I hope that is not directed at me, seeing you have no idea what my circumstances are.
I have compassion for people struggling, but recognise that poverty is usually temporary and strikes, for instance, when kids are young and you split up with someone, or are temporarily destitute, if you lose your job etc.
leaving health concerns and illness out of the picture, which is a different kettle of fish altogether, poverty in the uk tends to be a transient state for many.
there are opportunities to work, to lift yourself up eventually. It’s not easy but it can be done. Then another poor soul takes your place at the bottom of the pile as you have lifted yourself up.
it’s not fair, but it cannot be any other way. You might rage against the system, but it cannot be that people who are not contributing to the system (in terms of paying tax) receive anything but the bear minimum in order to just get by because there would be no incentive to work. It’s supposed to be uncomfortable so you get yourself out of it.
I have had no hand outs or financial help from anyone in my life. I arrived at my current home town penniless, and slept on a friends floor and started to work my way up from an admin job.
think of that for a moment. I was 21. I left my family home and my parents with a single bag. I got on a train. I travelled for five hours. I slept on a friends floor in an unknown town where I had no connections, no family and only one person. I took myself off the the job centre the next day and began work in an office making coffee for the boss for a wage that barely covered the rent for a room in a shared house with a load of strangers.
would you do that? To make a life for yourself?
i did not choose that moment to have kids or move in with an undeserving male to try and escape my plight. I sorted out my life, on my own, with no help.
That was 30 years ago and it’s been a struggle ever since, although you’d look at me and think I was privileged. Does that sound like a privileged start in life to you?
the thing is with me is that I never once thought that my impoverishment was anything other than circumstantial and that it came about through my own decision making and actions.
yes it’s hard when you have young kids and can’t work, but that’s where the dad comes in. He should be contributing and if he isn’t why not? He’s free to work in one of the hundreds of thousands of jobs that are currently open, and better himself. So you may say ‘he’s a feckless twat’. And I’d say, well don’t have kids with feckless twats then and expect life to be rosy.’
I’d then also say your kids will grow and then you can enter the job market. So start preparing for the time in which your circumstances can change.
Your fate is in your hands. You have to do it. There’s no escaping that. So excuse me for having an opinion on how to get by. But very few people have it easy and most of us have been terrified of the boiler breaking at some point.bits taken me to 50 to get a rainy day find in the bank so I no longer need to panic about those things. But Life, as they say, is suffering and the one thing that will make it less shit is your own personal drive. And things change along with your circumstances.