How soon after the birth did your siblings visit your new baby?

[Bubbleandsqueak22]

I’m especially interested if they live fairly close by.

With my sister's kids I visited them either day of or day after they were born, according to when my sister was ready and happy for me to visit.

However now that she has kids I wouldn't necessarily expect her to be able to meet mine on the same kind of timescale, because she'd need to arrange childcare / may have specific commitments with the kids. So I'd expect it to be more like the next weekend.

Oh no, that's a lie. She and DM came and saw us in hospital. Maybe 24hrs after DD1 was born?

sil came to the hospital, so the same day. My brother lives further away so it was about a week or so. We also visited sil in hospital with her first and the next day at home with her second (we were looking after our nephew when she had her second).
With my brother’s kids it was about a week or so after the first 2 because they live 2 hours away so needed to go on a weekend. With his third it was covid so we had to wait months.

Next day, and helped me loads no pressure to host but were not a formal family people just put the kettle on and make for all

Thanks for the comments. I’m an only child and DH’s fam live across the pond so we have no experience of this. It’s my brother and his wife and they live 20 mins away. I’ve cancelled the opticians and I’m going to ask a friend to pick up the dc and give them tea, and I’ll go this evening.

First baby, one sibling that same evening, came with DPs, they all lived nearby. Other 2, can’t remember, both lived quite a distance away.

2nd, several months for all of them - we were an 8 hour flight away.

Dd2 has visited dd1 on the same evening after the birth of all 3 of hers. But dd1 was always happy for people to come and see the new baby and have a cuddle.

We visited each other the same day our babies were born, live fairly close by and we are super close.

Personally, I would have cancelled appointments to meet my new niece or nephew.

11 days, not local about 1.5hrs away.
It was the first weekend I was out of hospital.

For us it was the same day, in the hospital. We were there for a few days each time and it was nice to pass some time.

I had forceps and a postnatal infection, baby was jaundice and also had an infection. Some difficulties establishing feeding, but we welcomed family visitors in the hospital and couldn't wait to share our babies with them.

It also meant there was no rush once we got home as everyone close to us had already visited.

I think there is a balance. Some people, IMO, get on their high horse before they've even given birth and end up alienating those closest to them.

Some start sharing passive aggressive Facebook posts about giving new parents space etc and not wanting anyone to even breathe near their baby for months.

Some are happy for immediate visitors, some need a few days or couple of weeks to adjust.

It depends on the nature of the birth, the health of the new mother, the health of the baby and when they are discharged and have settled back at home.

Sister lives close, saw both on the day they were born. Husbands brother lives further away- saw first two days after their birth and the second three days after.

I wouldn't have felt comfortable having visitors to the hospital so was happy the hosp were only letting partners visit. They visited the day I got home from hosp though which I was perfectly happy with 😊 and I was the same when my niece was born.

You’re an only child and also have a brother?

I think you’ve done the right thing, I’d do the same. But have you checked they’re happy for a visit? Some people need a bit of time before visitors. My advice also is to offer to take supermarket sandwiches or a meal and to put the kettle on or do the washing up while you’re there: nice family pitching in things like that. They might not take you up on it but at least you’ll have asked.

The same day.

You're an only child with a brother?

My brother and DH's sister came to see DD the day she was born, at the hospital. I met my brothers DD when she came home from hospital (post covid visiting rules meant we couldn't go to the hospital) and I met my nephews (sister in laws kids) within days of birth).

I was also going to ask this how are you an only child with a sibling

DS2 is 2.3 now and has only met 2 out of 6 of mine and DH's siblings. He's due to meet the 3rd this week but only because they're travelling for another trip and calling in to us en route.

Ds1, when he was 2 weeks old and we were at my sister's for a rare all- family Christmas. Ds2, I genuinely have no idea. Brother lives in a different part of UK and I really don't remember when he first met ds2. DP's family much closer so they probably met the babies much sooner (DP's youngest brother turned up with his mum at the hospital while I was still feeling slightly compromised, we hadn't even gone up to the post labour ward and it was late late. No they didn't ask if it was ok to come. No I wasn't massively happy about it).

Agreed, but some new mums like the drama and have that streak in them.

Are you always paranoid people are against you? It’s not about you.

Maybe they’re worrying about struggling to establish breastfeeding or a bond and need time to start that, maybe they’re thinking they’ll feel too unwell to host after having just given birth.

(Or maybe you’re a shit visitor and it is about you.)