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Why do some people think working in a care home is easy and something anyone out of work can/should do?

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ApriltoNovember · 12/02/2026 09:25

My dd is 17 and in college. For the last year she has been trying to find a part time job because frankly she wants to start earning money. She has had little luck so far and endless applications later still hasn't secured herself a job.

I asked on our town's community FB page if anyone else's teen/younger adult dc was experiencing similar issues (and it seems many are). I have had so many replies telling me that she should get a job in a care home because the care industry is crying out for staff.

I know this to be true because a) I am a PA/carer for disabled people myself and b) a carer for my elderly mum who has advanced Alzheimer's disease.

But the comments really annoyed me because it seems so often that caring, for some reason is seen as an easy option and a job that anyone can do, even someone straight out of school with no qualifications or skills. In reality, this could not be further from the truth. Caring is bloody hard work and caring for someone with advanced dementia and double incontinence or severe learning difficulties is even harder and really NOT a job for the faint-hearted. All of my mum's carers have been chosen because they have years of experience and are genuinely caring and kind people and even the youngest one who is 26 has a naturally kind and caring personality and is not at all fazed by what she has to deal with.

Mum went into respite care in a home last year. It was in a local town which has a high unemployment rate. The home was full of young care workers and you could tell were only doing the job because there were very few options and most looked bored out of their brains.

Caring can be an extremely rewarding but often thankless and messy job and to think there are so many people out there believing if a person can't find work they may as well just go get a job in care as a last chance option. Yes, maybe a small percentage may go on to enjoy it but many do drop out. It's such a poor misconception that caring is a basic, unskilled thing which anyone can do or should do just because it is a job sector which often has many available vacancies (and that should tell you something for a start).

IMO, it is a job which should be given more credit (and better paid). At the end of the day many of us will reach old age and with dementia now being the most prolific disease amongst the elderly it's a sad possibility for many of us that we could end up needing to be cared by others and would all these people recommending 16/17 year olds go into care because they need any old job want their arses wiped by them?

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Dontlletmedownbruce · 28/02/2026 11:35

I feel really sorry for the younger kids now unable to get casual work. We caused this. Every time we went to a self service machine instead of queuing at the counter, we knew this would be the outcome and didnt give a F. Businesses would have kept employing young people if the customers demanded it. I saw self service in a clothing shop the other day, never seen it before. Everyone just queuing up to pay a machine and no human in sight. I honestly felt sick to my stomach that that's the world we live in now and the one we helped create.

Branleuse · 28/02/2026 11:47

ApriltoNovember · 26/02/2026 13:53

I am a PA for disabled people and have always worked in healthcare, not everyone is built to withstand the pressures from care work.

Why on earth would you expect someone to just casually try something like that? It takes a special kind of person to be a carer. All of my mum's carers have been chosen specifically because they are great at what they do and have had years of experience in a career they have chosen to do because they genuinely enjoy it. One of my mum's carers is 23 and cared for her dying parent. She is wonderful but again, she is natural to it. I can not think of any one of my dc's friends who would make a good carer.

We all know what we are good at. Care isn't something to dip your toe into and then pull out when it doesn't suit. That's not fair on care home residents, they need consistency not people coming and going all the time especially people who don't really want to be do a job like that.

I don't expect people to just casually try it, but I do think that there's a lot of people that would actually be really good at it and don't realise how interesting and varied it can be. I certainly didn't expect to love it as much as I do.

I don't think it has to be someone's calling, nor do I think people need any magical qualities, because different people want different things.
I've really gelled with clients that other people couldn't get on with, and I've also not wanted to go back to clients that other people really loved working with.

I never said it was for everyone, but I do think a lot of people don't realise that they might actually have a lot to give in the right role, and it's such a varied profession, and it's better paid than many entry level jobs, with more opportunities for progression than some realise too

GreyhoundLurcher · 28/02/2026 11:50

I agree - it is extremely hard work. I started as a carer aged 15 - now Im a specialised nurse. All of my experiences have contributed to a very rewarding career.

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Branleuse · 28/02/2026 11:50

I don't think my dc would be great carers tbh. Maybe one of them would. I did recommend it to my ds girlfriend though and she is working now in a daycare facility with learning disabilities and getting on brilliantly. So much happier than in her previous call centre job.

Waitingfordoggo · 28/02/2026 12:01

As PPs have said, people are just suggesting it because it is one of the only sectors where there are always jobs available, and because someone can get the job without qualifications or experience.

My DD became a care worker at 18 and I was a bit apprehensive, but she really loves it and is excellent at it.

ruethewhirl · 28/02/2026 15:20

Dontlletmedownbruce · 28/02/2026 11:35

I feel really sorry for the younger kids now unable to get casual work. We caused this. Every time we went to a self service machine instead of queuing at the counter, we knew this would be the outcome and didnt give a F. Businesses would have kept employing young people if the customers demanded it. I saw self service in a clothing shop the other day, never seen it before. Everyone just queuing up to pay a machine and no human in sight. I honestly felt sick to my stomach that that's the world we live in now and the one we helped create.

Agree, this has definitely had an impact. Society’s automated a lot of people out of work.

Gwenhwyfar · 28/02/2026 15:39

Nickyknackered · 12/02/2026 09:49

Same as 'become a childminder'. It's always trotted out on here for mums who 'don't want to go back to work'.

That's a bit different. If they are stay at home mums, they do already have experience of looking after small children. I get that doing it as a job with other people's children is not the same thing, but there is definitely a link, whereas being a teenage schoolchild and looking after elderly people are not connected at all.

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