Opinions on what you'd gift or not gift at a wedding for evening only invite

[Opaljewel]

I would just like a general consensus please on what your opinion is on wedding gift giving if you are an evening do invite only.

I've only ever been to invited previously to the full day so I don't know if this changes things.

Do people going on the evening do expected to give as big a gift as the day do people, such as the same amout of money? Do any of you just take a card? Or do any of you show up empty handed?

Please don't berate me by asking this. I'm not saying I'm turning up empty handed, I just want to know what most people do. I am ND and I feel a bit stupid asking people this in person because it sounds like I'm being tight. I'm not, I just want to know what the social more polite way is.

BTW, I aren't upset to not being invited to the day do. There are a lot of people this person knows including a huge family. I'm just happy to be invited! However, I realise it may come across like that being asked. Am just covering all bases.

Many thanks!

The last wedding we went to we got a restaurant voucher. They had everything they need having lived together for 5 years so we gifted an experience.

Who would attend and make a PA dig instead of simply declining the invite? 😂

Just been to a wedding evening do and took them a card and bottle of champagne from a well know supermarket £23.00 ...I tied a big white fancy bow on it, they were over the moon

Probably just 50 quid for an evening do. But I wouldn't go. They're excruciating

Usually we'd give about £20/30 but I think a nice bottle of champagne would be appropriate as well. I wouldn't dream of turning up empty handed!

Of course, very rude to show up with just a card IMO. I’d give a nice bottle of champagne or a voucher for £20 per head.

I've been to a couple of evening dos recently - gave a gift value £50ish.

Well, I would. But t many people seem to regard wedding presents as a payment for their lunch, so opinions will vary.....

I recently got married and my evening guests’ gifts ranged from nothing to £80/£100 per couple. The latter I found overly generous.

But that isn't what that particular poster meant they think it's fine to turn up to a wedding with just a card, I think it's a passive aggressive dig at not being invited all day. I'm not sure what is so hilarious.

What do you mean stop making it about what they spend on me? I never said anything of the sort! 🤯

I was asking in general what was the polite thing to do/ what is the etiquette. I've had some helpful answers but that was a bit weird? I swear some people are deliberately obtuse. There are no hidden meanings behind my post. I'm ND, I'm used to being literal.

I made it clear that I aren't bothered that they only invited to the evening do. I already know the reasons but it doesn't matter to me either way. I'm happy to be invited.

I was being vague so I'm not outing myself.

I just wanted to get it right or least get an average on here to know what to do. I haven't been given a wedding gift list.

Thank you everyone else you've been really helpful. Thanks for the taking the time to answer. I have an idea of what is expected. :-)

£20 -30 and /or bottle of champagne.

I eloped and had a party after just an evening - and this is what most people gave us (bar family)

£30 John Lewis voucher or equivalent in a gift, but not one they are likely to have multiple of.

£20-£30 cash or giftcard. I have no problem being a "second tier guest" there are lots of people outside my immediate circle of friends and family who I'd be very happy to celebrate with as an evening guest and have done many times in the past.

I’d give £50 for an evening invite. If they’d asked for something specific say gift cards from a particular shop or had a gift list I’d spend up to £50

I give £50 per person (ie £50 for just me and £100 if DH as well) for a day invitation and half that for an evening invitation so £25 for just me and £50 for both of us.

For my wedding, the evening only guests such as work colleagues tended to give £10 in a card or a bottle of nice fizz. A few bought photo frames, that sort of thing .

We are going to one in a couple of weeks, a colleague of DH so I'm thinking of doing the same £10 or a bottle of fizz

I follow whatever invite says, but I don’t think I’ve ever bought a physical wedding gift for anyone. I always give cash, vouchers or contribution to a honeymoon fund. And we happily received zero physical wedding gifts at ours! I would give less for an evening invite - probably £20-£30 in cash or vouchers

I recently attended an engagement party and gifted two beautiful China mugs. The bride to be thanked me for not gifting a bottle of champagne as they had so many and didn't particularly like it! Buy a gift that has thought behind it, they will always look at that and know!
Something like this perhaps?

www.spode.co.uk/spode-pure-morris-bachelors-acorn-12fl-oz-mug-set-of-2

I take a card & bottle of champagne

Sorry but I don’t like those mugs and would have no use for them. I’m sure your couple loved them but I wouldn’t suggest giving a gift like that unless you know the couple very well and know that’s what they want. Champagne can at least be regifted or used at a party.

I definitely wouldn't want champagne, we don't drink it ourselves and aren't party throwing people so it would end up re-gifted. I don't like those mugs either but if you know your friend's taste in decor it's a reasonable gift.

I would take a card and a bottle of champagne (if they're drinkers). A card and £30-£50 depending on how close we are to the couple if they don't drink.

Evening only - £25 gift card if I know them well, bottle of wine if it's a making up numbers/ no gifts stated invite. Here it's common to get invited to weddings of neighbours/people locally we know at local pub but no food or drinks included, we are doing the same, open house sort of thing, you basically sponsor the music that night