I didn't think much of my modern Lego-block first house - especially the York stone cladding on the porch, which looked like it had been done by a weird amateur. But it was convenient for a young family, loads of kitchen worktop area, plenty of storage, good access to amenities without driving, secure enclosed garden... I found the good points and appreciated them. We made various changes to the property, most of which were in retrospect not particularly improvements!
What I'm saying, I suppose, was that I treated it as a learning experience. I found out what I do and don't like in a house, what are my absolute no-nos, what are my must-haves.
My second house was an old house. Damp problems, bitterly cold, noisy neighbours, but vastly spacious, lots of lovely original features, and best of all a different DH lol.
We're now in my third house - scruffy old Victorian cottage, living in a place I've wanted to be since I was a child. Lots of work to do on it, but bought outright and can afford to make changes. It's our forever home.
You'll find yours eventually, but until then, treat your home as a temporary training ground in deciding what you do want. Practise skills like decorating, organising storage areas, choosing furnishings, gardening etc. and make it the best it can be, for what it is.