How to put a child up for adoption

[scottishgirl98]

I'm a student at university in Scotland and I've recently found out I'm expecting. The father and I are not together and as I am only 19, we are looking through my options. I'm only 10 weeks currently and I want to have all the information/options before making a decision to keep it or otherwise. In terms of putting a baby up for adoption I don't want to leave the baby in foster care, I'd rather have it go straight to a loving home with loving parents. Does anybody know if I'd be allowed to meet a few potential parents to make sure they would provide good stable homes? I wouldn't be fussed about single parents or sexuality or marital status or anything like that, I'd just want to make sure the baby is going to a good loving permanent home and that I get updates on their progress maybe once a year if possible. Is there anybody out there whose put a newborn baby up for adoption or saught out adoptive parents while still pregnant who can tell me about the process and what it involves?

We met our lo birth mum before we were matched up and she had some input in what parents she wanted so there is discussion both ways. I would rethink though as it is not an easy decision at all and it will affect you and your baby for life, but if adoption is for you then foster to adopt means your baby would not need to enter the foster system.

I am not sure if op is still following this or what decision they may or may not have made but I wanted to point out zigzag that even in foster to adopt the child will enter the care system. They will be a lac child hopefully with its forever family but still in care. However I do think it is as I previously mentioned in the board that a relinquished baby would be placed on a foster to adopt basis at birth because of the high probability of the birth family changing their minds before they can legally relinquish the baby. Foster to adopt is used when there is a 95% chance or greater that the child will be adopted. This would not be the case on a seemingly relinquished child where there are no concerns about ability to meet lo needs should they decide to keep them or that there are no potential kinship options. Unfortunately it is likely that baby would be in short term foster care until relinquish papers signed or po granted.

I still wish op well and hope she has received the support and advice she needed or needs to make an informed decision.