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Dd grabs my face

34 replies

Daddyg123 · 03/01/2016 13:26

Hello I am a new adoptive parent to a Dd , she is a good sleeper eater and genuinely lovely. I am so blessed but she has taken to grabbing my face hard when she's frustrated or doesn't want to do something . It's mainly me but has started to be others to . I try and stay calm and explain that it's wrong and if re occurring use the naughty step . she's only two so I'm finding it hard . Is this normal or should I be worried . Any advice is welcome !

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kierenthecommunity · 07/01/2016 14:45

I've just realised after all that protestation I've used the phrase 'time out' at the end of my post Blush

How I fooled adoption panel beats me

kierenthecommunity · 07/01/2016 14:46

Meh, gutted you couldn't use thought powers to make things move. You could have had fun skipping out my house which currently looks like the place crap went to die.

Italiangreyhound · 07/01/2016 17:12

I bet mine looks worse! Reverse house proud!

Kewcumber · 07/01/2016 22:14

I use my thought powers all the time.

I thought you all did.

Amateurs.

Italiangreyhound · 08/01/2016 00:43

Kew I am hiding things in your house, as we speak!! Wink

Kewcumber · 08/01/2016 09:43

No you aren't. I have used my thought powers and you definitely aren't.

listsandbudgets · 09/01/2016 14:11

Just wanted to say my DS is my birth child and also went through a stage of doing this when he was 2. It stopped after a few week so just seemed to be a phase. It does seem to be normal toddler behaviour really. Your dd is sure to grow out of it

MintyLizzy9 · 10/01/2016 01:47

Reading all this with interest. My DS has been home a month now (how did that happen!) and is also 2 and started the face grabbing, scratching arms/hands etc. He has little speech at the minute so I know this behaviour is purely led from frustration as it's usually on the back of a no don't do that/can't have that and he gabbles at me gets nowhere as I dont understand then he lashes out. I've been trying the 'thinking chair' prob means sod all to him at the mo but allows us both to calm down. I stay in the room and if I'm on the sofa the thinking chair may well be the sofa too, I pop him up next to me where he stays until he has calmed down. He took to it straight away and usually in less than a minute is all smiles and hiya and reaching over for a cuddle and kiss. I've started doing this for other behaviours as well such as his current thirst for flinging anything he can across the room! First I ask him not to scratch/throw/get down, then I tell him very firmly, then it's thinking chair. Hoping the thinking bit will mean more as he gets older but thought I'd start it now so the concept and language are familiar, so I say we need to think about why we shouldn't/should/whatever do that as I pop him on the seat.

No idea if it's right or wrong or if it will work going forward but the calming down time is working for us at the minute and that's all that matters!

He's currently teething as well (deep joy) so is tired and sore on top of everything else.

I'm not reading too much into it as most kids this age adopted or not seem to go through this so fingers crossed he grows out of it as his speech improves.

Kewcumber · 10/01/2016 23:14

I think it certainly is a stage they go through if their speech is delayed. DS's speech was very delayed and 2 to 3 yrs was a very frustrating stage for him.

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