I can already see the post on here: “my friend died recently, AIBU to want to sue the dr’s for not telling her she was going to die? How dare they withhold that information from her?”
Not Wanting dr’s to be honest has nothing to do with being “triggered” and everything to do with wanting to remain in denial.
Knowledge is power. And the greater knowledge you have about your health, the more power you have to live the right life, follow the rules, do what’s expected and be able to have honest and intelligent conversations with your doctors.
I have almost died several times. I have been defibrillated, have had a cardiac arrest, was told I would be ineligible for transplant and that I would be sent home to die.
Then came some intervention and I was told that although this would improve my life, without a transplant “your future is very bleak.”
And then when I was told that I was sick enough to need a transplant but still well enough to survive one, the consultant said “you have to remember that there are risks. One in every ten people who come into this office to be told they need a transplant won’t be here in a year’s time, because one in ten don’t survive the first year.”
And still I signed the forms.
And when you get that far into a journey honesty is the only thing that is possible.
It’s not possible to dress it up. Transplant isn’t a cure. You’re trading one lot of medical issues for another.
Some people breeze through, thus far I’ve been lucky. Others aren’t so fortunate.
And all the while they will tell you that they will do everything they can, but the truth is stil always there. And it has to be.
And nobody should want it any other way.