Thank you everyone, please understand it has been a difficult journey for our family, my little ones medical and social emotional needs have been challenging and his path through education is very hard for him, (he has no friends and finds peer relationships difficult at the best of times). This is not a one off incident as you can imagine there have been daily struggles for years. I have had to be strong and advocate hard for him.
His behaviour at home detreated in the last month and I couldn’t work out why, it was only after parents evening that I finally understood.
He has a real problem with change and we need to be very routine driven at home and flag changes before hand, so he can cope, (school senco is aware of his needs and therefore so should the class teacher as this has been discussed many times. I was naturally upset that even though they were armed with this knowledge he was still being moved around the class, as this would be the worst thing for him with his inability to cope with change). It all sometimes get's on top of me as, but luckily not for long. I was taken aback by the first post (being so blunt, saying I sounded arrogant!) I was not ready for blunt, I was upset that I was not being listened to at school and my son’s needs were not being met.
What I wanted to achieve from posting here I guess was to access some ideas on what to say and what I could bring to the table when I arrange a meeting with teacher and senco. The behaviour he is presenting to the other children is just annoying, things like invading their space, leaning on their chair etc and I completely understand them not wanting to sit by him, but I truly believe he should not have been moved in the first place there are other options (like giving him a wider desk, putting tape on it to mark out boundries etc). Bless him he just wants to be liked, just like the rest of us, he is just not able to do it appropriately at the moment and is too much for most kids. He is not aggressive, just full on. We are working on social boundaries with him, but for him any attention is good right now, negative as well as positive.
I don’t know why people are saying I think the school is the enemy, or that I would be “going in with all guns blazing” “confronting and kicking off at school”. If it is because as conserveisposhforjam suggests I used the word livid, I’m sorry but livid to me means angry and exasperated, which I was, it’s just another thing he is having to cope with on top of an already very full plate. (I have calmed down a bit now though, thanks to some great ideas from this forum and a bit of time). Trust me I would never go into a situation with all guns blazing, it never gets anyone anywhere, I generally vent at home and then get my facts in order then come back calm with a few ideas.
I did however, get upset by the replies I received saying that I sound ridiculously arrogant and closed minded that I should probably home school, that I am focussing on blame and that I am asking the teacher to focus on him in a disproportionate way, oh and that I was “mansplaining” (fyi only a man can accuse a woman of mansplaining lol!). None of which I hope is true and all of which are personal attacks.
All I am asking from the school is for them to be mindful of his unique circumstances and I would like to thank would like to thank everyone who posted here who have been constructive with hehehehehehe, Italiangreyhound, conserveisposhforjam for PoppyStellar, Prettybaffled who’s ideas are great and I will definitely use. This is the very first time I have posted anything to mumsnet by the way so I wasn’t sure how to phrase things or what to expect. I can only apologise once again if I sounded aggressive, it is not my intention but I can only be me.