I am sad for the number of stories I hear of teens being "typical teenagers" moody, withdrawn, hostile, etc.
I don't think this is typical teenager at all, but I do think a lot of parent child relationships break down badly in teen years and the seeds for that are sown many years earlier.
Some examples recently - asking a mum how often she tells her 16 year old that she love him - not in the last 10 years she says - ie not since before he was 6! So she says she can't start now, it would be weird. But it need not have been weird if he had grown up with it being normal.
Arguing about who gets teens over Easter and who gets the weekend "off" - why are parents saying this? Children hear and know - why not argue about who gets the privilege of weekend with the children?
Horrible things said, like menace to society, and waste of space, etc.
Please have conversations with your teens every day and tell them you love them. Please start when they are tiny and it will often just carry on naturally
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Talk to your children and teens and tell them you love them
opalsandcoffee · 29/03/2024 09:29
trackertoo · 29/03/2024 09:38
You don’t have any teens do you Op?
or indeed any children?
zaxxon · 29/03/2024 09:41
Mine would die of cringe if I started saying stuff like that.
I think there are other, more subtle ways of making them feel loved, which are just as good.
LipstickLil · 29/03/2024 09:33
I don't know anyone who talks like that and tbh I can't imagine being friends with anyone who does!
yummyscummymummy01 · 29/03/2024 09:48
I don't think withdrawn moody teenagers are anybody's fault. I was a nightmare teenager but my parents were there waiting for me when the hormones had blown over.
zaxxon · 29/03/2024 09:41
Mine would die of cringe if I started saying stuff like that.
I think there are other, more subtle ways of making them feel loved, which are just as good.
opalsandcoffee · 29/03/2024 09:39
yes, I have raised many, my own, and foster, and educated thousands!
trackertoo · 29/03/2024 09:38
You don’t have any teens do you Op?
or indeed any children?
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CornedBeef451 · 29/03/2024 09:43
I have DD15 and DS12. I do tell them I love them and hug them every day. We have lovely chats, make fun of each other (nicely) and actually have fun together.
I'm waiting for it to change, I figure at any moment either one could rebel and start mumbling so I'm making the most of it while I can!
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