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If you took early retirement, was it what you expected?

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Eastie77Returns · 25/02/2025 10:02

I’m mid 40s and not sure how much longer I can continue working or working FT. My job isn’t terrible by any means. It’s very well paid and there are lots of perks. But I’m just exhausted with it all. I work in the Tech industry. There are lots of new and exciting innovations I could/should be involved in at work but I cannot muster the energy. I manage a team of young direct reports and I worry my lack of enthusiasm is apparent to them (although most are based abroad so hopefully not). I wake up every day and semi dread the day ahead. I literally live for my annual leave and am only truly happy when I’m not in the office. I know this is the reality for millions and this isn’t a woe is me post. I’m lucky in many ways.

Anyway, I think it might be feasible for me to take early retirement in about 8 years when my youngest turns 18. I don’t think I’d be bored but was interested in hearing from anyone who retired in their 50s and what your experience has been? Any pitfalls? If most of you’re friends still work, have you found it challenging?

To answer questions re finances: my parents both died recently and left DC money in trust . It’s a decent amount and can be used for uni fees, a deposit on a flat etc (not in London!). I currently earn £130k, have a private pension and plan to sell and downsize when they leave home. I’ve inherited money from my parents and think if I’m frugal I will be able to manage. I could work PT if needed.

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pawstie · 25/02/2025 14:15

I retired aged 50, following a financial windfall. I had dcs aged 12 and 8, so I was still quite busy with them during school holidays and weekends. But I had more than enough to keep me busy during the week. An OU course, house renovations, art classes, swimming and gym, visiting gallery and museum exhibitions, going to the cinema and theatre, public lectures, guided and self-guided history walks. We are in London, 15 min to Soho so lots to keep me busy. We travel abroad with the dcs most school holidays.

DH still works occasional contracts so we do things together when he isn't working. I don't have many other friends who have free time in the day but I'm happy enough on my own, though it is nice to get to know regulars at the gym and in art classes.

Eastie77Returns · 25/02/2025 15:16

pawstie · 25/02/2025 14:15

I retired aged 50, following a financial windfall. I had dcs aged 12 and 8, so I was still quite busy with them during school holidays and weekends. But I had more than enough to keep me busy during the week. An OU course, house renovations, art classes, swimming and gym, visiting gallery and museum exhibitions, going to the cinema and theatre, public lectures, guided and self-guided history walks. We are in London, 15 min to Soho so lots to keep me busy. We travel abroad with the dcs most school holidays.

DH still works occasional contracts so we do things together when he isn't working. I don't have many other friends who have free time in the day but I'm happy enough on my own, though it is nice to get to know regulars at the gym and in art classes.

That sounds lovely:) Your situation sounds similar to mine in some ways. My DC are 11 & 9 and it’s hectic at the moment as they have so many hobbies.

I’m more than happy to spend time on my own as well and we are in London with lots to do. I’ve also had a substantial windfall but I think ultimately I will have to do some PT work eventually. I’m wary of spending too much as I don’t know how long I’ll live!

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Eastie77Returns · 25/02/2025 15:28

dreamingofsun · 25/02/2025 13:56

sounds like stress to me. surprised the doctor didnt pick up on it.

I think these symptoms would subside if I could just catch my breath and take some time out of work. At the moment juggling work, the kids and running the house is doing a number on me.

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MotherOfShihTzus · 25/02/2025 15:54

@Eastie77Returns as you and to take a sabbatical and see how it feels?

Eastie77Returns · 25/02/2025 16:32

MotherOfShihTzus · 25/02/2025 15:54

@Eastie77Returns as you and to take a sabbatical and see how it feels?

I asked about this a while ago and was told only our US office offers Sabbaticals, it’s not possible in the U.K. 🙄

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Ariela · 25/02/2025 22:31

Be warned! DH is busier now he's almost retired (works about 2days a month), says he has no idea how he found the time to work full time. Everyone rings you up to do non paying 'jobs'!

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