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Daughter doesn't look after her rabbit. Best way to rehome?

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TheodoraLily · 24/09/2018 18:53

Hi my daughter is 12 and doesn't look after her rabbit. She has even got to the point of lying and saying she has changed water/fed when she hasn't. The poor rabbit never comes out of his hutch.

Best way to rehome?

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SandunesAndRainclouds · 25/09/2018 12:38

There’s some crap advice out there about rabbit hutches - something along the lines of as long as they’re big enough for 3 hops they’re suitable Angry

My lovely boy had a huge run and a large pen that went onto the grass, he could certainly sprint!! Laid out long, standing up tall on his back legs. No way are the hutches sold in PAH big enough Sad

mypointofview · 25/09/2018 13:00

I can't believe that she's shirking her responsibilities and your response is to take her responsibilities away.

MAKE her do it. Otherwise what message are you sending her?

mypointofview · 25/09/2018 13:01

If I had a fiver for the number of times I say 'You wanted a pet' in tones of great finality.

It's character building. Consequences, consequences, consequences.

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ToadOfSadness · 25/09/2018 13:08

If you are near NAWT they take small animals (and big ones).

www.nawt.org.uk/

Spreadingcudweed · 25/09/2018 13:09

[[https://rabbitwelfare.co.uk/rabbit-housing/why-hutch-not-enough/
why a hutch is not enough]].

NB the size recommendation at the end of 10 ft X 3 ft X 6 ft is a MINIMUM!!!

And fwiw, and for any potential rabbit owners reading this thread, I don't think rabbits are exceptionally hard work to look after IF they are in the right environment. Mine had a room of their own where they pooed in a large cat litter tray (easy to clean) with voluntary access to safe outdoor area. They tended to go out at dawn and dusk and bink about and occasionally deigned to join me for lunch in the garden Smile. But they have to have the right diet, fruit branches to chew on, and plenty of exercise.

sheldonesque · 25/09/2018 13:22

Depressing, infuriating and shameful.

YOU have a duty to care properly for that poor rabbit or you need to hand it to someone who will.

And your daughter? You are not teaching her well and the message you are giving her that animals are disposable is a disgrace. You both should be ashamed Sad

Satsumaeater · 25/09/2018 13:33

It's a rabbit hutch, for rabbits

Rabbits should have loads of time to roam around a garden (or a house if they are a house bunny). They will go stir crazy if they're in a cage all the time.

Satsumaeater · 25/09/2018 13:34

I can't believe that she's shirking her responsibilities and your response is to take her responsibilities away

I think it's in the rabbit's interests to have a new loving home. Rather than being with someone who is bored with it.

I'd have him OP but there are too many cats and foxes where I live.

sonlypuppyfat · 25/09/2018 13:38

My 13 yr old DD plays with her rabbit for hours most nights. He is the funniest little animal , interested in everything, lots of fun. If a rabbit is just left in a hutch he's not going to be much fun is he?

mypointofview · 25/09/2018 13:41

Satsumaeater
I would MAKE my DD provide a home that it was in the rabbit's best interests to stay in. The rabbit doesn't have to know she's bored of it. She may very well not be bored of it soon if she's forced to look after it. You become what you do.

AnotherOriginalUsername · 25/09/2018 16:00

Trouble is mypointofview, the daughter doesn't stand a chance if this is the mother's attitude

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 25/09/2018 16:09

And this is why I never indulged my DS in pets like rabbits, hamsters etc, because I knew I would get left doing it....but if I had given in I would have done it no question and not left the poor bloody animal to fester. Seriously, this boils my piss.

And what consquences is your DD going to suffer......she'll be sad when her rabbit goes so you'll buy her a hamster to make up for it.

How on earth is it fair to make a rabbit live in that small bloody hutch, where is his run, does he have the run of the house at all? Seriously, why the fuck do people listen to staff at places like Pets at Home, what's wrong with doing your own research - boggles my fucking brain.

ffs Op, rehome your poor bunny as soon as possible but before that take some bloody responsibility and look after the poor thing. Jesus wept!

mypointofview · 25/09/2018 16:13

I don't understand how people can have such a disposable attitude to animals. When you buy an animal (with the possible exception of a working animal but the responsibilities are the same) you're taking responsibility for its whole life.

The OP seems to see the rabbit as an outgrown sweater or a bit of Christmas tat that never got played with.

helpbeforeimelt · 25/09/2018 16:23

The only animals I ever bought specifically for my dc were a hamster each and when they passed on they were not replaced due to it being me mostly that changed cleaned out and fed and handled them. We rescued a rabbit from a shelter as a family and although the older two dc got bored the youngest didn't and we looked after said rabbit between us till she passed on.

We have dogs that were and are family pets not just for dc or adults alike.
The adults are responsible for walking times but the dc come with us. The dc feed them when I ask and groom them.

Don't buy pets for dc unless you know you are happy to take on the care and responsibility.

whatsbesthmm · 25/09/2018 16:26

Keep thinking of the poor rabbit from this thread every time my rabbit has come out to play today. I really hope the op has felt guilty and decided what to do and hasn't just chucked some food at it.

Nesssie · 25/09/2018 16:35

@TheodoraLily

What size/age is your rabbit? and is he neutered? I am looking for a male as company for my girl after her sister died earlier this year.

tapdancingmum · 25/09/2018 16:37

I do think OP has been given a roasting on here to what she believed was a genuine question. But, it makes me infuriated that people buy pets for children which ultimately they lose interest in and the animals need rehoming. But (another but) at least she realises that she can't look after it and is asking how to re-home it responsibly. That's if she listens to the advice.

We have hamsters and started with one bought from a local pet store (not P&H) after taking lots of advice from people who keep them. We also made sure our DD was 14 before she had them and knew they were her responsibility. Since then we have had 3 hamsters from babies and at least 12 rescues. Not at the same time, we've only had a maximum of 7 at any one time. Each in their own huge cage with lots of toys and a room that is hamster proof for the bigger ones to exercise in. It takes her 3 hours a night to get them all done! In fact we are rescuing another one on Saturday after we lost my little one yesterday.

Children and pets do not mix if the parents expect them to look after them.

(I have paragraphs on my phone 😀)

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 25/09/2018 16:48

Tapdancingmum - it's not that she CAN'T look after the rabbit properly, it's that she genuinely thinks that because she feeds it, it is aceptable that the poor thing is stuck in the hutch all day. So it's not that she can't look after it, it's because she doesn't want to be bothered. Any roasting she has had is rightly deserved.

BackToTheFuschia7 · 25/09/2018 17:12

This thread is so depressing. Please do rehome the rabbit asap.

TheFairyCaravan · 25/09/2018 17:26

I think places like P@H should be banned. They know they’re selling animals to people who are buying them because their kids are bored and think it’s cute. They are perfectly aware that the cages they sell are far too small then when the kids have had enough they have the poor animal back, shove it in the corner and offer it up for adoption.

Threads like this irk me so much. Animals are never “just a..” but rabbits, guinea pigs, hamsters etc are on here because they are small had relatively cheap. People would have a second arse hole torn if they posted about dogs and cats like this.

Notsohorriblehistory · 25/09/2018 17:39

**mypointofview

I can't believe that she's shirking her responsibilities and your response is to take her responsibilities away.**

MAKE her do it. Otherwise what message are you sending her?

That approach would work for something inanimate. For example, tidying up her bedroom.

It most certainly shouldn’t be the approach when we are talking about something living.

daytimemom · 25/09/2018 17:55

I agree that rabbits should never be bought as pets. They are a wild animal ffs & classed at my vets as “exotic animals”. Pets at Home should be banned from breeding and selling them. As a wild animal I have never understood why it is considered acceptable to buy one and stick it in a tiny hutch. As far as I’m concerned no hutch is ever big enough.

I’m in the same position as the OP. We actually adopted a rabbit from my cousin. The rabbits were stuck in a tiny cage all day & my cousins children who they had been bought for took no interest in them. It was a mistake. A mistake I live with every day.

My adopted rabbits live in a large shed. They have lots of toys, fresh hay & vegetables and the run of the shed. They have a huge run which we put them in when the weathers nice.

They are such hard work. They kept digging their way out of the run, dug huge holes in my garden, ate all my plants, escaped into my neighbours garden after digging a hole under the fence. They now have to have their run on concrete which means we can no longer use our garden furniture as the rabbits have taken over our patio area.

They require constant mucking out & I’m sick of having to do it in all weathers, I have to replenish their food and water twice a day. It’s no fun doing this at 6 in the morning before work.

I give them as good a life as I can but I wish I hadn’t listened to my dad begging me to take them. Even going on holiday is difficult now, not many people want to come round & look after them cleaning up the constant mess they make.

I’m trying to rehire them. Even though they have a nice life I can’t stand seeing them caged up even if that cage is a shed. They should be ruining free and digging burrows. They are on a waiting list to go to a farm where they would live with other rabbits in barns with safe enclosed access to fields. That is the life they should have.

Sorry for essay!

Noodge · 25/09/2018 17:55

thefairy
Totally agree. hope I live to see that day.

daytimemom · 25/09/2018 17:57

Sorry for typos rehire = rehome

mypointofview · 25/09/2018 18:06

Notsohorriblehistory

Hmmm. I make my DDs look after their little siblings sometimes. Not in a 'Mummy's being lazy' kind of way but to teach them how to show love: 'Ask them about their toy. Now smile. Look them in the eye.' Real micromanaging but they need to develop those skills and when they see the results, they get the point and want to do it more. Same with rabbits, I think.

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