Bmi

[Mojocafa]

Hi folks.

Your thoughts please.....

Negative ...I have a high bmi Of 38

Positive.... I have years of knowledge and understanding
After fostering children with the following
Trauma, attachment disorder, ODD, ASD, ADHD, FAS, global delay, additional support needs, visual impairment, not fluent in speech,.

I am looking to adopt 1 child over 5 with complex needs, or 2 siblings over 5 whose needs are not so complex.

Financially, I am very secure, mortgage free, my partner and I will both be at home full time for at least the first year.

However although I am mentally fit and able for what is in front of us. Do you think my bmi will go against me

@AlanKathmar

this all sounds fascinating, and we may not disagree with you, but this is basically just bunch of adopters trying to convince social workers that we aren’t too fat to be parents,
I was overweight before, I’m overweight now, but within the ranges SWs care about, and thats all we care about really
There might be more interest in the science on some of the weight loss boards - some people get very technical there.

As I was the original poster, I will update....

I have attended preparation course and decided to proceed with the process.

With respect to bmi, it has been suggested that I lower it.

So how did it get so high, i think it’s fair to say , I didn’t eat big potions, I didn’t eat after my evening meal, I ate a varied diet of homemade meals, probably too many carbs. Would have a takeaway maybe once a week, and if on the rare occasion I had lunch out, I would have a light snack, if anything, for evening meal.
I enjoyed chocolate, and the very occasional glass of Merlot.
Food/weight wasn’t an issue for me.

However an under active thyroid has been an issue for 20 years.

So now.......
So for the past 5 months, I haven’t had any chocolate, alcohol, biscuits, cake, crisps, chips, rice, pasta, bread, I am totally in the zone, and I am continually counting calories trying to get the weight off in order to decrease bmi. I am now no longer morbidly obese, just obese!!!
For example tonight I made homemade chilli for the family but I had my quota of calories for the day so didn’t join the family for the evening meal because of my quest to lose weight. I have become totally obsessed which has resulted in me now having an unhealthy relationship with food. 😢
However, I will continue until I have a bmi which is acceptable in order to tick the box

The weight is coming off slowly and the bmi is coming down, I don’t agree with this at all, but as I want to proceed then it’s a sacrifice I have to make.

Yes I agree...but think I had a social worker that thought I eat cakes & biscuits everyday. Which I have never done, always eat healthy try to exercise as much as I can...difficult due to lockdown and working from home etc but now have a new social worker so hoping she's less judgemental . Guess time will tell. And since less activity through working from home I will have to make more of an effort to be active regardless of gyms closure. So they can't put any more barriers up.

@Mojocafa
that sounds grim, you did tell them about the thyroid issue?

@AlanKathmar I’m not sure what your purpose is here, ‘this’ is being required to lose weight and achieve a fairly arbitrary BMI so you can be considered suitsble to adopt

@AlanKathmar.
I am of the opinion that I can reparent therapeutically with a bmi of 35. Unfortunately due to this ludicrous judgmental rule within adoption, I have to be seen to be Working towards achieving a bmi in the “healthy range” . Regardless of wether I have a bmi of 20 or 35, it will not make my reparenting skills improve.
I have been in this profession for many years, as a FC, I have moved many children onto adoption. The adopters all presenting as Mr & Mrs physically fit, with a bmi in the healthy range. However, were they mentally prepared for what they were taking on. ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!
Apart from 1, every single adoption has disrupted, so my point is , I might be physically unfitter than some, however, mentally, I am prepared for the challenge ahead and that is what I should be judged on!

We were approved in the last few weeks, my DH has BMI of 32 and mine is 28 our first question at panel was what are we doing to lose weight. Our SW made quite a big deal of it to during assessment despite her knowing we are both pretty active.