For most of my daughter's younger years I wouldn't say I was in poverty, but I was poor, she didn't go hungry and we had hot water and electricity for the essentials- because I didn't pay things like council tax and water bills instead, I prioritised feeding and clothing her and getting clothes clean (especially work and school uniforms) and travel costs to work. Getting the washing machine fixed, needing money to move yet again because the LL was selling up, new fridge (well second hand) when my other second hand one broke, buying uniforms (mine and hers - mine one tunic when starting for full time then but your own, certain trousers and shoes etc)
But clearly there still wasn't enough money to pay for everything, because some things just didn't get paid.
I'm still paying bits and pieces off now, and she's 20.
Was no picnic dealing with the bailiffs and debt either, but in all honesty it was preferable to a hungry and cold child in dirty clothes or losing my job because I couldn't afford to get there and I couldn't afford new uniform or to clean them to the required standard. People may criticise me for it but I did what I needed to do to survive. So avoiding poverty led to debt and when you don't have enough coming in, those are pretty much your choices. I also had family support too, which I'm eternally grateful for.
No holidays, no luxuries or extra experiences for her though or me, no iPhones or expensive gaming systems or streaming services. Just month to month survival.
I've climbed the ladder a bit, but the standard of surviving is pretty much the same now because everything has risen, I'm paying off those debts, and I'm supporting DD as an adult through university.
One good thing to come out of it all is she's at university, though had she gone to school hungry everyday, lived in a cold house, not had internet or a device (I only got broadband during COVID because she needed it for college) so she could do online college for her a levels for university, been dirty and in ill fitting clothes and shoes, she may well have not had the education she did and wouldn't have the opportunity she will when she leaves university, hopefully with a degree, to pursue a decent career and not be in the situation I was.
So I don't suppose looking at either of us then we'd have been considered in poverty, but the real story was very different.