This really resonated with me, since having my kids (now teens!) I feel like I lost quite a large chunk of my independence and identity that no amount of running or yoga would compensate for. I'm now trying to find ways of returning to my old self (or perhaps finding a new improved version!) Because alcohol is no longer serving any positive purpose.
Best of luck, there's so much warmth and support on this board, I believe you can achieve anything you set your mind to.
theemmadilemma · 03/10/2022 17:34
It doesn't sound like you're physically dependent but look up your local substance abuse centre you should be able to self refer but can go via your GP.
They should be able to offer support.
The below is re detox but might still apply to accessing any help re CGL.
substance abuse centre, and self referred, which you should be able to do too. You can find them here www.nhs.uk/Service-Search/find-an-alcohol-addiction-service/location Avoid CGL they seem to direct to Detox UK who will charge. You do not need to pay, this is available on the NSH (bar usual prescription charges) and if you struggle to get free help, these can help: Dear Albert can help: www.dearalbert.co.uk/nhs-alcohol-detox/. I did around 3 months counselling once a week prior and again after. 10 day at home detox
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