AIBU to think that Brangelina should concentrate on enjoying the children they have, not keep adding more every 5 minutes?

[emkana]

And if I have to read another interview in which she goes on about her blissfully happy life I'm going to throw up...

{envious, moi?}

All I know is, there are precious few circumstances under which people would comfortably and happily say "Don't you think you have enough children now?"

I'm not getting exercised about it, it's a sleb and as such automatically not connected to 'real' life, but I must admit to feeling mildly put out by the "12, 13, 28?" comment.

Don't get on your power plate about it Snigger

It's not so much the number of children they choose to have that gets me, but the speed at which they keep adding to their brood.

And with regards to the adoption process - do you think Brangelina had to answer detailed questions incl questions about their sex life before they were allowed to adopt?

actually its very hard for Britons to adopt a baby or toddler from overseas. the US system is easier and quicker

emkana - no they probably didnt. the US Home study is usually just one visit from a social worker and I woudl guess they focus on more relevant issues

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emkana has put into words what I failed to do - it's the speed that disturbs me most, I suppose

No, because they are American. The adoption process is far far simpler over there. In the UK there are only 300 international adoptions each year, largely because it's so difficult to do. And you can expect it (the international adoption process) to take at least four years. I have American friends (not celebrities) adopting internationally and the whole process took less than a year.

Get Kewcumber to tell you about people she knows who truly wanted to adopt children, Upwind -- it'll make your hair stand on end (taster: one couple, married for umpteen years. The social worker talked to each of them for an hour and decided that the husband was secretly gay so she couldn't approve them).

given the number of children in orphanages all over the world AND the number of UK families wanting to adopt them, one might ask why the Uk authortities make the process so hellish? A cynical person might suspect the motives are racist....

PortandDemon "(taster: one couple, married for umpteen years. The social worker talked to each of them for an hour and decided that the husband was secretly gay so she couldn't approve them)."

WTF???? That is utterly outrageous. Why are social workers using such spurious grounds to prevent adoptions? Both the parents and the children involved could have their lives transformed.

the daughter of my friend who adopted was with one foster carer before her adoption. but the whole process didn't start until she was 9 mths old - and took 9 months - so she was 18 mths old when she was placed with them..a v tricky age in terms of development.

The people I know who adopted from less developed countries were actually French and Irish. I assumed the bureaucracy they encountered was mostly in the country they adopted from, so UK parents would face similar. Now I see that I was wrong, there is no reason to think that is the case (though it is still hardly Brad and Angelina's fault!).

I remember hearing a programme on radio 4 about how British children from ethnic minorities languish in the care system because it is difficult for them to me matched with adoptive parents from their own ethnicity. It really annoyed me, surely children who are up for adoption should be matched with the best adoptive parents available ASAP? Matching ethnicity might be preferable, I can see an argument for that, but surely it is trivial in importance relative to other concerns!

WHY can't we have a system similar to that in the US?

yes yabu

i think the woman has issues - she comes across as very needy. There is no way they would be able to carry on at the rate they are going if they were adopting in this country. I find them very odd tbh. Imagine if they split up? Would Angelina be left with all the kids?

It's def easier in the US - I know someone who has adopted twice - once internationally a toddler, once domestically a newborn. And she's terminally ill, and had relapsed prior to both adoptions (in fact interupted her chemo the second time). It's terribly sad, but these children are unlikely to have a mum when they are 5, yet they were allowed to adopt.

And if the kids and Angelina/Brad are happy then why not ? Maybe having adopted they realised just how many children in the world there were who needed a loving home and can't help but compare all they have and think that there is room for more in their family ?

maybe if she actually spends a day looking after them all instaed of the nanny, she'll quit at 7 or however many they have