I gave up alcohol 3 months ago.
I was never a massive drinker but over the years it has crept up to a third to a half of a bottle pretty much every evening. I never drank during the day and mainly enjoyed a glass to relax after a day at work/with the kids.
I got overly pissed on a night out a couple of times over the last 5 years and got The Fear the next day - awful. Not a regular thing though.
There is also potentially a type of cancer (potentially, we don't know if it's hereditary or not) in the family where alcohol is a risk factor - this played a big part in my wanting to give up.
Anyway, I tried to have a few nights off a week but found that really hard. Is it my night on/off, still thinking about a drink.
So after a fairly boozy weekend away with my husband in February I decided to stop and see what happened.
I don't miss the hangovers after a night out and I love never having to worry I've said something daft. However, I really really miss it during the week. Life just feels a bit flat and everything in lockdown seems to be about a glass of wine over Zoom/in the garden. It's everywhere.
I'm wondering what to do really. I've tried reading books "Unexpected Joy" etc.. but these are aimed at people who had use issues/ended up in jail/had blackouts/lost jobs. I can drink in moderation, not a problem at all for me, I can stop at one or two (mostly at two!) however I really enjoy those two glasses, or that cocktail in the sun. I miss it.
Looking back over my life, I also have a history of being a bit of a worrier/making my life hard through self imposed rules. So maybe I need to just relax a bit. Lots of my friends are a bit bemused about my giving up, thinking that I didn't have a problem with it.
Any words of advice? I hoped that I would feel freed up by just giving up but it's still there. Maybe I need to learn how to moderate? Help!
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Needing a bit of advice
Feelingdeprived · 15/05/2020 19:01
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