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Do you love your house?

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Goodnightjohnboy · 18/12/2021 22:07

Just that really, do you love your house or is it just a roof over your head? Has anything made you change the way you feel about it?

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FrazzledY9Parent · 18/12/2021 23:17

I made a list of all its good features and that did help a lot.

CatNamedEaster · 18/12/2021 23:18

Love mine. Not because of any aesthetics (needs shit loads of work) but because I have nice neighbours and it's a quiet area.

I've had neighbours from hell on several occasions resulting in mental health issues and financial loss so now, whenever I think I'd love a bigger garden or to be closer to the sea I remind myself that those things mean nothing compared to loving being at home and not dreading another horrible weekend.

HerRoyalNotness · 18/12/2021 23:20

It’s ok. I love our oak in the backyard. We came here with 2 small children, now we have three and they’re not so small, and feel we’ve outgrown it. Primary bath needs redoing and it needs a refresh, painting and such. Can’t afford to move though, but it does the job

PickAChew · 18/12/2021 23:21

Absolutely. It's damp and things keep breaking but it suits us well (including the fact that I'm damp and things keep breaking!)

It's not our 100% house, though. We can't afford our 100% house. Our 100% house wouldn't be much bigger but would be detached, have a utility room, have another bedroom, have a slightly bigger master bedroom and main bathroom and not be damp. Sadly, that house costs 3 times as much as ours and there's not many of them about in this part of the city (which isn't even the most expensive part of the city but has the amenities we wanted right on our doorstep)

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 18/12/2021 23:46

I like it. I love the area. I don't own my house and it needs some tlc but I'm trying my hardest to save and buy. That said I'd buy this house like a shot if the landlord sold but I know there is some damp that would need fixing.

userxx · 18/12/2021 23:57

@Bluebellbike Sounds perfect. I remember you from when you had your stroke, glad things have turned out well for you.

explodingeyes · 19/12/2021 00:03

75% We bought the location & space. I just need another £50k to make it perfect. And time. Neither we have.
I'd love my home if I had a cleaner m

SparkleWhale · 19/12/2021 00:05

I love my house.

Sure, it's not my dream house but it feels like home. Things feel right here. It's warm, safe, in a good location, has a driveway, it's full of my favourite things, my pets and my family etc.

I'd love more space but I love this house too. I don't think I'd ever want to leave it unless the PERFECT house came up (which is borderline impossible unless we build).

user1471548941 · 19/12/2021 00:12

With a passion! It’s a tiny one bed but completely unique with bags of character. Bought with an ex and then realised the relationship was doomed 6 months in. Had to move back to parents and assumed we’d have to sell.

Turned out there was a HUGE early repayment charge on the mortgage and I had to scramble about and tie myself in knots financially to buy him out (he only worked PT and told me he never liked the house anyway!).

The moment I walked back in the door, another 6 months later, with him moved out and my sole name on the mortgage. I knew it was home. I was skint for the next 18 months, am still fixing things (150 year old building) as an when I can afford things!

Five years on, I now have a wonderful fiance who has moved in and a cat! He volunteered to move here because he knew how much I loved it and it’s now OUR home.

Sometimes I think a bigger kitchen would be nice or a spare room but I don’t know if we’ll ever find a house that I love as much or am as proud of. Keeping this house is my greatest achievement, my smartest ever move and my strongest anchor. It shows me that I know I will always be okay on my own it ever happened. It was my port in a storm in some really hard times. I sit every evening in our unique lounge, with a huge christmas tree feeling grateful for my house and our little family.

MissCruellaDeVil · 19/12/2021 00:12

I love my current house but can't say I wouldn't move if I won the lottery. A house is only a home when you make it one.

Peanutmnm · 19/12/2021 00:20

Love it so much. But it's a gorgeous old farmhouse that we renovated and extended exactly how we wanted. It's just perfect and I feel a buzz every time I'm heading home from somewhere.

loveablequalities · 19/12/2021 00:20

Sort of. I love my history with it. I grew up in the house next door and as wee one I used to run over here to visit the old ladies who lived here. It's a quirky, queer wee place. Big windows. Amazing views.

But...

It's so damp. Mould on the carpets damp. And there's not enough bedrooms and the kitchen is so dark and it is IMPOSSIBLE to keep clean.

We're doing it up in the new year but I worry that it's good money after bad.

thickthighs73 · 19/12/2021 00:25

Yes and no, unfortunately due to mental health it is a chaotic mess and needs decorating, new flooring just about everything needs doing, but I count my self lucky to have a home.

TwistedOlivers · 19/12/2021 00:25

Indifferent with mine, been here 28 years, raised my DC and given it a full reno
Noisy neighbours on one side, any chance of a bit of sun and they're outside partying, and they're very loud
Just taken it off the market ready to go back on in March (been trying to move for the past 4 years but that's a different story) I've kept it bland for selling purposes, it's almost devoid of any colour and it really really depresses me.
I'm going to plant some flowers in the spring in pots for the garden it might make me feel a bit better but doubt it

noblegreenk · 19/12/2021 00:29

I do love my house. Its not perfect and could do with a new kitchen and bathroom but it's mine. I bought it with money I inherited from my mum. I always said that my mum was my home, so buying a house with my inheritance was somewhat fitting. It feels as though even though she's not here anymore, she's still providing me with protection and security.

Whadda · 19/12/2021 00:32

Utterly adore it.

Today, I caught myself absentmindedly gliding my hand along my kitchen countertop and smiling. Every morning I feed the fish in the garden pond and then stand on my tippy-toes so that I can just about see the roof of the nearest house which is not at all near. It’s bliss.

It’s big and spacious and bright and has loads of sockets and gadgets.

We bought it fairly recently so it’s not fully furnished yet so love finding random bits I love and having the space for them.

flamedancer · 19/12/2021 00:33

I privately Rent. I don't love the Decor but I love the house itself. I've been here nearly 11 years and wouldn't want to live anywhere else. I feel at home here. I dread the day my Landlord asks me to move on. I'd actually be devastated

GotToGoBye · 19/12/2021 00:35

Yes I love it. I can’t say it to people irl, it’s a materialistic and immodest, but my house is just lovely. I wish I worked less and spent more time in it.

BoudecaBains · 19/12/2021 00:38

Totally love our house. Spent the best part of 20 years and a fortune restoring it back to its early Victorian glory, complete with servants bells, butlers pantry and laundry. That said it costs a lot to heat and real effort and elbow grease to clean properly. We couldn’t possibly afford to buy it today.

Blue4YOU · 19/12/2021 00:47

No. I loved my last house. Had to move to a bungalow I order to adapt it for my disabled DD.
18 months later - still can’t get a fucking builder’s quote.
We have damp and old lady decor everywhere no space and I hate, hate, hate it

Ilovemycatsomuch · 19/12/2021 00:49

I love my flat. I feel very safe here. It does need a lot of work doing to it, which I'm getting through slowly.

My immediate neighbours are all lovely people.

There are a few problems here; a nearby neighbour in the block who smokes cannabis on his balcony and the smell blowing right into my flat. He's also just really really annoying!! Always talking to loud, singing and rapping, but he's completely tone deaf with no rhythm....I don't know why his friends don't tell him?!

Gilead · 19/12/2021 00:50

Escaped an abusive marriage. Love my house, my safe place. Amazing views, needs decorating in parts. If I won the lottery I wouldn’t move.

dontgobaconmyheart · 19/12/2021 02:01

No, not at all, though that sits alongside a very real gratitude that we own one. We upped sticks several hours from home to an area we didn't know, just to be able to buy as we were ultimately priced out of our respective home county.

There isn't anything about the house I would say I love, or even like. Not least because it's a fixer upper and theres no real budget now prices for trades have gone up and having had to fix most of the roof and a new boiler unexpectedly during lockdown.

In balance though, I know we're fortunate. If we had waited any longer we'd not be able to afford this at all now, prices have risen so much around here. Mortgage is less than we ever paid in rent, area is quiet and neighbours good. I wish I felt an attachment to it or anything about it but just don't, I have no motivation to decorate or try with it at all, it really isn't my style or sort of thing.

Corbally · 19/12/2021 02:37

It’s a big, Victorian wreck no one has loved for decades — it has lovely bones, though, and though we’ve only had it a year and are very early on in the renovation process, I feel affection for it.

Notdoingthis · 19/12/2021 03:00

Oh I love it so much I have to pinch myself to believe it is mine.
I was so unsure when we moved in. It is so ugly. Victorian but extended oddly. From the outside it looks poky but when you get in it is

  • spacious and light
  • has everything we need, mostly space
  • due to all the space I have achieved some childhood dreams and have bedrooms for each child, views, a fire, a piano, fish, cats, and a big garden with space for a campervan.
  • it is also close to town, work and school