Why do many people pretend to be blonde?

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Why is it that in the UK there seems to be quite a high proportion of people who ‘pretend’ to be blonde. I’m not talking about a brunette who has obviously dyed their hair blonde, I’m talking about people who deny using dye/highlights. Dyeing ones hair is okay! I have met several women in work who swear dead that they are naturally blonde, and don’t dye it, but I see the roots and the change every few weeks!

Is it because many were blonde as children and then it’s darkened?

I’m 51 awful
Dark brown hair with a bit of red. No greys yet, only dyed my hair in my teens, usually purple. Should I know dye my hair blonde? I’m not sure I have the time or the money

Maybe because natural blondes are seen as more desirable to men?
Anyone can dye their hair so being a natural blonde is a big thing I suppose.
I think I’ve only met a handful of natural blondes in my entire life tbh.

I'm always surprised by how much darker OTC hair dyes are than the titles they're given.
I have medium brown hair but a "medium brown" dye would turn my hair dark brown to black. A "dark brown" one a few years ago gave me the full Morticia Addams.

At the moment, I use Josh Wood "Deep mid-blonde" which I certainly wouldn't describe as actual blonde.

joshwoodcolour.com/products/permanent-colour-7-0-deep-mid-blonde

I can't help wondering how the OP manages to have so many conversations with women at work in which they deny dying their hair blonde.

How does the subject even come up?! I mean, does the OP just go over and say, "Hi, Susan, I notice you bleach your hair!"

I don’t think I’ve ever asked anyone if they’re naturally blonde, can’t say it’s ever been a great concern of mine. I might comment on liking a colour, but that’s as far as it would go. Couldn’t not care less if someone is naturally blonde so wouldn’t even ask, why is it bothering you.

My teenage best friend did this, I was astonished to meet her once, after a hairdressers appointment with brown hair, and it was blond again by the Monday.
She also said her contacts were not tinted, but as soon as she got them, her eyes became bright blue.
I saw the contacts, sometime later, at her house on a dish, in all of their bright blue loveliness.
I thought it rather strange behaviour, and a bit sad.

Blondeness is such a loaded thing, socially and culturally - and I think also very gendered. My DCs are mixed race, and DH's family always exclaim how 'blond' my DS is, despite DD2 having similar colouring, and - my (white British) family describe all three as brown-haired

I knew a girl at school who had naturally pale blonde hair (just a little darker than platinum ) and clear green eyes. Definitely natural,

Maybe because they actually don't dye their hair & do have natural highlights 🤷‍♀️

I've been accused of this & even accused of highlighting DDs hair when she was younger, we just have hair that lightens very easily in the sun, even with dark roots

You work with some unusual women, I've never met anyone who pretends to be blonde. If they say they are blonde I'd assume they are, maybe just a darker shade than they colour it.

Why do you even ask them?

They were blonde until their teens and then it went brown and they immediately dyed it blonde so they fee like being blonde is a part of their identity. Usually the case

My mother was a natural strawberry blonde, as they used to call it, and never went properly grey even at 90+ - it just faded to a sort of greyish mouse.

At one point when she was in her 70s and her hair was still a lovely colour, a neighbour refused to speak to her because according to her, it had to be dyed and she wouldn't admit it!

I think it is mostly because they get gradually darker over the years and either didn’t really notice or are used to saying they are blonde or because they don’t really see how dark their hair is now.

I naturally have mid-dark blonde hair. But it massively lightens in the sun so if left natural, in winter I look like I have a couple of inches re-growth. I have it highlighted now to even it out (and cover the grey)! I would never deny having highlights (and will often say if I’ve just had them done) but I am still naturally blonde. I suppose if questioned I would say natural blonde but with highlights.

@yoursworried it's the Paul McCartney, Joan Collins look in referring to when the brown looks really odd with their older skin tone. That's what I meant as people get older a lighter look tends to be more flattering but that's my opinion! I've nothing against brown hair!

I think a lot of you g women still due their hair. Take a look on tv at programmes such as live island. I know they are a small example but the women on there look like they have a lot of fake body parts, from lip fillers to take tan to bleached hair.

Wrong post 🤦🏼‍♀️

It’s a great question !

I have wondered this before but never come up with an answer !

My hair when i was a child was a dark blonde but I've been dying it since I was 11 (purple or red until I was 17) then a light brown. My roots come in fairly dark now but my body hair and natural hair colour is blonde.

I'm a greying brunette turned blonde with the help of bleach.

If I'm asked what colour hair I've got it say blonde, because that's what it looks like. I'm not telling find. If I dyed my hair red and asked me what colour hair I had it say red.

If you asked me what my natural colour was I'd say greying flat brown.

My childhood colour was wild rodent. Started having highlights a couple of times a year from 16. Such an improvement. Am olive skinned and tan v easily; and brown eyed but body hair is fair as are eyebrows, such as they are.

Highlights have increased in frequency since my late 40s. Now see hairdresser every 6 weeks and she puts in three colours, blonde, gold and a caramelly colour. Front is white now underneath. It gets lighter year on year.

DH is blonde. DS is dark blonde grren eyex and olive. DD is blonde and blue eyed like dh but tans lightly without freckles.. DD has highlights and they brighten.

I am rising 60, nobody comments I spend a lot on my hair but feel it helps maintain a full on career

I’m the opposite. I have white hair, and even with roots people ask if it’s my natural hair colour - mostly, but not always men. I’m actually astounded people could be so blatantly stupid. I am essentially a peroxide bottle with arms.

Why do so many women pretend to be young & dye their hair?
Serious Question. I give up trying to understand the worship of youth... I look around meetings & every woman my age has fake colour hair. It's kind of creepy. FGS. It's ok to look your actual age.

None of the men at work have obviously fake hair.