How much of your personality do you change at work?

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I know obviously you are expected to put on a polite voice and pretend to be interested but how much of you would your close family or friends recognise in your work self?

Are you ND? Why wouldn't a tailored CV still be you? It's just providing a showcase that's most relevant to the job you're applying for so they can see you're a suitable candidate.

Employers sift hundreds of applications - a tailored CV makes it easier for them to see you are a suitable candidate for the role and shows you're interested enough to put effort into your application. The people reviewing your CV want to be able to see quickly whether you have the right skills, qualifications or experience and that your application shows interest in working there.

Employment is about you providing service in return for payment. Your identity isn't part of the deal.

At work nothing phases me and I am the cool calm and collected one at all times. I manage a team and I am unflappable mostly. At home I can lose my shit very easily over a wet towel left on a bed or a plate left on top of the dishwasher. My work colleagues wouldn't recognise me 🤣🤣

I am nd yes but I don’t think that’s what I meant. I have my values and beliefs and I am who I am so to taylor that to particular jobs just feels like, stars in their eyes “tonight Matthew I’m going to be…”
I never saw employment as providing service but more being forced to sell my time and I have to come with it.

I’m more argumentative, stubborn, inappropriate, rude and judgemental at work than I am at home.

My entire workplace is the above so it’s not an issue, I don’t have to do the whole professional act nonsense. In fact those who are polite, professional and kind usually get bullied out of the place within 6 months or they go off with depression.

I was also a lot more organised and tidy - all checklists completed, everything on its proper files. Friends wouldn’t be surprised at this, as my house (downstairs) is clutter free, but it’s something my DH struggles to believe as he is the one who tidies up at home.

What sector do you work in @BrownSharpie?

"I never saw employment as providing service but more being forced to sell my time and I have to come with it."

You're looking for your first job. Might I suggest you don't let that attitude be visible in any interview you might get? Because if you communicate to them what sounds to me to be a reluctance to do more than the absolute minimum of work you can get away with - you won't get the job.

I’m much more tolerant of bullshittery at work. My boss is unhinged but she thinks I think she’s great. I’ve a terrible temper but never lose it at work. I don’t give away too much. One colleague is very nosey - I’m convinced she drove past my house when I was away so she could have a nosey. My husband was seriously ill a few years ago and I never told work at all. I spent two weeks in a different location while he was being treated in a specialist centre but continued to “wfh”.

I'm more calm, confident and a lot more upbeat at work. I felt the same as you OP when I was first applying for jobs, and for years and years into my working life. I still feel weird about having a work persona sometimes, but in a way acting like I do at work helps build my confidence outside of work.
I would say it gets easier and more natural with time, and having the right culture fit and a good manager helps a LOT - speaking from bitter experience!

I'm pretty much totally me, even in front of a class. I'm a secondary school teacher. Lots of teachers very much have a separate teacher persona, which I've always found quite weird.

I am completely different at work to socially.

I'm quite awkward in social situations, unless I feel very comfortable with people, but at work I can somehow step up and be much more sociable when it's expected as part of the role, than I ever can socially, even when I want to.

I am close to the personality but I think my kids in particular would probably be a bit 😳 about how patient I am. Work is a lot less stressful than home😅

I’m less sweary - that’s all. And where I teach secondary, I am surrounded by lots of swearing & have to contain myself!!! 😂

Why are your values and beliefs on your CV?

I’m a teaching assistant. I share only snippets of my actual self at work, mostly to the children to bond and make trusting relationships. Colleagues, no, not really. Mostly professional with no personal insights unless relevant to particular lessons (certain geography, culture) They haven’t got a clue!