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Sad for my friends £125k lottery win.

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Sogfree · 24/03/2026 06:54

£125k win on the postcode lottery.

Single mum to 3 children (all primary age). Works as a TA, so receiving benefits to top up her income.

She would like to use her winnings for a deposit on a house. But due to the benefits rules not being allowed to pay a mortgage, she can't buy a property.

So she's going to spaff the entire lot as quick as she can, and the government will continue to pay rent to a multi property owner and make them richer.

The only asset she'll get to keep is a newer car - not anything fancy as she knows she won't be able to afford the insurance/fuel once the winnings run out.

Her one chance of breaking free of a life on benefits and she's got to throw it away. It feels wrong.

OP posts:
XenoBitch · 27/03/2026 19:28

ByBreezyUser · 27/03/2026 19:26

Because apparently no one wanted to live in the area (high deprivation). I'm not sure that's true tbh. I had been there 25 years. They basically flattened the housing scheme I lived in and at first we were told we would have an option of getting one of the new houses they built in its place - then they changed their mind so we all got decanted and had to move out of the area. Lots of people voted for demolition because they believed they would get one of the new houses. We were asked to go and choose our new house on the new development and then the council changed their mind and said no

I wasn't having a dig at you - it was just an observation that even when you live in an area that's relatively cheap - people can still pay over the odds for private accommodation - because there's not enough accommodation and too many people who need it

Wasn't just my area that the council flattened. Lots of neighbouring towns. At first they were going to bring the towers down only then they changed their mind and the four in a blocks had to come down too

3 towers coming down where I live. Where are they all meant to go?

DannyDeever · 27/03/2026 19:30

ByBreezyUser · 27/03/2026 19:26

Because apparently no one wanted to live in the area (high deprivation). I'm not sure that's true tbh. I had been there 25 years. They basically flattened the housing scheme I lived in and at first we were told we would have an option of getting one of the new houses they built in its place - then they changed their mind so we all got decanted and had to move out of the area. Lots of people voted for demolition because they believed they would get one of the new houses. We were asked to go and choose our new house on the new development and then the council changed their mind and said no

I wasn't having a dig at you - it was just an observation that even when you live in an area that's relatively cheap - people can still pay over the odds for private accommodation - because there's not enough accommodation and too many people who need it

Wasn't just my area that the council flattened. Lots of neighbouring towns. At first they were going to bring the towers down only then they changed their mind and the four in a blocks had to come down too

That is absolutely outrageous, I'm quite angry on your behalf. Bitterly unfair.

DannyDeever · 27/03/2026 19:32

XenoBitch · 27/03/2026 19:28

3 towers coming down where I live. Where are they all meant to go?

So my area is being swamped with housing by the thousand that is ruining the area and the locals strongly oppose, and elsewhere they're knocking houses down. Bastards.

Needspaceforlego · 27/03/2026 20:07

There are loads of issue with the big towers that were built cheaply in the 1960s.

Lots of them were built with concrete panels, which now leak. They over clad them then Grenfeld (bless those poor people).
Yes they could over clad again. But that only solves part of the structural issues.

Another issue is noise, noise travels in towers, echos up and down the lift shafts. One or two noisy families can make life hell for hundreds of other people. And its hard to work out where the noise is coming from.

XenoBitch · 27/03/2026 20:12

Needspaceforlego · 27/03/2026 20:07

There are loads of issue with the big towers that were built cheaply in the 1960s.

Lots of them were built with concrete panels, which now leak. They over clad them then Grenfeld (bless those poor people).
Yes they could over clad again. But that only solves part of the structural issues.

Another issue is noise, noise travels in towers, echos up and down the lift shafts. One or two noisy families can make life hell for hundreds of other people. And its hard to work out where the noise is coming from.

That is the case with the towers where I live.
I know a lady who lives in one. She has no idea where they will go if their home is pulled down. I know single people living in hotels because there is nowhere for them to go. Add a few hundred singles/couple/small families to that now.

ByBreezyUser · 27/03/2026 20:17

Needspaceforlego · 27/03/2026 20:07

There are loads of issue with the big towers that were built cheaply in the 1960s.

Lots of them were built with concrete panels, which now leak. They over clad them then Grenfeld (bless those poor people).
Yes they could over clad again. But that only solves part of the structural issues.

Another issue is noise, noise travels in towers, echos up and down the lift shafts. One or two noisy families can make life hell for hundreds of other people. And its hard to work out where the noise is coming from.

The scheme I lived in was built in 1970 but the decision to knock them down had nothing to do with Grenfell. There was no unsafe cladding where I was

I was in a four in a block, 16 families per block of flats.

The towers where I used to live are actually still there - they were emptied and now they are being used to house Ukrainian refugees - when they move out they'll be flattened as well.

ByBreezyUser · 27/03/2026 20:20

XenoBitch · 27/03/2026 19:28

3 towers coming down where I live. Where are they all meant to go?

The council has to rehome them whether they rent or own if these people are being made homeless

fartotheleftside · 27/03/2026 20:21

I was going to suggest she invests and uses the interest to make up the shortfall from her benefits, but she’d only get around a quarter of what she’s getting in benefits from the interest.

really the only way this money isn’t going to affect her standard of living is if she uses it to house herself and her children somehow.

XenoBitch · 27/03/2026 20:27

ByBreezyUser · 27/03/2026 20:20

The council has to rehome them whether they rent or own if these people are being made homeless

There is nowhere though. There are currently people living in hotels waiting for similar properties (and not immigrants either... just local people that have fallen on hard times).

XenoBitch · 27/03/2026 20:29

fartotheleftside · 27/03/2026 20:21

I was going to suggest she invests and uses the interest to make up the shortfall from her benefits, but she’d only get around a quarter of what she’s getting in benefits from the interest.

really the only way this money isn’t going to affect her standard of living is if she uses it to house herself and her children somehow.

Yep, this is her only option really.
Come off benefits and live off the money (which makes you wonder what the point is of playing lotto type things), or buy a property outright, or with a small mortgage (which might be a thing on UC... she would need to get advice).

ByBreezyUser · 27/03/2026 20:29

XenoBitch · 27/03/2026 20:27

There is nowhere though. There are currently people living in hotels waiting for similar properties (and not immigrants either... just local people that have fallen on hard times).

They are legally obligated to. If your council knocks your flat down whether you rent or you own you must be rehoused. It's the law

XenoBitch · 27/03/2026 20:32

ByBreezyUser · 27/03/2026 20:29

They are legally obligated to. If your council knocks your flat down whether you rent or you own you must be rehoused. It's the law

I don't disagree with that, but where I live there are literally no properties for them to move into.
The criteria to even be on the housing list is very tight here due to demand.

Greenpeanutsnail · 27/03/2026 21:09

Ileithyia · 27/03/2026 14:32

”she gets a wage. A UC top up. Money for her kids and her rent paid or most of it“

UC is to cover everything. Food, utilities, travel, rent, all from one payment. Housing Benefit no longer exists, and it never covered all your rent anyway. Also, OP has said her friend gets £78 a month (or a week? Which is what, £320 a month?) as child maintenance, which is still a pittance. Either way, she’s not loaded.

Housing Benefit does still exist for some claimants and it did and does cover all the rent for some.

XenoBitch · 27/03/2026 21:10

Greenpeanutsnail · 27/03/2026 21:09

Housing Benefit does still exist for some claimants and it did and does cover all the rent for some.

Yes, usually for people in council housing.

DotAndCarryOne2 · 28/03/2026 08:21

XenoBitch · 27/03/2026 20:29

Yep, this is her only option really.
Come off benefits and live off the money (which makes you wonder what the point is of playing lotto type things), or buy a property outright, or with a small mortgage (which might be a thing on UC... she would need to get advice).

OP would have to declare the money to UC immediately or it’s considered benefit fraud. Her UC claim would stop as she would be over the savings threshold. But spending a windfall on housing yourself isn’t seen as deprivation of capital for UC, so as soon as OP uses it for a deposit and gets under the savings threshold she would be eligible again. She would lose the housing element of UC as nothing is payable for mortgage payments. She could apply to DWP for support with mortgage interest on loans up to £200,000, but this is a loan that has to be repaid at some point.

DotAndCarryOne2 · 28/03/2026 08:31

Greenpeanutsnail · 27/03/2026 21:09

Housing Benefit does still exist for some claimants and it did and does cover all the rent for some.

Housing benefit is being phased out and you cannot make a new claim unless you and any partner have reached state pension age, or live in council supplied temporary accommodation/supported or sheltered housing. Current HB claimants are being moved to UC as their circumstances change, alongside managed migration which will eventually see all HB claims moved to UC.

UC will generally not pay all of the rent. There are thresholds based on individual LA housing benefit rates.

likelysuspect · 28/03/2026 08:35

DotAndCarryOne2 · 28/03/2026 08:31

Housing benefit is being phased out and you cannot make a new claim unless you and any partner have reached state pension age, or live in council supplied temporary accommodation/supported or sheltered housing. Current HB claimants are being moved to UC as their circumstances change, alongside managed migration which will eventually see all HB claims moved to UC.

UC will generally not pay all of the rent. There are thresholds based on individual LA housing benefit rates.

HB also had thresholds on LHA rates, its not really any different, its just a different name.

Lifestooshort71 · 28/03/2026 08:55

Back to the OP's original post. My problem is with the phrase 'spaff the lot' so she can stay on benefits. Surely, if she can't afford to buy a property, she could divide the £125k by what she gets on benefits monthly, add a bit on to make life more fun for a while, and then come off benefits for that period (or use some of it to retrain)? Explain exactly what she's doing to whoever needs to know so it's all up front and then there's no 'spaffing' or deprivation of assets.

ByBreezyUser · 28/03/2026 10:05

DotAndCarryOne2 · 28/03/2026 08:21

OP would have to declare the money to UC immediately or it’s considered benefit fraud. Her UC claim would stop as she would be over the savings threshold. But spending a windfall on housing yourself isn’t seen as deprivation of capital for UC, so as soon as OP uses it for a deposit and gets under the savings threshold she would be eligible again. She would lose the housing element of UC as nothing is payable for mortgage payments. She could apply to DWP for support with mortgage interest on loans up to £200,000, but this is a loan that has to be repaid at some point.

Edited

It wouldn't stop if she's buying a property. I believe there's a disregard for 6 months if that's what she's planning to do

Crikeyalmighty · 28/03/2026 10:48

Lifestooshort71 · 28/03/2026 08:55

Back to the OP's original post. My problem is with the phrase 'spaff the lot' so she can stay on benefits. Surely, if she can't afford to buy a property, she could divide the £125k by what she gets on benefits monthly, add a bit on to make life more fun for a while, and then come off benefits for that period (or use some of it to retrain)? Explain exactly what she's doing to whoever needs to know so it's all up front and then there's no 'spaffing' or deprivation of assets.

That is exactly it - it’s tough shit she has to use it to top up wages but that’s life and would be the same for a couple or family that find things tight but aren’t on benefits - if she can’t buy or doesn’t want to do shared ownership and use most of it, the best thing she can do is clear any debt, learn to drive if she doesn’t , buy a slightly newer car if she does, really stock up on domestic stuff , make sure you replace any worn out home stuff/furniture, maybe put a little bit into pension, set up and pay into a life insurance policy if she doesn’t have one, and then use a top up from it for a few years- UC aren’t going to have an issue if you’ve been off it for a few years and using it to live on - what they will have an issue with is a brand new £40k car, 3 £8k holidays in a year etc , £5k rings etc - getting the state paying your rent and topping up wages isn’t an entitlement , it should be needs based and at the moment she doesn’t need it

Needspaceforlego · 28/03/2026 11:10

Crikeyalmighty · 28/03/2026 10:48

That is exactly it - it’s tough shit she has to use it to top up wages but that’s life and would be the same for a couple or family that find things tight but aren’t on benefits - if she can’t buy or doesn’t want to do shared ownership and use most of it, the best thing she can do is clear any debt, learn to drive if she doesn’t , buy a slightly newer car if she does, really stock up on domestic stuff , make sure you replace any worn out home stuff/furniture, maybe put a little bit into pension, set up and pay into a life insurance policy if she doesn’t have one, and then use a top up from it for a few years- UC aren’t going to have an issue if you’ve been off it for a few years and using it to live on - what they will have an issue with is a brand new £40k car, 3 £8k holidays in a year etc , £5k rings etc - getting the state paying your rent and topping up wages isn’t an entitlement , it should be needs based and at the moment she doesn’t need it

Edited

Someone who isn't on benefits would probably put it into there mortgage or use it as a deposit.
Or invest it into their pension fund. Knock a few years off retirement age.

Alternatively invest it for their kids.

Much more options for someone hovering above the benefits threshold

Kkfgn · 28/03/2026 11:16

Can't she use the money to upskill, improve her situation? Maybe become an actual teacher?

Maybe see with that £125k what assets to invest in to get passive income. Think about if property is possible? Maybe sit down, come up with a plan?

Chewbecca · 28/03/2026 11:33

She doesn't have basic qualifications so teaching probably isn't the best route. Small business or something practical is likely a more feasible approach.

Greenpeanutsnail · 28/03/2026 11:53

DotAndCarryOne2 · 28/03/2026 08:31

Housing benefit is being phased out and you cannot make a new claim unless you and any partner have reached state pension age, or live in council supplied temporary accommodation/supported or sheltered housing. Current HB claimants are being moved to UC as their circumstances change, alongside managed migration which will eventually see all HB claims moved to UC.

UC will generally not pay all of the rent. There are thresholds based on individual LA housing benefit rates.

Agreed. It’s just not the case that Housing Benefit no longer exists when there are still plenty of active claims.

Lifestooshort71 · 28/03/2026 12:33

Kkfgn · 28/03/2026 11:16

Can't she use the money to upskill, improve her situation? Maybe become an actual teacher?

Maybe see with that £125k what assets to invest in to get passive income. Think about if property is possible? Maybe sit down, come up with a plan?

Passively invested or under the mattress, she needs to declare it and, if necessary, live on it instead of benefits.

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