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Should the parents of the Southport Killer face civil or even criminal action?

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mids2019 · 06/11/2025 22:36

Listening to the news I do wonder if the parental decisions of the Southport Killer reach a point where they need to face some sort of accountability. I understand that the parents aren't to blame but potentially they could have acted to stop their son and is there not some sort of sanction for this?

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Kpo58 · 15/04/2026 07:17

PeonyPatch · 12/11/2025 21:04

I thought he poured oil on the father (?)

I agree with all the above posts - it’s one thing to say you are scared of your own child, but it’s another to block treatment. The child desperately needed treatment. Usually behavioural issues are a form of communication from children. He was obviously extremely angry and had a lot of unresolved issues.

It still doesn’t make sense to me that they allowed all of those weapons in the house and for him to continue to have outbursts etc. what did they expect to happen, for him to spontaneously get better? I’d love to know their thoughts on this.
I also wonder if there was a degree of shame or embarrassment - again not an excuse. I think if risks have been raised by authorities about a child, then the law needs to step in and override the parents.

Once there were already weapons in the house, they were probably living in fear of them being used against them due to his violent outbursts. Having 1 or 100 machetes in the house isn't going to change the outcome if someone becomes angry because you have rejected a weapons parcel for them.

whatwouldafeministdo · 15/04/2026 08:07

Unequalworld · 15/04/2026 06:59

If your child who you know is dangerous orders a machete or other weapons what might those weapons be for?

Of course they should report an extremely dangerous young man who has a machete.

The 'professional' that deemed the killer low risk should lose their job.

Edited

Yes. 100% agree.

We live in a topsy turvey world where a shop worker who challenges a shoplifter breaking the law verbally and tries to grab the stolen items back gets fired (after 17 years - no protections for the working class apparently), whereas well paid professionals who deem a killer 'no risk to others' get to keep their jobs. (and let's not forget all the professionals who aided and abetted the grooming gangs and rape of children who got to keep their jobs and pensions).

Public sector workers are seemingly teflon even when utterly failing to do what it says in their job description or even when aiding criminal activity and this is why so many institutions are failing. They're staffed with people not doing their job.

In some cases making their job what they want it to be, all on the public purse, thinking of whoever asked the teacher to 'water down' the EHCP accusing her of 'racism' to strong arm her - obviously more interested in race politics than child safety. There are many examples of this in the public sector.

Those public professionals who ARE doing their jobs well (in this case the staff in schools) are having one hand tied behind their back by these useless or actively malign professionals.

The person who wrote down that AR was no risk to others needs to lose their job. They cannot do their job properly and them staying in job IS a risk to others. If that person won't lose their job there IS no accountability and I think we might be close again to riots in the streets. Plenty of people identified AR as a risk, he did plenty of things to show he was a risk, the idea this could be written down with a straight face is farcical.

Really glad the parents of Alice, Bebe and Elsie are demanding accountability. I hope they have the strength to follow through on this and plenty of support. I'd donate to any crowdfunder needed.

If a shop worker can be fired after 17 years because of some clause in his contract saying not to challenge a thief then anyone working for the state who leaves someone a clear risk to others without any monitoring or support should be fired.

If no-one can ever be fired in the public sector then the public sector needs dismantling as it currently is. I wonder how many scandals it'll take before the populace decides to try and change things whether that be via a Reform government or otherwise.

PeonyPatch · 15/04/2026 08:39

Kpo58 · 15/04/2026 07:17

Once there were already weapons in the house, they were probably living in fear of them being used against them due to his violent outbursts. Having 1 or 100 machetes in the house isn't going to change the outcome if someone becomes angry because you have rejected a weapons parcel for them.

Even more reason for police being involved to remove him and put him into medium to high secure facilities.

whatwouldafeministdo · 15/04/2026 09:28

I do think the parents are responsible to some extent, not knowing the details it's difficult to know exactly how far that is. The CPS didn't charge them, whether that's a failure in the law or not I don't know.

However, we can't rely on parents 'doing the right thing' and then just sent them to prison if they fail. That's the most flimsy of safeguards for everyone else in society.

AR was known to multiple services and those services failed.

Vera Baird is saying the same - we need personal accountability for jobs not done adequately. Officials who made errors before Southport murders ‘may still be making same mistakes’ | Southport attack | The Guardian

And if officials are too blinded by 'procedure' to take action when a male presents a clear risk, particularly to females then ideally they'd be sacked and get someone in who has some sense, but failing that misogynistic crimes should be considered a form of terrorism and an 'ideology' worthy of consideration.

5MinuteArgument · 15/04/2026 21:46

whatwouldafeministdo · 15/04/2026 08:07

Yes. 100% agree.

We live in a topsy turvey world where a shop worker who challenges a shoplifter breaking the law verbally and tries to grab the stolen items back gets fired (after 17 years - no protections for the working class apparently), whereas well paid professionals who deem a killer 'no risk to others' get to keep their jobs. (and let's not forget all the professionals who aided and abetted the grooming gangs and rape of children who got to keep their jobs and pensions).

Public sector workers are seemingly teflon even when utterly failing to do what it says in their job description or even when aiding criminal activity and this is why so many institutions are failing. They're staffed with people not doing their job.

In some cases making their job what they want it to be, all on the public purse, thinking of whoever asked the teacher to 'water down' the EHCP accusing her of 'racism' to strong arm her - obviously more interested in race politics than child safety. There are many examples of this in the public sector.

Those public professionals who ARE doing their jobs well (in this case the staff in schools) are having one hand tied behind their back by these useless or actively malign professionals.

The person who wrote down that AR was no risk to others needs to lose their job. They cannot do their job properly and them staying in job IS a risk to others. If that person won't lose their job there IS no accountability and I think we might be close again to riots in the streets. Plenty of people identified AR as a risk, he did plenty of things to show he was a risk, the idea this could be written down with a straight face is farcical.

Really glad the parents of Alice, Bebe and Elsie are demanding accountability. I hope they have the strength to follow through on this and plenty of support. I'd donate to any crowdfunder needed.

If a shop worker can be fired after 17 years because of some clause in his contract saying not to challenge a thief then anyone working for the state who leaves someone a clear risk to others without any monitoring or support should be fired.

If no-one can ever be fired in the public sector then the public sector needs dismantling as it currently is. I wonder how many scandals it'll take before the populace decides to try and change things whether that be via a Reform government or otherwise.

Edited

Agree totally. It sounds like the inquiry is laying down some hard truths (for a change) including highlighting the culpability of the killer's parents and the failures of services involved.

Unequalworld · 16/04/2026 07:46

whatwouldafeministdo · 15/04/2026 08:07

Yes. 100% agree.

We live in a topsy turvey world where a shop worker who challenges a shoplifter breaking the law verbally and tries to grab the stolen items back gets fired (after 17 years - no protections for the working class apparently), whereas well paid professionals who deem a killer 'no risk to others' get to keep their jobs. (and let's not forget all the professionals who aided and abetted the grooming gangs and rape of children who got to keep their jobs and pensions).

Public sector workers are seemingly teflon even when utterly failing to do what it says in their job description or even when aiding criminal activity and this is why so many institutions are failing. They're staffed with people not doing their job.

In some cases making their job what they want it to be, all on the public purse, thinking of whoever asked the teacher to 'water down' the EHCP accusing her of 'racism' to strong arm her - obviously more interested in race politics than child safety. There are many examples of this in the public sector.

Those public professionals who ARE doing their jobs well (in this case the staff in schools) are having one hand tied behind their back by these useless or actively malign professionals.

The person who wrote down that AR was no risk to others needs to lose their job. They cannot do their job properly and them staying in job IS a risk to others. If that person won't lose their job there IS no accountability and I think we might be close again to riots in the streets. Plenty of people identified AR as a risk, he did plenty of things to show he was a risk, the idea this could be written down with a straight face is farcical.

Really glad the parents of Alice, Bebe and Elsie are demanding accountability. I hope they have the strength to follow through on this and plenty of support. I'd donate to any crowdfunder needed.

If a shop worker can be fired after 17 years because of some clause in his contract saying not to challenge a thief then anyone working for the state who leaves someone a clear risk to others without any monitoring or support should be fired.

If no-one can ever be fired in the public sector then the public sector needs dismantling as it currently is. I wonder how many scandals it'll take before the populace decides to try and change things whether that be via a Reform government or otherwise.

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The person who wrote down that AR was no risk to others needs to lose their job.

Yes. 💯 Massive mistake which led to deaths of 3 children. This person is incompetent and shouldn't EVER make decisions of this importance again. The judgement shows this. They must be sacked.

5MinuteArgument · 16/04/2026 10:14

Unequalworld · 16/04/2026 07:46

The person who wrote down that AR was no risk to others needs to lose their job.

Yes. 💯 Massive mistake which led to deaths of 3 children. This person is incompetent and shouldn't EVER make decisions of this importance again. The judgement shows this. They must be sacked.

Yes, the inquiry is calling for sackings of all those in the police, social services and Prevent who minimised the danger of AR or who didn't follow up on concerns that were raised. If people in the public sector are allowed to keep their jobs after making catastrophic errors, then it will just carry on.

Also the families of the girls are calling for AR's parents to be held accountable, being unimpressed by the parent's pathetic excuses.

EasternStandard · 16/04/2026 10:22

5MinuteArgument · 16/04/2026 10:14

Yes, the inquiry is calling for sackings of all those in the police, social services and Prevent who minimised the danger of AR or who didn't follow up on concerns that were raised. If people in the public sector are allowed to keep their jobs after making catastrophic errors, then it will just carry on.

Also the families of the girls are calling for AR's parents to be held accountable, being unimpressed by the parent's pathetic excuses.

Edited

Finally it’s obvious and evidenced that the system works against the female victims and fir violent men.

So many times you’d see accusations against anyone raising these concerns. Adding insult to injury, gaslighting.

5MinuteArgument · 16/04/2026 14:42

It's very disheartening that this country granted asylum to the parents of AR and in return they have treated Britain with contempt.

MaturingCheeseball · 16/04/2026 15:43

A while ago someone started an interesting thread on are “lessons learned”? Because who follows up? It seems pathetically easy to respond to findings with this platitude, pay off top person with full pension, and then business - or lack of - as usual.

whatwouldafeministdo · 16/04/2026 16:22

MaturingCheeseball · 16/04/2026 15:43

A while ago someone started an interesting thread on are “lessons learned”? Because who follows up? It seems pathetically easy to respond to findings with this platitude, pay off top person with full pension, and then business - or lack of - as usual.

Yep. It's difficult not to think that someone needs to tear the whole system down and start again - police, social services, mental health, the NHS. Surely whatever someone came up with from scratch can't be worse.

Those at the top NEVER have any accountability and when they're paid so very much from the public purse it really isn't good enough.

wavingfuriously · 16/04/2026 16:23

PeonyPatch · 06/11/2025 22:38

I am sure in America they do this

Yes they do, was a case recently and I think southport killer's parents should face some action !

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 16/04/2026 16:36

Yes, they are in part responsible for the deaths of those three young girls and the injuries to many others. The father was very obstructive, one senior psychiatrist handed over the case as she couldn't work with the father (the only case she had ever released).

kerstina · 16/04/2026 17:00

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 16/04/2026 16:36

Yes, they are in part responsible for the deaths of those three young girls and the injuries to many others. The father was very obstructive, one senior psychiatrist handed over the case as she couldn't work with the father (the only case she had ever released).

That is very telling isn’t it ?

soupyspoon · 16/04/2026 21:08

kerstina · 16/04/2026 17:00

That is very telling isn’t it ?

And Ive just realised thinking about it, that the male psychiatrist who replaced her, is the one who assessed him as no/low risk to others.

StrictlyCoffee · 16/04/2026 21:10

I’d like to see them prosecuted for gross negligence manslaughter, but I don’t expect it to happen.

PeonyPatch · 16/04/2026 21:19

wavingfuriously · 16/04/2026 16:23

Yes they do, was a case recently and I think southport killer's parents should face some action !

I think so too sadly 😢

Supersimkin7 · 16/04/2026 22:15

My worry is the police won’t prosecute the parents.

No charge = Fiesta for racists who’ll bowl in saying it’s cos the family are black. Summer is a-coming.

We’ve got enough trouble on
that score in the news already.

Either way, we need a test case for enabling parents and this is a good one - the parents were jaw-droppingly awful.

Kimura · 17/04/2026 11:06

Supersimkin7 · 12/11/2025 15:49

It’s awful and I feel sorry for them, but the R parents must be charged as accessories to murder.

There have to be limits to how shit you can be as a parent, for all children out there, not just yours.

There aren’t anything like enough extenuating circs. to get them off.

Claiming they were all victims of DV is pushing it when AR never hurt any of them physically.

(They said the ‘violence’ was outbursts of shouting and throwing plates, etc.. He threw water over the father. And milk on the bed.)

It didn’t take much to set AR off but it’s not the sustained campaign of terror a) they’d need as an excuse b) that other people really do get daily. And still defend kids.

Both parents enabled him very capably with years of neglect and aggressive treatment prevention.

They say they were scared of him - that’s their big USP, they say it repeatedly - but that’s not enough.

It’s awful and I feel sorry for them, but the R parents must be charged as accessories to murder.

There is absolutely no basis for charging them with anything related to the murders. There's no suggestion whatsoever that they were involved or even aware in any way.

They haven't done anything criminal. Aside from a handful of very specific examples, there is no legal obligation for anyone to warn of or report crime or suspected crime.

They failed in their moral duty and they failed as parents. But that doesn't make them criminally responsible for his actions.

mids2019 · 20/04/2026 07:06

Kimura · 17/04/2026 11:06

It’s awful and I feel sorry for them, but the R parents must be charged as accessories to murder.

There is absolutely no basis for charging them with anything related to the murders. There's no suggestion whatsoever that they were involved or even aware in any way.

They haven't done anything criminal. Aside from a handful of very specific examples, there is no legal obligation for anyone to warn of or report crime or suspected crime.

They failed in their moral duty and they failed as parents. But that doesn't make them criminally responsible for his actions.

Edited

I agree with accessories to murder is not an appropriate charge but the point is should there a new law to accommodate thankfully rare cases like this where is a measure of parental culpability (with mitigating circumstances)? The chair of the enquiry was open in criticism of the parents of AR while having some sympathy for their plight. It is in the light that we see the need of some sort of criminal action though what the sentencing guidelines are is to be debated.

I think this is one of the legacies the families of the injured and dead are hoping for.....accountability. I think you have to imagine the parents of the dead girls having to hear of some of the actions of ARs parents with the knowledge that they are going to live their lives with no criminal accountability possibly with tax payer support to aid change of residence and identity.

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Supersimkin7 · 20/04/2026 08:38

‘There's no suggestion whatsoever that they were involved or even aware in any way.’

AR parents were told by AR he was off to try and kill. Twice. They paid for and received the weaponry, because he was too young himself. No police called.

I think you’re right! I suspect they won’t be charged because no one can decide what with - racists will have a field day. Like we need more trouble on that front. Worrying.

The parents were pretty bad - they only admitted how much they were involved after they were busted by proof. They’d lied vigorously until records showed the opposite.

Parents lied at the enquiry about other incriminating knowledge till the poor judge shut them up by whipping out evidence showing what they knew and did.

They’re a startling pair (although I think they’ve split up, wife now saying she never married the father.)

38thparallel · 20/04/2026 08:42

The father was so aggressive and unpleasant to one of the psychiatrists that she resigned from the case. Psychiatrists must frequently have to deal with aggressive people so he must have been really bad.

MaturingCheeseball · 20/04/2026 10:01

It is documented that the mother made a “zip it” gesture to the df when they were questioned after the fact. They are a reprehensible pair, but I suppose the difference between them and similar parental prosecutions in the US is that they didn’t actively purchase the weapons. Yes, they paid for and housed the knives, but I suppose it would have to be proven that a parent had sat there selecting knives off a website alongside the murderer, or given them as a gift (like parent of school shooter in US).

PeonyPatch · 20/04/2026 10:15

Why didn’t they just get rid of the knives with the help of the police?

kerstina · 20/04/2026 11:20

They were never married? They have lied about a lot of things. Wish we could deport them .