TW death. Would you be put off living in a house that someone passed away in?

[ExcellentMother]

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My Dad "unalived" himself in the garage of my parents house that they rented.
Shortly after that happened, my mum moved out and new tenants were moved in within a week.
Which got me thinking tonight.

Would you want to know if someone died in a house or would you not mind and not want to know the history?

No it doesn’t bother me. I still live in the same house as my she died in. Sleep in the same bed, bed linen etc. (Clean!!). It’s a century old house. Others have died and probably more will die here.
memories and flash backs reappear wherever and whenever they want to. The house isn’t the cause, circumstances are.

Our house is hundreds of years old. I would be very surprised nobody had died in it at some point.

Sorry about your Dad OP. That must have been terrible for everyone.
I think there's a difference between a natural death and an violent/traumatic one and it probably also depends on whether you knew the person and how long ago the death was. My MIL died peacefully at home. Her husband and other family members are still living in the house, sleeping in the bedroom where she died etc and it doesn't feel strange at all. It's just their home. Likewise I grew up in a very old house where there must have been deaths but they were a long time ago and I didn't know any of them so even if there were tragedies it didn’t have any impact on me.
On the other hand, there's a house not far from me where there was a very violent murder some years ago. It is a beautiful house but it was empty for a long time after the events, as was the house where the killer lived. I can understand that. I don't think I would have wanted to live there. I knew neither the killer nor the victim but it was all over the local news for ages and was covered on the national news so I knew what had happened and in what rooms etc and yes, I would have found it difficult to feel at ease there. I think both houses were eventually sold because as time has gone on the memories have faded and I guess they may have been bought by people from outside the area who were less aware of the case or don't realise the connection. I think there have been places where particularly notorious crimes have been committed that have been demolished as nobody normal would be likely to ever choose to live there, and I carried understand that.

I just assumed most houses people have died in. Its best not to think about these things just like how you're never more then 6 feet from rats or how many spiders you swallow in your sleep. Or when yo stay in hospital how many people have died in the bed you're in

It doesn’t bother me at all. In one of my old houses a woman knocked on the door as she was visiting the area and she’d been born in one of the bedrooms. She came in and had a look at the room in question.

The previous tenants of my social housing flat were a couple who died of a drug overdose on the same night and weren't found for a few weeks. Turned out they were drug dealers and there was some suspicion they might have been deliberately targeted - the story even made the local papers/tv news.

I moved into the flat about a month after it happened. It took another 6 months for the smell to finally go away... I was fleeing a domestic violence situation and had no choice but to accept the first accommodation I was offered. The police kept a very visible eye on the building for the first few months I was here, to make sure I wasn't visited by their customers.

So no, in your scenario I wouldn't be put off.

I'm sorry about your dad that's very sad
I think if there had been a brutal murder that might put me off but not a natural death
My mum died at at home few months ago, but she was 82 frail ,and was disabled and had been ill for several weeks
She died peacefully in her sleep which is the way most of us want to die

My dad died in the house I grew up in and I lived there for several years afterwards. In my current house, the previous owner collapsed and died on the landing (he was very old) but neither puts me off.
If something like a murder took place it might put me off maybe.

No it wouldn't bother me at all. Three of my relatives died at home...it's not unusual. I imagine if a house is of a certain age, it's probably inevitable that someone died in it at some point. If someone took their own life, I'd find that very sad but it wouldn't put me off buying a house.

Murder may make me pause, but I'd probably still buy it if I liked it otherwise

My husband died peacefully in our home, having been nursed by me and our daughters for a couple of months. The room he died in is now mainly the playroom for my granddaughters. I'd be mildly annoyed if someone didn't buy this house because of a peaceful death 15 years ago.

Having said that, a friend of mine took her life with an overdose in her house a hundred yards from mine, 20 years ago, and I still can't walk past her house without thinking of the traumatic way she was found and the impact that had on her young family. There's no way I could live in that house or one with a similar history.

I might be being hypocritical, but for me there's a big difference between a peaceful death and a suicide with traumatic effects. I'd not be able to stop remembering and imagining that morning.

really wouldn’t bother me in general. Our house is 130 years old, people are bound to have died there

If it was a notorious murder venue I might be less willing. Mainly because of others morbid curiosity and nosiness than the events them self.

I live in an old house so am sure people have died in it. I also have an antique bed that was my grandmothers, she spent her final days in it and the bed is still used. This was many many years ago and obviously new mattresses over the years but it is a special piece of furniture,

@user8429706521 makes a really good point - houses will have seen births (and many, many other happy events too) as well as deaths.

I'm sorry to hear your sad story OP. Strangely the same thing happened in a house in our village. The widower continued to live in the house and eventually remarried. When he moved away my MIL bought it so she could be nearer us. It's a lovely house with no bad vibes at all.

At some point it will happen in all houses so probably not.

Probably not.

Unless a child had been murdered or similar.

Thanks for all the kind messages. Definitely a lot of mixed answers.
I live in Australia, the area we live in is relatively new ao the houses here are less than 5 years old.
My parents were the first tenants to move into the rental house since it had been built, not only did my mum not want to stay there after the tragedy but she also had no choice to leave as the rental price was almost $700aud PER WEEK! So she couldn't afford to pay it by herself as my dads bank accounts were frozen for a bit until the bank had confirmation of his death.

Very hard times indeed as its still so fresh for me also wondering what was going through his mind before he did it.

I’m sorry, @ExcellentMother — that’s incredibly hard.